Women explain this to me......

[dave nz]

Originally Posted by CESpeed

And I'm going to add: if this is a genuine question, I find it incredibly scary that basic common sense wouldn't tell you that there is difference between being raped and a rape fantasy.

Read again I said I don't fully understand it, of course I understand the difference........ just not 100%, maybe 80%. But with decent posts like in this thread, that # has gone up.

[gwynedd1]

The short answer is it comes from two different parts of the brain. Its a hard wire vs the rational mind. I have asked girlfriends about this. Think of being on a diet while desiring chocolate cake. It is also extremely contextual. It cannot just be any man. I also doubt many women will have straight answers about it. If a high value male is around, the species may decide to commandeer the female body. An individual's needs may just be insignificant in cases where a prince rides by once a year.

Men will have the same issues with the odd hard wiring in their brain that makes little conscious sense. I doubt many men will make much sense with this as well. I have my theory on cuckold fantasy . Male competition will cause the male sex drive to react sexually. Even as much as a man hates the idea of someone else doing his wife, it will cause sexual arousal because he needs to compete with sperm. The mind answers with horror. The sex drive answers with sexual arousal. Its all designed to do one thing and that is to populate.

[Djuna]

Originally Posted by dave nz

Thanks to all except Djuna. Good answers and has given me a better understanding already. I have had zero dealings with rape in my life, so am the first to admit my knowledge is lacking in this area. Have I had contact with women that have been effected? I'm sure I probably have, but its just not talked about openly. Perfect topic for the anoynomous nature of a forum I would have thought.

I assume men have a clue...obviously all the other women answering assume you don't.