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I'm not sure what the perfect family ideal that TV and movies represent that you're looking for. I'm approaching my 30th anniversary and my wife and I are still in love and still best friends.
Are there many things that I wish had happened differently - of course. I wish my children had made different choices at certain points in there life. I wish I'd made better decisions over the course of my life.
But considering that my dad is divorced and on his second marriage, my oldest brother is on his third marriage, middle brother is on his second, my son is divorced, and my daughter is a single mother I think the fact that my wife and I have made it through almost 30 years of good and bad and we're still in love and still best friends is better than anything TV or the movies can show.
Adopted at six months. No brothers or sisters. Military service immediately after high school. Remained on opposite coast. Forever in contact with the parents. When their old age slide began was happy to move east to assist.
Mothers side of the family had 13 children and none of the dozens of cousins chose to remain in contact. Opposite for my fathers and have good relationship with nearly a dozen cousins. Not completely Leave It To Beaver but a solid "B."
Yes, I have a perfect family based on the dictionary definition below:
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Perfect: having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.
The bolded words mean that one has to be realistic in accepting life limitations. I am not a perfect daughter, sister, wife or mother so I don't expect my relatives to be perfect individuals.
All my family members (both extended and immediate) fulfill their duties to society and each other. Most importantly, we care about each other in spite of any personality flaws or shortcomings of our own or others.
I could be very lucky, optimistic or just being realistic and full of gratitude. I know that I can count on the support of every member of my family and of course that they can count on me. This simple fact is enough to make me think that I have a 'perfect' family.
I'm not sure what the perfect family ideal that TV and movies represent that you're looking for. I'm approaching my 30th anniversary and my wife and I are still in love and still best friends.
Are there many things that I wish had happened differently - of course. I wish my children had made different choices at certain points in there life. I wish I'd made better decisions over the course of my life.
But considering that my dad is divorced and on his second marriage, my oldest brother is on his third marriage, middle brother is on his second, my son is divorced, and my daughter is a single mother I think the fact that my wife and I have made it through almost 30 years of good and bad and we're still in love and still best friends is better than anything TV or the movies can show.
Glad to hear about your marriage! My marriage has only improved over the years.
My statement in my post is that on TV and what you see on movies are these big happy families. Everyone gets along(with the occasional exception). Successful adult children. Stable marriages left and right. Great family reunions. When grandma is on her death bed there is like 25 family members present. Too many idealistic stereotypes, which might have some basis 60 years ago, but I doubt if was wholly true
Glad to hear about your marriage! My marriage has only improved over the years.
My statement in my post is that on TV and what you see on movies are these big happy families. Everyone gets along(with the occasional exception). Successful adult children. Stable marriages left and right. Great family reunions. When grandma is on her death bed there is like 25 family members present. Too many idealistic stereotypes, which might have some basis 60 years ago, but I doubt if was wholly true
Hmmm maybe we kind of do? When my dad was on his deathbed, his doctor cried cuz he was so touched by seeing so many of us around him. Eleven kids. He was in the hospital a couple of weeks and he was never alone. One of us was always there, day and night!
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