MEN: Which do you prefer? (marriages, girl, cheat, older)

[singleguy]

Originally Posted by CESpeed

If you've spent anytime reading these threads you would know that at least on C-D, a good number of men have made the representation that for them sex is the end all and be all of existence. There are many posts where men write if they are not having sex by the third date they will stop seeing that person so I can understand why the OP would pose this question.

Imho, younger guys are not looking to be tied down and they would prefer wild sex with a stranger to good sex with someone they love because they aren't looking for love.

When a person becomes more of the frame of mind of settling down (and become more mature hopefully), that's when they'll settle for "good sex".

You make wanting to settle down seem synonymous with being more mature. The older and more mature I've gotten the less I've wanted to settle down. When I was immature I actually believed Oprah and thought relationships went bad because of men. As I got more mature I realised that there are a lot of problems with women and the mature thing is not to rush into anything.

I also think its mature not to have any regrets when you settle down. If you wish to have certain experiences that you can't have when you're married to me it seems like the mature thing is to do them now instead of ruining your marriage later.

Anyway where I live is filled with a bunch of mature people my age that got married 10 yrs ago. They're all divorced with kids sitting at home with babysitters... while they go out for wild sex with strangers. Thanks, but no thanks. I'll stay immature.

[singleguy]

Originally Posted by CESpeed

If you've spent anytime reading these threads you would know that at least on C-D, a good number of men have made the representation that for them sex is the end all and be all of existence. There are many posts where men write if they are not having sex by the third date they will stop seeing that person so I can understand why the OP would pose this question.

What?! Are you serious? If I say we must be having sex by the third date or we're finished you equate that with I'm going to sleep around on you if we are in a committeed relationship and having good sex. How do you girls come to these conclusions? Are you a producer for Oprah?

2 out of three of my last long term relationships started with sex on the first night. The other long term relationship the sex was on the third date for logistical reasons. I never cheated on any of them. And I had serious conversations with all three of them about marriage eventually. These girls were better looking than anyone on this forum bar none. Two of them made a redonkulous amount of money. That's the kind of girl you bed down on the first date and when she says marriage you say yes ma'am! That's why I say define good sex life. If you mean daily sex with a hot chick that makes a solid six figure salary who wants to get married then I say only a crazy person would cheat. If the girl is a school counselor and somewhat less attractive... well, individual experiences may vary.

[Redisca]

Originally Posted by singleguy

These girls were better looking than anyone on this forum bar none.

You haven't seen everyone on this forum; and it's a subjective matter anyway. Here is what I propose: We, the great unwashed, will check for loose change under our sofa cushions and get you a very nice-looking framed certificate stating we acknowledge that you are a stud. In exchange, you stop gratuitously insulting people on this forum. Deal?

[Northside904]

I echo what 2Rugged said, I'll take wild sex with someone that's crazy about me and vice versa.

[singleguy]

Originally Posted by Redisca

You haven't seen everyone on this forum; and it's a subjective matter anyway. Here is what I propose: We, the great unwashed, will check for loose change under our sofa cushions and get you a very nice-looking framed certificate stating we acknowledge that you are a stud. In exchange, you stop gratuitously insulting people on this forum. Deal?

It was hyperbole. Didn't mean to put you down. It wasn't anything personal. Probably should have phrased it differently.

I most certainly am not a stud. What are you talking about? Did you read the post. I said that if anyone of these women were open to marriage I would be too. Studs don't sit around hoping women will be open to marriage. That's what guys that feel they are lucky to be with a woman do. Please read all my posts in their entirety. As I stated in my previous posts we do not engage in the type of ridiculous behavior the OP mentioned because we don't even get the opportunity. How does that make me a stud exactly?

My point was people have different speeds when it comes to relationships. These women could have their pick of men. They weren't desperate and neither was I. We just happened to know what we wanted. We didn't set an arbitray date count before we had sex. That doesn't mean we were going to start cheating on each other and looking for "wild sex with strangers." We were serious about monogomous long term relationships.

[Dub D]

It really comes down to what I am looking for at the moment. I spent YEARS perfectly fine with the first option. Started getting tired of it and found a great girl. Kinda ruined things with her but we are slowly working back into a relationship...hopefully. So for right now, I would love to spend quality time with her but I love her so yea.

[desertsun41]

Once ya get over 50, just finding a woman who wants, let alone likes sex is a challenge in itself and seems to be quite rare. So if a man is lucky enough to be rich enough and maybe even good looking enough to attract a younger woman the sex will usually be of the wild variety.

I suspect I'm going to get some flack over this from the over 50 female crowd.

[Dorrans]

Originally Posted by CESpeed

I don't think that men's feeling are completely irrelevant, it's just that we women are programmed to believe that men are ALWAYS ready for sex, so it's never a matter of "if" but "when". It comes as a surprise to meet a man who says "no", especially if it's because he actually wants to get to know a girl.

Mature respectful women would respect men and their decision on when they wants to have sex. I've seen, met and heard about too many women who showed complete lack of respect to the man and his wishes regarding sex.

[razorbladesmiley]

Originally Posted by queensgrl

Which do you prefer? WILD sex with a stranger, or GOOD sex with someone who's crazy about you, and who you also love? Does the answer change as you mature? Please be frank.

GOOD sex with someone who's crazy about you, and who you also love


does that also include the fact that she's jealous and possessive about me?

[GTOlover]

Originally Posted by queensgrl

Which do you prefer? WILD sex with a stranger, or GOOD sex with someone who's crazy about you, and who you also love? Does the answer change as you mature? Please be frank.

it's a two part awnser:

1. WILD sex with a stranger when your in you late teen early 20's or just came out of a LTR or a marriage it's great to have some fun with NSA for a bit before you are ready to jump back into a serious relationship with someone.

2. the after you get all the wild sex out of the system finding someone to have GOOD sex with and someone who's crazy about you and who you also love is great to have a LTR with.