Retired single women and travel (meal, singles, family, travelling)
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How frightening, BellaDL! I will be on the lookout for big monkeys while dining alone.
newcomputer,
Of course it was just amusing and not frightening but it just showed that it is instinctive for both animals and humans to pick the weaker, smaller preys. Women are typically shorter, smaller and not as strong as men so we just have to be more cautious. I also don't see anything wrong to have a PPH (the term used by WCG) for protection in certain situation.
P.S. PPH is a term for a male used by Wild Colonial Girl.
I guess it depends on the kind of travel you like to do. What kind of travel did you do before you retired and why would it be any different now that you are retired?
I always travel alone but my travel is "mission oriented." I look for contest worthy nature or architecture photography opportunities. It usually involves getting up very early in the morning (before the sun comes up). I don't travel to socialize. I'd never stay in a bed and breakfast. I don't like chit chat or shopping or museums. I don't fly, either. Do a lot of research before I go. I don't drive or go out at night. I prefer to eat in my room (delivery, take-out or room service) while I charge my batteries, figuratively and literally, and review my photos. I try to get rooms that overlook water, mountains or people activity and that have a balcony so in the evening I can sit outside. Don't want a vacation where I have to get dressed up.
I used to go to casinos and stay in the casino's hotel. You don't need someone with you to gamble, to go to a show and you don't have to get in your car at night. Plenty of food choices. Plenty of other people there by themselves.
If you do road trips just make sure your car is serviced before you go, you have Triple A or an equivalent and the number is programmed in your cell phone, you have an entry in your phone that says ICE (In Case of Emergency so police/doctors know who to call), you don't walk around decked out in jewelry, you stop for gas and fill the tank before it gets dark and you don't wander alone somewhere on foot. If possible - no pocketbook, use pockets.
(Tip of the Day ) If someone sketchy approaches you in a menacing like manner, gag like you are going to vomit. No one will assault you if they think you are going to puke all over them.
We're all so different and have different travel styles. I love to fly and find my way through a foreign city. I go out early in the morning and stay out all day seeing the sights, with a heavy emphasis on architecture, museums, galleries, parks, and special events and festivals. In the evenings, I'll go to a play or concert, not coming back to my hotel until late at night. It's great being a solo traveler at entertainment venues because you can usually pick up a single seat fairly easily, even for sold-out shows if you queue up at the ticket window in the morning.
If I feel like eating in a restaurant, I do, but I'm just as happy having a picnic in the open air.
I never drive. It's much more interesting and fun (for me) to take trains out to the countryside for sightseeing, and buses and underground trains in the cities. That's all part of the adventure of travel.
Retired women would be way way way better off travelling alone than young women. Sure, you might get mugged, but you're going to be less likely to be raped. I hate travelling alone and never will, but there are a lot of things two young women simply cannot do that two old women probably could. There is a huge advantage in being invisible to men.
My daughter traveled alone all over Europe. She is 24. She lived in Asia for a year before that. She says the place she feels most unsafe is in the U.S., and she is not the only young woman I have heard say that.
Ladies, just eat at the bar! If they have a bar, I always go there to eat. You may meet someone nice sitting next to you or you may just feel less conspicuous or you may make the staff happy that you don't take up a whole table just for yourself.
When, there is no bar, I find a booth to be the best option when available. I also take a book or magazine or surf the web on my phone.
You just confirmed what I was saying: Sounds like you're mad that you may be invisible - you want to be offended - I am quite happy about being invisible in many of these situations. How can it be ageism when she's of that age herself.
Older women are not invisible to men.
Some countries celebrate older females. I have a friend who is now early 50s that gets "picked up" by 20 somethings and 30 somethings. She has been to all of Europe and several countries in Asia, South America and the Caribbean alone.
There are even dating sites like Our Time where men are seeking women who are "older." I won't even get into the scores of young guys who are interested in "Cougars."
A 30 year old is considered old for many men so there is nothing that a gal of 65 can do about having to fish in a small pond.
The poster "Wild" sounds bitter. She has been hurt by rejection due to her age and wants other women to experience the same. The terminology that she used makes this very obvious.
You just confirmed what I was saying: Sounds like you're mad that you may be invisible - you want to be offended - I am quite happy about being invisible in many of these situations. How can it be ageism when she's of that age herself.
Nope. Don't 'want to be offended'. Who the heck does?!?! Just calling someone out on their BS. I travel as safely and as aware as possible of my surroundings. The poster to whom I responded wrote some telling things about men. If anyone is 'mad' it is her. Sorry if she has experienced some abuse or damage; however, women should travel if they so desire, whether alone or with accompaniment. Age doesn't matter. Good, common sense does.
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Just calling someone out on their BS. I travel as safely and as aware as possible of my surroundings. The poster to whom I responded wrote some telling things about men. If anyone is 'mad' it is her. Sorry if she has experienced some abuse or damage; however, women should travel if they so desire, whether alone or with accompaniment. Age doesn't matter. Good, common sense does.
