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My husband is this way. He is still fit, so despite a hip replacement and a few achy places, he prefers to pretend he's still 40 as long as he can. He has always liked physical labor, so there is some "use it or lose it" in his thinking, I'm sure.
But are you a sickly person with some condition or disease that requires you to be cautious?
Not yet... And probably just like those men you mentioned, I am hoping that staying active will benefit me in the long run. I plan to do what I can do as long as I can do it!
But are you a sickly person with some condition or disease that requires you to be cautious?
They want you to be an invalid, and end your life as a vegetable in some rest home. If you don't use it you lose it. That is the worst that could happen. It's better to do what you can until you croak. Nobody lives forever, so while you are here you have to make the best of it.
Lots of women do the same thing...maybe wanting to feel indispensable to people? You know, the go-to person for volunteer activities, to make food for others, give advice, provide the place for others to meet, give rides, etc.
I guess so. The one guy with the breathing issues, goes puffs on his machine, goes out, cuts one tiny branch, goes back in puffs, out - cut - etc. I don't blame his wife not wanting to see that.
I'm the same way - I don't want to be a witness to that self abuse. Just let me know when you want me to dial 911!
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Originally Posted by Larry Caldwell
They want you to be an invalid, and end your life as a vegetable in some rest home. If you don't use it you lose it. That is the worst that could happen. It's better to do what you can until you croak. Nobody lives forever, so while you are here you have to make the best of it.
Larry Caldwell has nailed it! As for the guy who puffs on his machine in between short bouts of tree trimming, what sort of bizarre attitude does it take to label that "self abuse"? Why is it better for him to stay inside and do absolutely nothing? Being bed-ridden is not living! Perhaps I should start a thread entitled "Why do some women think men should slow down and become disabled, or become more disabled than they already are?"
Interesting topic with which many of us can identify. I've always worked as hard and long at things as necessary to get the job done. However, I've never been particularly good with my hands or at mechanical things - so years ago, gave up doing the yard, painting, fixing things, etc. myself and started paying others. In the long run, this approach takes less time and costs less than having to re-do jobs I've started or messed-up.
On the other hand, I can sit at the computer and write, research, study or compile lessons and sermons for hour upon hour. I'm always working on something and rarely go anywhere without taking something to work-on in case I find myself sitting around with nothing to do. This may partly stem from many years spent working a full-time career and a concurrent full-time ministry. But, beyond that, I can remember always working 2-3 jobs as a young person.
I can't tell you why I do that, except it's just how I'm wired. I feel compelled to maximize my use of the available time - and do what some might consider quirky things to accomplish that (for example, I record virtually everything on TV to avoid wasting time with commercials; I've always stayed-up late (12 pm) to lengthen my waking hours; Even when I wake-up in the middle of the night, I've got things to think about). I occasionally wonder why I behave this way, but it doesn't really bother me enough to change. However, like the wives here who seem bothered by their husband's physical endeavors, my wife is more concerned than I about my intensity.
I guess so. The one guy with the breathing issues, goes puffs on his machine, goes out, cuts one tiny branch, goes back in puffs, out - cut - etc. I don't blame his wife not wanting to see that.
I'm the same way - I don't want to be a witness to that self abuse. Just let me know when you want me to dial 911!
If it gets to the point that you're no more productive than that, probably best to let someone else handle it.
Larry Caldwell has nailed it! As for the guy who puffs on his machine in between short bouts of tree trimming, what sort of bizarre attitude does it take to label that "self abuse"? Why is it better for him to stay inside and do absolutely nothing? Being bed-ridden is not living! Perhaps I should start a thread entitled "Why do some women think men should slow down and become disabled, or become more disabled than they already are?"
Because it drives his wife crazy? She can't stand to see him suffer?
It's not refusing to slow down as much as refusing to give in. And it's not a trait of a particular sex. I find it to be hereditary or more likely, a learned and modeled behavior.
We flew to NY on Friday afternoon for the weekend after DH had what I diagnosed as a severe vertigo on Thursday. No symptoms other than severe dizziness/vomiting, but it wiped him out and I wanted to cancel the trip. I called our doctor who asked that we call or go to the ER if his symptoms didn't go away or got worse.
His plan was to cover our boat while in NY. It's 10 feet off the ground. He said let's see how I feel tomorrow and go from there. This is not how I would have handled this, but he's an adult living his own life, not mine. We went, he covered the boat, but I also noticed he's taking it easier and not pushing quite as hard as usual. No more episodes of dizziness and he feels fine according to him. He knows himself and his body.
The apple doesn't fall far in his family tree. His 85 year old mother while cleaning and clearing things in her yard, tripped and fell over a tangle of weeds before an expected visit from us this past summer. We arrived to find her making dinner and cleaning house with a black and blue bruise across her chest and favoring one arm. We had no idea she had fallen three days before. I thought she had fractured her collarbone from the appearance of things, but she said she would see a doctor after we left. After she had a couple of bad nights, she went with us to an ER walk-in place. An x-ray verified she had a fracture. When she came out with her arm in a sling with DH, I asked what the doctor said about her driving. She said she didn't ask. Again not what I think is prudent, but again not my call.
Both of them always move forward, looking to solve problems. They don't dwell on the past or overthink things.. Both are remarkable in drive and energy levels. I may not agree with their decisions, but I understand they won't be stopped by what they consider to be obstacles in their way that need to be assessed and resolved. They rarely stop or slow down, but when they do, I know it's serious.
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