Well, this just got me a wee bit depressed (grandparents, states, cousins)
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Gee, so that's the secret of longevity. Who knew it would be so easy? So even if our families make our lives a living Hell, all we have to do is make nice with them and we're guaranteed a long life. What a great life that will be. Who writes this garbage anyway?
I just read an article that said that older people who have close connections to their families have a longer life span than those who are only closer to their friends. My DH and I have no children, grandchildren or parents. We each have siblings whom we rarely see, although our relationships are fine. We just don't have a lot in common and therefore rarely talk or visit.
I guess it just got me a little down thinking about it. My DH and I are working on moving and making more social connections in our new home. We are still youngish (early 60s) and have hobbies and things we like to do. I was pretty okay with our lives until I read this. What say you?
I think you're depressed for no reason. Logically, the info you discovered makes sense. People who are old, and on their own with no one to look after them could easily end up in failing health and die quickly if they have no one to get them to the doctor when they need to. But if you have family close by, they can and often do look after you, you could potentially live longer. Sorry.
I just read an article that said that older people who have close connections to their families have a longer life span than those who are only closer to their friends. My DH and I have no children, grandchildren or parents. We each have siblings whom we rarely see, although our relationships are fine. We just don't have a lot in common and therefore rarely talk or visit.
I guess it just got me a little down thinking about it. My DH and I are working on moving and making more social connections in our new home. We are still youngish (early 60s) and have hobbies and things we like to do. I was pretty okay with our lives until I read this. What say you?
I have little in common with one sister but we talk almost daily. Talking about what we are doing lasts about a minute, what we think about different subjects may take an hour. Today we talked about vacations and children, what type, where to go, what can be gained. And the thing is neither of us have children. Yesterday we talked about people our age in different generations, how we are different from the ones born in 1910 and how the ones born in 1980 will be different from us. We need nothing in common for these discussions. We live completely different lifestyles. Wouldn't want the other as a neighbor, but I think we are very close. The beginnings of the conversations get the brother/sister stuff out of the way but its how we are connected. We would always be there for each other if needed and that is a good feeling. We always laugh with each other.
I could never see how having something in common has anything to do with closeness as siblings.
Statistics. A smart person can prove whatever they want to prove. Meh!
If it's false, that's OK because you did what you could so you had the best life possible. If it's true, you didn't need to waste your time worrying about LTC and you didn't have to suffer through it!
I just enjoy the time I have and when it's done, it's done.
I just read an article that said that older people who have close connections to their families have a longer life span than those who are only closer to their friends. My DH and I have no children, grandchildren or parents. We each have siblings whom we rarely see, although our relationships are fine. We just don't have a lot in common and therefore rarely talk or visit.
I guess it just got me a little down thinking about it. My DH and I are working on moving and making more social connections in our new home. We are still youngish (early 60s) and have hobbies and things we like to do. I was pretty okay with our lives until I read this. What say you?
For a man of that age, having a good mistress or two on the side, would boost his spirits more than spending time with relatives. I won't pretend to know what is good for a woman.
You need to be connected to those who bring you joy, not stress. Period. How you know them, blood or friendship, shouldn't matter.
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