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Originally Posted by Black Jack22
But the the problem is that men pay most of the bills in most marriages and they work longer hours than his wife, there is no reason why he is not supposed to be getting regular sex.
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I have to BOLD the word "most marriages" in your quote. Because 'most' does NOT means 'ALL'; there are marriages that in the 'minority', I'm one of those 'minority' marriages.
I admit, my husband work longer hours than me. He have 2 jobs, and I have 1 job. BUT there NO such thing as man pay most of the bills in our marriage.
I can't speak for others marriages, but I speak for my own marriage. No marriages are the same, different strokes for different folks.
Financially, me and my husband are capable of walking out of this marriage anytime. We both are Financially independent.
When we dated, I always split 50/50 on dates him, or one date I pay, next date he pay.
If he got a problem with my Financial independent style, then please don't date me. There plenty of other fishes in the sea for him. I'm not the only Asian-American girl that come across his life. Given his "Street smart", I'm sure there other options out there for him.
When we married, I continue insist on keep our Financial separate. I insist on we keep separate Checking/Saving accounts.
"man" or "woman", we both are capable of working to support ourselves.
IF one day one of us fall sick or get lay off for couples months, then that is when we use our 'Saving' account. Of course, we will helps out each others when day comes. But until then, we work to save money for emergency/rainy days.
Our Rent/Mortgage is this month I pay, next month he pay. All our household Bills are split equally too.
Now before you say I bully my husband, I'm not bully him.. His income is MORE than me; so I insist on it being this way, he is the one that benefits more.
Being equal on financial is how we are for the 4 years together, and still is. We NEVER argue about money, there nothing for us to be argue about.
In our marriage, there such things as the 'man' pay for everything, or the 'man' pay for most bills.
Myhusband will not argue with me just because I'm his wife and I insist on 50/50, and as a man soon to be 30 year olds, he have no problem with taking care of his own financial/money.
And the sex, I am 30 years old, my husband is 29 years old. He have higher sex drive than me.. As his his wife, whenever he wants sex, I give him sex. I was raise in my traditional Chinese culture that as a wife, I should not reject my husband when he initiate sex.
Until 2016, he working 2 jobs, everyday he working 12-14 hours. I'm sure he is tired.. So when he home, I thought he only have the energy for shower, eat and sleep. But boy I'm wrong. He still have the energy for sex.
Example like when he back from work, sometimes when I miss him, I hug him from behind and say his name, and uh.. that alone lead to sex.
Just a hug alone from me-his wife and he get turn on for sex. He probably just have high sex drive.
My husband also likes to kiss alot. Everytime when I cook late for him, when I prepare put food out on the table. He always grab my hands and kiss both of my hands.
So rather his sex drive is high again, or he appreciate his wife cooking, lol
And regards sex drive changes in women. I think it all depends on the individual woman, some women just have higher sex drives than others women. Just like some women are more sexually experience than others women.
LOL!! at the "masturbate' comment.
To be frank, I don't even know what is masturbate. I only know about it when I had access to the Internet. I saw people post in Forum about something called 'masturbate', so I look up the dictionary for the meaning of that word. That how prude I am. I dont' touch myself, I'm like a nun when it come to sex.
Regarding sex, I only know it from have sex with my husband. He always take the lead in bed and I just follow his lead.
Does he mind his wife is sexually inexperience? Nope! or else he wouldn't got married. I bet all he cares is as long as he can get off everytime, and there a wife for him to have sex with when he have the urges, then it all good.