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I'm so sorry you are going through this. Some qestions to think about:
1. When you look ahead 5 years, do you see the two of you together?
2. with him being faithful?
3. with you being happy together
You're going to have a full year of single-parenting and of basically living as a single woman. Don't be looking for other men during this time (that would just compound the issues), but do use the time to see whether the "absence makes your heart grow fonder" (or his) or whether "out of sight, out of mind" is the rule operating for you. Good luck with your decision.
He may be a great father, but he is a lousy husband. And if he's overseas for a yr.....what do you think he'll be doing then, seriously? I mean, if he could cheat on you while you're living together, what's going to stop him when he's so far away, and you have no clue where he is or what he's doing?
He may be a great father, but he is a lousy husband. And if he's overseas for a yr.....what do you think he'll be doing then, seriously? I mean, if he could cheat on you while you're living together, what's going to stop him when he's so far away, and you have no clue where he is or what he's doing?
It must really be tough to be in this situation but I agree with those who have said that you should leave him. If you wait through all of the time that he'll be gone you'll just be postponing the inevitable instead of getting on with your life. Good luck.
Leave. Don't know why it's even a question. The guy neither respects you nor has any consideration for your feelings. He has no abiding loyalty to your family, including your newborn. I am so sorry, but there's nothing to stay here for.
If your husband will be gone for a year, why not wait until he returns?
You may really want to be his 'wife' while he is serving out of the country.
In the mean time, prepare yourself for life without him. Save all that you can so that you will be ready to be self supportive for you and your baby.
Why would you want to go after the other woman? She could only go as far as your husband allowed her. Why be a part in destroying another family?
You're marriage may indeed be doomed, but since he is leaving for a year anyway why not put the decision off till either he gets back or the distance and time away from you brings about a changing of his heart and ways?
To the above:
Oh freaking nuts. What kind of bleeding heart answer is that? Get real!
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Originally Posted by blondiel
If your husband will be gone for a year, why not wait until he returns?
You may really want to be his 'wife' while he is serving out of the country.
In the mean time, prepare yourself for life without him. Save all that you can so that you will be ready to be self supportive for you and your baby.
Why would you want to go after the other woman? She could only go as far as your husband allowed her. Why be a part in destroying another family?
Above: Another bleeding heart answer. What the heck is that all about?
Get into reality! Didn't you read her post? He's a compulsive screw arounder!
Not an oh, lets fix this baby kind of crap. He doesn't give a rats ass about his wife.
To the above:
Oh freaking nuts. What kind of bleeding heart answer is that? Get real!
Above: Another bleeding heart answer. What the heck is that all about?
Get into reality! Didn't you read her post? He's a compulsive screw arounder!
Not an oh, lets fix this baby kind of crap. He doesn't give a rats ass about his wife.
It's got nothin' to do with a bleeding heart. She can always leave him, always start her life without him. Whereas, if she leaves him now, even divorces him, there will be no going back. There are kids involved here. Kids that as it may turn out will be better off without the father, but maybe not. By the way, I'm not convinced that a guy who is probably very young, probably going through changes, because (A) he's a new father, and (B) he is probably going to be deployed, can't change.
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Get real?! Get smart!
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