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That's pretty much true with any woman discussing any problem.
Not this woman. I learned a long time ago trying to solve other people's problems only gets you into trouble. I will give an opinion if asked but a solution? No, I majored in history not psychology.
I've often wondered about the compulsive and detailed recitals of doctor visits, etc. I view those matters as private anyway. Perhaps the motivation is narcissism combined with having nothing else to talk about?
I'm only 59 and so far have had no health issues, but my father had vascular disease for almost 20 years before he died. He had a great sense of humor and referred to himself as the Six Million Dollar Man because he figured that's about what Blue Cross spent on him for his numerous and varied vascular surgeries.
I did get tired of his constant litanies about his health problems. Why? First, because he took very poor care of himself and ignored most of his doctors' suggestions about how to improve his health. And second, after not doing anything to help himself, he would complain so much about how bad he felt.
At the other extreme was my childless aunt, who lived alone, and who I was very close to. She called me one day when she was 88 and said, "I just wanted you to know I had breast cancer and I was in the hospital for two weeks, but I'm fine now." This had happened awhile back and in the meantime she'd taken herself to the hospital for 13 radiation treatments. And even arranged to have a nurse mail me her weekly letter from the hospital so I wouldn't know she wasn't home to send it. I was pretty upset because I would have been happy to fly back and help her, but I knew her well enough to know she wouldn't want to "inconvenience anyone." Sheesh!
I hope when I get older I can strike a happy medium there somewhere with my son. I hope to inform, but not bore.
I am way too busy with my animal rescue and learning new things about living in aggieland to discuss my health issues. Besides, I just started learning a new language and we're planning another trip out west - as soon as we get back from our trip up north.
Oh wait, that bores some people. Well, there's always health issues.
I noticed recently that most conversations I have with anyone in their
60's and above revolve around their health issues.
It has even happened with people I'm barely acquainted with.
I hear about what they have, where they have it and how
it's being treated. Then on to the care of the hospital and
nurses.
My eyes start to glaze over, but I was raised to be
respectful.
I want to back away slowly and then turn and run.
So depressing.
Does this happen to you and how do you deal with it?
Not 60 yet but almost. Yes, it does happen to me. "How do I deal with it?" My heart usually aches if it is something the person has to deal with that is traumatic. If it is routine health issues I listen and then take my turn at it too. Sharing concerns with friends is a good thing. We don't dwell on it all but listen to each other, support one another and move on to something else. It all usually ends with a good laugh.
If it bothers you so much walk away.
Living with terminal diseases or diseases that affect your everyday life can and oftentimes is a burden. I was told "a burden shared is a burden halved". Same with aches and pains, and growing older.
If you feel the way you do then perhaps take your own advice, "back away slowly and then turn and run". And if your eyes are glazing over as you say it isn't being "respectful" at all.
I noticed recently that most conversations I have with anyone in their
60's and above revolve around their health issues.
It has even happened with people I'm barely acquainted with.
I hear about what they have, where they have it and how
it's being treated. Then on to the care of the hospital and
nurses.
My eyes start to glaze over, but I was raised to be
respectful.
I want to back away slowly and then turn and run.
So depressing.
Does this happen to you and how do you deal with it?
What else can you personally talk about? Politics? Religion? Current events? Your garden? Some specialty hobby? travel? If you want to talk about any of those things, join something related to those things and like minded people will converse on it.
Not 60 yet but almost. Yes, it does happen to me. "How do I deal with it?" My heart usually aches if it is something the person has to deal with that is traumatic. If it is routine health issues I listen and then take my turn at it too. Sharing concerns with friends is a good thing. We don't dwell on it all but listen to each other, support one another and move on to something else. It all usually ends with a good laugh.
If it bothers you so much walk away.
Living with terminal diseases or diseases that affect your everyday life can and oftentimes is a burden. I was told "a burden shared is a burden halved". Same with aches and pains, and growing older.
If you feel the way you do then perhaps take your own advice, "back away slowly and then turn and run". And if your eyes are glazing over as you say it isn't being "respectful" at all.
I completely agree with you that people need an outlet. For some unknown reason
these past two weeks I was everybody's outlet.
It got to me.
Now I'm better after venting here!
Disclaimer I am not a health care professional.
I noticed recently that most conversations I have with anyone in their
60's and above revolve around their health issues.
It has even happened with people I'm barely acquainted with.
I hear about what they have, where they have it and how
it's being treated. Then on to the care of the hospital and
nurses.
My eyes start to glaze over, but I was raised to be
respectful.
I want to back away slowly and then turn and run.
So depressing.
Does this happen to you and how do you deal with it?
O Lord I wish it was medical issues. Any more it seems to be politics and everyone seems to be far right or far left. Just like our politicians no one is in the middle any more.
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O Lord I wish it was medical issues. Any more it seems to be politics and everyone seems to be far right or far left. Just like our politicians no one is in the middle any more.
