Moved to carlsbad 1 year ago from east coast...bored please help! (San Diego: theatre, high school)

[Forever Blue]

Originally Posted by sdurbanite

What you are feeling is nothing unusual. My friend lasted less than 2 years living in Manhattan and said it was the loneliest time of her life.

You can be lonley ANYPLACE, but a place like Manahattan would definitely have a lot more things to do than say, some small town w/ a population of 300. I personally don't mk friends easily at all. The only places I'm at on a regular basis is work & maybe the gym. I'm an only child & was just never the type of person that people flocked to. It's tough mkg friends. But I haven't really made the effort to get out there & join any activities because my parents & boyfriend are right here w/ me so that's all I need for now. Yes, I may go out to lunch w/ a pal every few mos or more, but that's about it.

[nmnita]

Originally Posted by Forever Blue

You can be lonley ANYPLACE, but a place like Manahattan would definitely have a lot more things to do than say, some small town w/ a population of 300. I personally don't mk friends easily at all. The only places I'm at on a regular basis is work & maybe the gym. I'm an only child & was just never the type of person that people flocked to. It's tough mkg friends. But I haven't really made the effort to get out there & join any activities because my parents & boyfriend are right here w/ me so that's all I need for now. Yes, I may go out to lunch w/ a pal every few mos or more, but that's about it.

We spent 13 years in Dallas and I only made a handful of friends. Why? Because as you say, we had family there and did everything with them. I did work and would sometimes go out for a glass or two of wine with a few friends after work.

You right, you have to push yourself: the best thing that happened to us, was our relocating. I am naturally very outgoing but I just got into a rut in Texas.

Joining is the answer: I recommend, right now, with it being an election year the OP think about gettin involved in his party and do volunteer work. They may very well have an active youth group.

Nita

[pacific2]

　
　
Have you considered moving someplace where there are young people?
The median age in Aliso Viejo is about thirty-two, just slightly older than you. Of course, that means that half of the population is under 32 and the other half is over. Although the city is very kid and family friendly, there are also a number of singles there; maybe about thirty percent of the population.
The city is very small, perhaps about 2.5 miles by 3.5 miles with about 42,000 people in a densely packed master-planned community with lots of apartments, townhouses and condos, and fewer single-family residences.
That means a lot of foot traffic at Town Center, the main shopping area, and many opportunities to chat with strangers. Town Center teems with activity as it has a large movie complex, chain and independent restaurants (some with outdoor seating), a Barnes and Noble book store, a park, etc.
Nearby is a cute café, The Neighborhood Cup, which, in addition to being laid back and very unusual for Orange County, offers music, yoga, good food, art displays and a chance to just sit back and unwind in a relaxed atmosphere.
Also, dogs are popular in AV, and it is easy to strike up conversations with strangers when you have a puppy. People just approach you all the time. You could also take your dog to one of the city’s 23 parks. Hiking is readily available at Aliso and Woods Canyon. Google it under Images to get an idea of its spaciousness and beauty.
Living in the city, you could also make it to Laguna Beach within a few minutes (more chances to meet people).
Finally, you could commute to Carlsbad from AV without much difficulty since you would be going against traffic.

[sav858]

move down to central San Diego area, personally I couldn't live in Carlsbad unless I had a family.

[RoadTripGurl]

I've said this on another thread but have you joined a social site like Meet UP or since you are a biz owner a Le Tip or something like that? When I moved away to NJ I joined a young professional group and I met friends that I still keep in contact with since I moved away. I don't like feeling "alone" so I made sure I joined the groups and made conversation before I even moved so that when I went to functions they at least knew something about me. Take a class at the gym or do some volunteer work. Get out at a networking function, there are a ton of people to meet, but it's easier if you meet them while you are doing something where you have the same interest.

[djxpress]

meetup can be cool, but be selective in what groups you sign up for, because there are some pretty overzealous people on meetup (i.e. have no other life so they're always creating new meetup events).
On the dog meetup I am a part of, I get 2-3 emails a day from this one girl who likes to schedule things everyday of the week (or so it seems). After the initial "wow" of meetup, all the emails tend to get annoying.

[RoadTripGurl]

djxpress I know what you mean! One chick invited me to a swingers party I was like "uh uh no can do" LOL
I tend to get the emails once a week and pick and choose. Also I converse with the few hand of people I'm cool with and sometimes just hang out and do things with those people. Being that the I like to do only certain things and I don't like being around all those people alot, I tend to get with folks that have the same interest.

[Shellso]

Originally Posted by Footballfreak

I don't think it has anything to do with what city you're in, It probably happens in every city/town/ state

Totally true! In these situations hobbies/activities are going to be crucial in meeting new people. Try Meetup.com! there's TONS of groups and the activities range from anything you can imagine from hiking to single young professionals who like wine. lol

[westcoastbabe]

When I read the title of this thread..I was like you gotta be kidding me....You live in sunny California within driving distance to major cities with major nightlife....Stop whining, get out there and enjoy yourself...Would trade places with the OP in a newyork minute. Beats the h*ll out of Charlotte anyday of the week.

[nmnita]

Originally Posted by westcoastbabe

When I read the title of this thread..I was like you gotta be kidding me....You live in sunny California within driving distance to major cities with major nightlife....Stop whining, get out there and enjoy yourself...Would trade places with the OP in a newyork minute. Beats the h*ll out of Charlotte anyday of the week.

well there are some that might disagree with you but on the other hand, if a person wants to find friends and enjoy life it can always be done. There is something missing when a young person can't find ways to keep busy.

Nita