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Old 07-17-2016, 10:49 AM
 
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I responded to all these stupid claims you made and then realized you're an asian male. And now it makes sense. It's ok, dude. I feel for you and I get why society has reduced you to lashing out against asian women like this. I read all those reports about asian men being the one of the least chosen preferences on dating sites too. I personally don't feel that way, and have dated asian guys as well as many other races, so it's sad you've actually had to come up with such an over-generalized prejudice against asian women to justify what society has done to you.

You obviously won't believe me but not all of us are like that out there. I hope you have better luck and sincerely hope you don't treat any asian women you date like they must be insecure, inferior liars. Or treat all white guys who date asian girls like they must be rejects. Of course, treating people this way could be the reason you're not having luck in the first place.
Those claims aren't stupid. There are tons of Asian women that have posted vidoes on Youtube who mentioned that they won't ever date an Asian guy and would only for a White guy because that's what makes them feel mainstream, just the same way Asians adopt white names to fit in into the White society. Why should he praise the society which has reduced him to a mere caricature.
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Old 07-17-2016, 10:50 AM
 
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The City is small enough that one can easily make their way over to the Marina/Cow Hollow from most northern SF neighborhoods...but if you're OK with paying Nob Hill prices (I assume you mean proper Nob Hill, not "Tendernob" places), than the Marina area won't be much different. Neither of these neighborhoods are cheap by SF standards (and "SF standards" are very much not cheap by...any standard).

The Marina is personally not really my scene, but it is a great place to meet women (I know many people who have done well in that area of the City). Lots of good nightlife there, as well.

The Marina Safeway has a well-deserved "Meet Market" ("Dateway") reputation (from people I know that live in that area), so there's that...
The Marina is mostly young White yuppies. If you aren't white you might not even go out around there as people simply won't even talk to you.
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Old 07-17-2016, 11:20 AM
 
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That is not changing the topic. The topic (or sub-topic/digression) is about whom Asian women are dating. If Asian men are dating, including Asian women among their dating pool, that's relevant. And much dating goes on outside of OLD, as has been said before. All relevant.

I agree with Ann; I haven't seen Asian men having trouble getting dates, though I understand that some South Asian men struggle. Some.
Most South Asian men struggle because the media here ****s on them and project them as less than suitable males and being an inferior race overall.

By denying that this discrimination exists you are actually supporting the status quo. If you are a White male I can see why you would support the status quo, because it helps your cause and you can have a wider variety of women to have fun with.
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Old 07-17-2016, 11:27 AM
 
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Yup. The data is unmistakable.



And just like I mentioned before, the "qualifications" you need as a minority male to date the "same" women as broke, tall, white baristas are entirely unreasonable. IMO the Bay Area no less racist than the deep south in regards to dating. BS aside. All you have to do is look around and see the obvious patterns.
To be a minority male esp if you are Asian or Indian and be able to date a girl a White, tall, broke guy has been able to date you need to make atleast 10 times what he makes per annum, and be better than him in every aspect to compensate for you being non White. That's more emphasized in the big cities in the US than the smaller towns where you might still have a chance due to being exotic.

I lived in the deep South and I have had plenty of women who were curious about me, reason being that I am very outgoing, social and extroverted which again are things they aren't used to seeing from someone of my background. So that sparked an instant curiosity and led to dates etc. Note that I am not even tall at 5'8" but that didn't seem to matter.

However the job market in deep South for a techie is limited in scope which made me arrive to this city. I am a sub human here since none of my qualities matter, all women here see is that I am not White and tall. Now I don't want to date women in this city who have the personality of a toothpick with their so called "standards" based on race so it's a win-win as I don't want to spend a penny on these characters. I am just looking to open my own business and get out of here instead of rotting away in a place where your race determines your social value even far more than the deep South.
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Old 07-19-2016, 04:54 PM
 
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I'm looking at an opportunity in SF and recently read in several articles that it's an awful place for straight single men as its a total sausage fest. Is that accurate? I currently live in DC but the job opportunity in SF is appealing. Does the dating scene truly suck for guys in SF?

SF has a higher than average population of gay men, which means there are more straight women available to straight men.
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Old 07-19-2016, 08:48 PM
 
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Im from houston and have been seeing a girl all the way in san francisco lol im black shes asian. She is beautiful but my take on the scene is that there are alot of guys in that city and I didnt notice alot of variety compared to texas woman wise and alot of the women either look plain or are ghetto lol. I think it would be a horrible place to date as a single male. The guy that said girls have alot of options is so true. Ive never seen so many thirsty men go after the girl i was talking too in a 24 hour span hahah. The bad side to this is yes like he said I notice that many dont care if they are in a relationship or not. This is the first girl ive ever talked to for over 8 months that hasnt hinted about a relationship or even gotten attached lmaooo. I have no problem but I see how guys she has talked to in san fran get frustrated/mad etc and start acting crazy and I dont blame them lol
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Old 07-19-2016, 10:08 PM
 
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Can women chime in and share what the dating scene in the Bay Area is like for them?
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Old 07-20-2016, 10:38 PM
 
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Can women chime in and share what the dating scene in the Bay Area is like for them?
Female friends that have moved to here from NYC say that it's way better for them. The ratio is in their favor, and the most obvious way to tell is that their tinder matches are 3x - 4x the amount vs. NYC
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Old 07-21-2016, 11:59 PM
 
Location: "Silicon Valley" (part of San Francisco Bay Area, California, USA)
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Well, I'm a short white male (5'7") and have never had a GF or kissed anyone. My depressing love life, though, has nothing to do with the area. I'm unattractive and my personality is suitable for friendship but apparently not attractive for a relationship.

There is the friend, the semi-famous lesbian who offered to experiment with me. But I don't have romantic feelings for her (at least not right now), and she never has romantic feelings for men. We would be friends with benefits and it would never become a deeper relationship. But I'm still interested, because she is someone I care about, so I feel like it would be meaningful. So there's some hope there, I guess. The only thing keeping us from doing it is that she lives far away, lol.
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Old 07-24-2016, 03:47 PM
 
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Well, I'm a short white male (5'7") and have never had a GF or kissed anyone. My depressing love life, though, has nothing to do with the area. I'm unattractive and my personality is suitable for friendship but apparently not attractive for a relationship.

There is the friend, the semi-famous lesbian who offered to experiment with me. But I don't have romantic feelings for her (at least not right now), and she never has romantic feelings for men. We would be friends with benefits and it would never become a deeper relationship. But I'm still interested, because she is someone I care about, so I feel like it would be meaningful. So there's some hope there, I guess. The only thing keeping us from doing it is that she lives far away, lol.
How old are you? I know some white men in this area that are around 5'7" and so on and have some pretty cute girlfriends. I know women here are more heightist than any other metro of the US but still 5'7" isn't midget status to be fair
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