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Living alone is too hard to do. "Honey, can you bring me a roll of toilet paper?"
There you go.
I've lived alone ten years, more if you count the apartment in California. It was a disaster which needed a really dedicated home repo, enough of a disastor the people who bought it and got everyone to move lost the last laugh... Code refused to let them 'fix' it. The people who lived there had already moved in. Also beware of apartments.
Having people close, even if they weren't friends, did give it a feel of not being isolated. Here, with my house usually housing some cats and dogs and me. Mostly, I never met anyone local who I'd care about, and wanted away.
But I talk to my dogs like they were listening sometimes. And sometimes I make really long phone calls.
I have thought about it, but I don't want to live with the shared walls. I'd like to be closer but not that close. Andit does hit me hard some times. But people here are nice to you, but you don't feel like your 'locals'.
I've considered doing up the extra room as as rental, but that would require a stranger live in my house. ugh, baadddd just not me. A friend close enough to visit but to far to say they lived....so long as they shared enough which is difficult (tried it before)
What happens when your older I don't know. Would you want to be with people, even if you had to take care? Or just hope to find a like mind to fill up the time?
In my family / friend network there are 11 couples who are 60 plus and been together long term, one divorced guy who is now committedly single and another who repeatedly tries to get another wife. Two of the couples have relationships that appear, from the outside, not particularly happy even if stable. The rest seem to enjoy being married and being together, myself included
I have not done a poll but from conversations over the years I would guess only one of the married people, a guy, is likely to seek another partner if their spouse died. The rest would stay single, again me included.
I think one of the reasons is we get more set in our ways and less willing to put up with things that annoy. We may accept it from our long term partners if they have enough credit in the emotional bank or we have just grown to accept that aspect, but we wont take it from a person new to our life.
In response to the original question my answer is no, yes but no. The initial “no” is because I am happily married and want that to continue, the “yes” is if I found myself single I would probably stay single, the final “no” is because if I could find an instant long term relationship I might. The latter is driven by the calendar as if you asked when I was in my 40/50s the answer would be different.
I'm wondering what kind of experiences people have had that they would never live with someone again. Must be some PITA spouses out there. I never had anyone I lived with bug me and always had my own space to do what I need.
Marriage to an abusive drunk/druggie/gambler will do it.
I've been living alone for nine years since my daughter left for college. I did not want to live with anyone ever again. It was me and four cats. Does that sound like a stereotype or what?
But three of the cats are now in The Great Catnip Fields and it's very likely that I'm not going to be sticking by my resolution for much longer. You never know what lies around the next bend in the road.
Marriage to an abusive drunk/druggie/gambler will do it.
I've been living alone for nine years since my daughter left for college. I did not want to live with anyone ever again. It was me and four cats. Does that sound like a stereotype or what?
But three of the cats are now in The Great Catnip Fields and it's very likely that I'm not going to be sticking by my resolution for much longer. You never know what lies around the next bend in the road.
Well, most cats are better company than most people. So, I would suggest, go on and get at least one new cat, your remaining one would like the company.
After being married for 13 years, divorced for 20, then now married for 14 years, should I outlive my hubs I have no intention of sharing space again. I've told my son not to get any ideas about me living with him. I'd jump off a bridge first.
I do miss the privacy I had living alone. I want to get up at 2am and watch tv, no problem. Can't do that now as husband is a light sleeper. And he gripes about everything, talks to the tv, etc. Ugh.
Just doing my own thing, wow, that is almost a reward for becoming a widow.
And of course, there is always the very real chance he will out live me.....
Well, most cats are better company than most people. So, I would suggest, go on and get at least one new cat, your remaining one would like the company.
I know he would. He has never been the only cat, but if I am going to relocate him, it might be best to wait.
I'm wondering what kind of experiences people have had that they would never live with someone again. Must be some PITA spouses out there. I never had anyone I lived with bug me and always had my own space to do what I need.
Yeah.
A lot of divorced or widowed women I know don't ever want to live with a guy again bc it's too much work.
Some of these ladies don't seem like they'd be a picnic, either.
But I had to live with my brother for a while as an adult, and I get where they're coming from.
I wouldn't want to live with anyone who wasn't my immediate family or my spouse. My parents don't bug me and I assume my kids wouldn't either (could be a big assumption).
Had a little gathering with some female friends this afternoon.
I told them that i had decided i needed to end my roommate relationship. Might be in a year or so
Anyway, one of them said, "but you are lucky that he does things for you". Like cut the grass? Sheesh. I told her i can afford to pay someone to do that. No need for him to be out there in the hot sun.
Just glad i have that option. These ladies do not.
And yes, i'm sure he has lots to complain about me. Hmmm - wonder what that is - lol..
I find women pretty boring, so pretty much avoid interactions with women on a one on one basis. If a woman acted romantically toward me, I figure the only reason would be to get her hands on my money. I think most women would find me pretty boring, which is ok by me.
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