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Yes in that your right, i should have asked, if i would have known it would cause such a big argument, i would have asked, and i told her the same, i told her we need to communicate, i cant read your mind!
Yes in that your right, i should have asked, if i would have known it would cause such a big argument, i would have asked, and i told her the same, i told her we need to communicate, i cant read your mind!
Either that or at the minimum wait for her to actually put the movie on.
-You want direct nags
or
-to just pay attention a little more to other cues that she gives off.
There is some truth to this. I think as men you guys need to work on trying to anticipate needs, or pay attention to what us women say, or you will get a nag and nobody will be happy.
So...for example...ok, so she wanted you to help her out. That's a fair argument on your part that you had no way of knowing this is what she wanted. So you argued about it. Now...can we take this argument and do something with it to strengthen your relationship?
LISTEN to her and don't repeat it next time. I guarantee that if you learn from what caused the argument, and you don't repeat it, you will have one happy woman. So next time she's carrying something, go get it for her. Just do it. Even if it's not that heavy. And see what happens. And do it every time from now on.
Will there be other things she'd like you to have known, but you didn't? Sure. Will you argue about it? Sure. But when you know what those things are, don't repeat and make her ask again.
Relationships are all about meeting the needs of the two people involved. In your defense, make sure you let her know that you can meet her needs more easily if she tells you directly what she would like the FIRST time around. Because it is YOUR need that you be told directly what she would like you to do. And it is HER job to meet that need for you as well.
But after that, make sure she can trust that she doesn't have to tell you anymore. Hope this helps.
No my wife dont do everything, she swears she does, but i throw out the trash, wash the cars, make breakfast every sunday for all my family, i dont do laundry and the dishes. The reason i dont is because last time i l cleaned all the kitchen for her, she complained that i didnt do the dishes right, do since then, i dont wash them! I PICK up the house every morning before i go to work, i dont dust or mop, but i leave it tidy, she cleans on sundays.
When nothing suits sometimes it is best to let them do it themselves. It makes them happier in the long run not to have to redue it or have it not done to their satisfaction. You got me buddy! When you figure them out let us all know!LOL......
Instead of being "like ok cool" when she says she's going to do laundry, you should ask her if she wants help instead of sitting on the couch. Do that anytime she tells you she has to do something around the house and it will save you much grief.
Ta-Da
Hi spinx,
My guess is, no it won't. I expect a dark streak of evil rising from the eons of our past as she begins to loath the weak, supplicant man who asks her for the 50th time on a Saturday if she need help.
NO LOL, i dont ask her to, but if i need help i ask her, i dont expect for her just to start helping for the sheer joy of it!
You think she was doing laundry out of joy???? Or that she is doing any of the other household chores out of joy? She isn't doing it out of joy and she isn't expecting you to feel joy when helping either. But the work needs to be done, and you are equally responsible for the duties of the household and the family.
And half-assed work just so you can claim you've done your share doesn't count. You wouldn't appreciate her folding your dirty laundry and putting it back in the closet, would you? So don't expect her to appreciate your half-baked contributions either.
No my wife dont do everything, she swears she does, but i throw out the trash, wash the cars, make breakfast every sunday for all my family, i dont do laundry and the dishes. The reason i dont is because last time i l cleaned all the kitchen for her, she complained that i didnt do the dishes right, do since then, i dont wash them! I PICK up the house every morning before i go to work, i dont dust or mop, but i leave it tidy, she cleans on sundays.
Sounds like you are a victim of "dude clean" lashings!
Did you say "ok" or did you ask her how to do it the "right way"
Women like playing games. I enjoy cooking and baking bread as a hobby . I noticed my wife doing less and less the more I do, so I'll cut back and find another hobby.
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