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I don't know about other states, but not here. If you don't have your name on a piece of paper, you have no recourse, whether you've been paying rent or not.
typically people have their address updated in the States registry. If this person has their mail going there and their ID is valid at that address, they reside there and cannot simply be thrown out. That is "piece of paper" in a court of law as far as I know, it proves residence.
Also, we don't know any of this as fact, whether or not this man is formally RESIDING at this location, so it is certainly speculation....but just 'sayin..
typically people have their address updated in the States registry. If this person has their mail going there and their ID is valid at that address, they reside there and cannot simply be thrown out. That is "piece of paper" in a court of law as far as I know, it proves residence.
Also, we don't know any of this as fact, whether or not this man is formally RESIDING at this location, so it is certainly speculation....but just 'sayin..
I did--the cops still said I was merely a "guest" even having paid money.
if you rent, move when he is out. if you own change the locks and put his stuff on the porch.
hire a thug to stand by when you do it.
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Im sorry but I no longer feel sorry for her. She posted for advice and every single time she has came up with excuse after excuse not to kick him out. Its not hard to leave someone, he isnt there 24/7 making sure she dont leave him. On one of her post she says she gave him $10 for poker. And her ex is a biker, a big burly biker but yet she hasnt asked for his help before. Lets hope he is out by tonite. There is a difference between being a victim and being an idiot. She need to start taking responsibility for herself too. She is choosing to be a victim. And to post she has a gun now. How stupid is that. What is she going to do when he is yelling at her or throwing things at her " wait let me go get my gun" and shoot him when he is an invited guest in her house. Yes I did say invited because she made no attempt to have him removed or state she didnt want him there. If I lived in her state I'd go there personally and tell the loser to leave. And lets hope she gets help she needs so she dont fall into the same pattern and get another guy just like this one again. Sounds like she has low self esteem and is would be with anyone who gave her attention that even bad attention is better than none to her. Personally I want to hear the loser boyfriends side of the story. Also she needs to get rid of the gun before she is charged with murder or attempted murder.
Im sorry but I no longer feel sorry for her. She posted for advice and every single time she has came up with excuse after excuse not to kick him out. Its not hard to leave someone, he isnt there 24/7 making sure she dont leave him. On one of her post she says she gave him $10 for poker. And her ex is a biker, a big burly biker but yet she hasnt asked for his help before. Lets hope he is out by tonite. There is a difference between being a victim and being an idiot. She need to start taking responsibility for herself too. She is choosing to be a victim. And to post she has a gun now. How stupid is that. What is she going to do when he is yelling at her or throwing things at her " wait let me go get my gun" and shoot him when he is an invited guest in her house. Yes I did say invited because she made no attempt to have him removed or state she didnt want him there. If I lived in her state I'd go there personally and tell the loser to leave. And lets hope she gets help she needs so she dont fall into the same pattern and get another guy just like this one again. Sounds like she has low self esteem and is would be with anyone who gave her attention that even bad attention is better than none to her. Personally I want to hear the loser boyfriends side of the story. Also she needs to get rid of the gun before she is charged with murder or attempted murder.
I think this might be unnecessarily harsh. Most of us have been in bad situations for longer than we should have due to our emotions becoming all tangled up. Sometimes it takes more than a day or two to will ourselves into action. She only posted this issue yesterday, so I think you should lighten up and give the benefit of the doubt. Nobody goes from, "I think I am in a bad situation" to "get out or I'll call the cops" in 24 hrs. Give the woman a break.
She has been talking about it for more than a day?? I stand by my post . She knew she was in a bad situation a long time ago so its way longer than 24 hours.
I met my boyfriend a year ago. He moved into my home 8 months ago due to job loss and I thought we were in love. He has said he wants to marry me, etc, but now I think he's just blowing smoke. He is an ex-alcoholic, three years sober, and is trying to get visitation rights with his two year old son which makes him very angry. He has a temper and often assumes things me, such as my mood..he says hateful things to me. I ask him why if he says he cares about me so much how can he act the way he does? He says and I quote: I am the way I am and I ain't changing, take it or leave it". Mkay...
In the last few months things have gotten downright awful. He makes no attempt at getting a job. Why should he, I have a good job and a home so I realize this. He plays World of Warcraft for 12 hr stretches. He is not affectionate period. He wants back rubs, neck rubs, from sitting at that stupid computer for hours. He wants sex only when he wants it and he never touches me or gives any foreplay, just three minutes and done.
Now. My problem is I am afraid of him. He has never hit me but has thrown things and has said things that make me afraid. Such as the neighbor's dog barks a lot. He has said that one day I'll come home from work and if the dog is dead I'm not to say a word to anybody. He's told me stories from his past of things he did while drunk...an uncle wouldn't let him drive his truck for some reason or other so he told some nasty friends where his uncle's safe was in his house and they broke in and stole a lot of money and guns. He has also keyed cars, has multiple DUI's, has spent a year and a half in jail because of them...How the hell do I get this man out of my house? I cannot get the courage up to even speak to him about it. I've thought of a million ways to say it..I've written letters but can't get the courage up to actually give them to him..
He takes and takes and gives nothing. He is always in a hateful mood and says mean things. I deserve better than this. Would someone please help me? I am on pins and needles around him, never knowing what his mood will be. I'm taking Xanax because of this man. I can't leave because I own my home and I'll be damned if I have to leave! But I am so afraid of him I don't know what to do. Thanks in advance.
You made your bed, now you gotta sleep in it.
Don't know what to tell you. If you ever get him out of the house without being murdered...then next time maybe you'll be a little more careful judge in character? Just a thought.
And this is something I fail to understand - why do girls like the OP choose these type of people and want really do anything deep down to drop the guy despite the horrible treatment?
And this is something I fail to understand - why do girls like the OP choose these type of people and want really do anything deep down to drop the guy despite the horrible treatment?
There are so many reasons, the answers to the question are a book in itself.
Well of course, I know the difference of being a "nice" guy vs being a nice guy who's assertive and takes charge. Basically has confidence.
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