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Here is my situation and hopefully you can give me some advice. I was introduced to this female teacher by a friend of mine at a network mixer. Well we briefly talked at the mixer and kept it in a friendly manner. I asked my friend the next day if I can get her email so I can keep in contact with her. To cut it short , I ended up getting in contact with her and we went out.
Well our first date was great and everything. She even text me the next morning after our first date and said that she had a great time and will like to go out again. Well after that day, she left to Florida for vacation (1 week) to visit her family and I didn't hear from her when she got back into town. So since she showed some interest in me, I called her and we talked some more. We have gone out about 4 times since our first date but there hasn't been any physical affection
Another thing is that she doesn't call me at all but will text me once in a while to see how I was doing. To me, it shows that she is not interested in a "love" relationship and I am fine with it. But then last night, I was talking to her that I had taken a trip to San Antonio last month. She was like "I love San Antonio!!!" "How about WE go for the weekend to San Antonio?" Why would she invite me to weekend trip by ourselves to another city, if we don't know each other at that level nor she shows love interest?
I haven't read other responses, I'll just give you my initial thoughts:
She's taking it slow. I think there's interest, but for whatever reason this girl is doing one of a couple things:
1. She just doesn't want to rush anything, she wants to see if there's really something there, she's comfortable with her life and she doesn't feel the need to rush into anything, but she does like you. You just may not be her #1 priority right now.
2. She might be undecided. Meaning one day she's interested, the next day she's not. No way to tell if this is the case really until it's too late, but if you can smell that this is the situation then try to get out quickly.
3. She's got other options. She probably has interest, but maybe she's met someone else and is taking it slow with them as well. She has this right, she owes you nothing but honesty at this point. She doesn't have to announce these personal things about her life, but if you do have the right to ask where this is going and if she's seeing others. You DONT have the right to tell her what to do, but you can ask for honesty.
I take the no physical aspect of this situation to be a potential blessing in disguise. Either you haven't manned up and gone in for the kiss (which I try to do by the 2nd date at the very latest) because it's the only true card you can play that allows you to make her play all hers. If she kisses you there's a chance, if she turns her head or denies in some way there's no interest and you should run. You need to lay the kiss on to find out quick. Assuming things don't go beyond that, waiting is good, it means she's cherishing the moment and you both will appreciate waiting if it does work out, because you both will be anticipating it and it will mean a lot more when you finally do.
Bottom line: try to lay the kiss on next time, but take it slow from then on and just play it cool. Do NOT ask her where you stand or to be in a relationship...unless you're trying to get rid of her or scare her away.
I haven't read other responses, I'll just give you my initial thoughts:
She's taking it slow. I think there's interest, but for whatever reason this girl is doing one of a couple things:
1. She just doesn't want to rush anything, she wants to see if there's really something there, she's comfortable with her life and she doesn't feel the need to rush into anything, but she does like you. You just may not be her #1 priority right now.
2. She might be undecided. Meaning one day she's interested, the next day she's not. No way to tell if this is the case really until it's too late, but if you can smell that this is the situation then try to get out quickly.
3. She's got other options. She probably has interest, but maybe she's met someone else and is taking it slow with them as well. She has this right, she owes you nothing but honesty at this point. She doesn't have to announce these personal things about her life, but if you do have the right to ask where this is going and if she's seeing others. You DONT have the right to tell her what to do, but you can ask for honesty.
I take the no physical aspect of this situation to be a potential blessing in disguise. Either you haven't manned up and gone in for the kiss (which I try to do by the 2nd date at the very latest) because it's the only true card you can play that allows you to make her play all hers. If she kisses you there's a chance, if she turns her head or denies in some way there's no interest and you should run. You need to lay the kiss on to find out quick. Assuming things don't go beyond that, waiting is good, it means she's cherishing the moment and you both will appreciate waiting if it does work out, because you both will be anticipating it and it will mean a lot more when you finally do.
Bottom line: try to lay the kiss on next time, but take it slow from then on and just play it cool. Do NOT ask her where you stand or to be in a relationship...unless you're trying to get rid of her or scare her away.
I just read the whole thread responses, and it looks like I'm not too far off from what others are advising. Lay the kiss on, be a man. What's the WORST thing that happens? She turns away? Guess what, if she turns away you just figured her out and you know not to ever call her again. It'll take this whole stress off of you knowing you don't have to worry about what she thinks. From the looks of what you're saying about your situation, I think she WANTS you to kiss her but you're being a vag about it. Quit worrying about what she wants, what do you want? You want to KNOW what the hell is going on with this girl, you do that by layin the lips on.
If it's any consolation, I'm in the same boat. But we've only been out twice where I got quick hugs. She calls me from time to time, but I'm hard on myself about not making a move yet. Next date is her at my place watching a movie, you'd better be damn sure I'm layin it on then, because if she's not into me I want to know RIGHT NOW.
I just read the whole thread responses, and it looks like I'm not too far off from what others are advising. Lay the kiss on, be a man. What's the WORST thing that happens? She turns away? Guess what, if she turns away you just figured her out and you know not to ever call her again. It'll take this whole stress off of you knowing you don't have to worry about what she thinks. From the looks of what you're saying about your situation, I think she WANTS you to kiss her but you're being a vag about it. Quit worrying about what she wants, what do you want? You want to KNOW what the hell is going on with this girl, you do that by layin the lips on.
If it's any consolation, I'm in the same boat. But we've only been out twice where I got quick hugs. She calls me from time to time, but I'm hard on myself about not making a move yet. Next date is her at my place watching a movie, you'd better be damn sure I'm layin it on then, because if she's not into me I want to know RIGHT NOW.
Yes, I will make my move in San Antonio. At least I can say that I tried even if I get turned down. Thanks everybody for your advice!
What kind of attitude is that to be going into battle with?? Either do the thing right or let some other horndog have her e-mail address. You need some confidence building before we give you anymore advice on 'moves'.
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