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Old 01-19-2016, 11:48 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Last week, my only remaining great aunt/uncle passed away at the age of 72. Her passing left my grandmother, 79, the only remaining sibling of either eleven or twelve that made it to adulthood. When we were at the funeral Saturday, she brought up the fact that she was the only one remaining and had buried all of her siblings, parents, and also my grandfather. It seemed to shake her up significantly and made her realize her own mortality and age more than I think she typically does - she's a healthy 79, lives independently, and still gets around well.

Have any of the posters on this board faced this situation?
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Old 01-19-2016, 11:53 AM
 
Location: Kountze, Texas
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Not yet - but my mother and her sister are the only ones left out of 6 of them. Mom is 80, Aunt C is 78 I think. She is almost totally blind. My mom is ok but has had breast cancer, and a hip replaced. Can't do stairs well, and Macular Degeneration is getting her too. I think Aunt C will go before mom.
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Old 01-19-2016, 12:18 PM
 
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yes, all of my immediate relatives are dead.....parents and sibling dead.

(I have one sibling left, but he is of no use because he goes years without communicating and lives 1500 miles away)

I'm 68.

any other non-immediate relatives live far away (cousins) and I do not know them anyway, as we did not ever live close-by to each other

My father had no siblings, and just one of my aunts (mother's sister) is alive and in her 80's.

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Old 01-19-2016, 12:28 PM
 
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My mom only had one brother, no sisters. He died very young - 47.

I have 10 siblings. I have thought about that now and then. My mom is almost 92 and I hope no one passes before she does. We haven't even told her that her cat died.
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Old 01-19-2016, 12:38 PM
 
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I am soon to be without parents or siblings.
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Old 01-19-2016, 12:46 PM
 
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Last week, my only remaining great aunt/uncle passed away at the age of 72. Her passing left my grandmother, 79, the only remaining sibling of either eleven or twelve that made it to adulthood. When we were at the funeral Saturday, she brought up the fact that she was the only one remaining and had buried all of her siblings, parents, and also my grandfather. It seemed to shake her up significantly and made her realize her own mortality and age more than I think she typically does - she's a healthy 79, lives independently, and still gets around well.

Have any of the posters on this board faced this situation?
My Mother outlived all her brothers....She had a sister, but her son got her shuttered off somewhere we couldn't find her later....But she did cry once about being the only one to outlive all her siblings....
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Old 01-19-2016, 01:10 PM
 
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Last week, my only remaining great aunt/uncle passed away at the age of 72. Her passing left my grandmother, 79, the only remaining sibling of either eleven or twelve that made it to adulthood. When we were at the funeral Saturday, she brought up the fact that she was the only one remaining and had buried all of her siblings, parents, and also my grandfather. It seemed to shake her up significantly and made her realize her own mortality and age more than I think she typically does - she's a healthy 79, lives independently, and still gets around well.

Have any of the posters on this board faced this situation?
Of course. This is life and it is well known stage, the pain of being the last one left. Would you not have expected her to feel that way?

OP I don't mean to be harsh sounding but of all your posts this is the most lacking in empathy and understanding
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Old 01-19-2016, 01:26 PM
 
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My mom, almost 90 has buried 2 husbands, parents and siblings. Her sister and her were very close and she misses her terribly. My late grandfather once commented to me that the worst part of getting old is outliving all your family and friends.
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Old 01-19-2016, 01:31 PM
 
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There were five of us kids, I'm the youngest. The folks are gone, along with the oldest two siblings. When I remarked to my oldest surviving sibling that it was consoling to think that at least we were dying in order, he was not amused.
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Old 01-19-2016, 01:36 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Of course. This is life and it is well known stage, the pain of being the last one left. Would you not have expected her to feel that way?

OP I don't mean to be harsh sounding but of all your posts this is the most lacking in empathy and understanding
I feel bad for her and realize we probably don't have that many years left together, but I personally didn't know any of her brothers or sisters that well, with the exception of one sister who passed away several years ago. I can't remember seeing the men more than once every few years or having a conversation of any meaning with any of them. Not trying to come off as callous, but most of those great aunts and uncles were essentially strangers to me.
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