Why are Seatte/Puget Sound girls such flakes and so picky? - dating scene sucks here (Seattle: sales, how much)

[xani]

Originally Posted by SeattleSnowFlakes

I don't have much time to write out my disgust and anger with the dating scene that I've experienced in the Seattle area (also includes Tacoma, Lacey and Snohomish county areas.

Girls I've been on dates with only met with me one time.

One girl was even rude to text message me, addressed me as "hey" and told me she didn't want to continue with me.

Another girl, I thought we clicked together. She was introduced to me by my mother's friend. We sent each other text messages and met up at a coffee shop. I thanked her for the coffee shop get-together and wanted to have lunch with her. Her response was that she was going to eat out with co-workers on a Saturday. I then asked her about eating out together on Sunday. No response. I then texted her three hours later, in which she "finally" responded that she was going to go Christmas shopping.
To make a long story short, she ended up not responding to my subsequent text messages.

Why the hell are Seattle/Puget Sound girls so rude and don't meet up on more dates or show interest in a good guy who approach them?

I'm sick and tired of these one-time date/meet ups and not advancing any further. Very common amongst the ladies of Seattle / Puget Sound area. This is a guy coming from outside of WA state.

YOU are a classical example of a "special Snow Flake".

Grow up, welcome to real life, it ain't going to be your way all the time.

[NeptuneDreams]

I am wondering where all these single men in Seattle are? So far, the only ones I have met that I think may be compatible, already have girlfriends. And the only ones who express an interest in me are unemployed alcoholics who live with their parents, married dudes looking for a mistress, or guys with a fat-fetish who would love to get their hands on my curves but have no substance. I am not trying to be picky-just a friendly fella with a brain and a job would do. And online dating is the worst! But at least I can weed out the fat-phobes without making any contact.:P

[Lexiilove]

I just moved here August from the Bay Area, and I haven't officially started dating I really haven't found any men here attractive. I've signed on to clover and bumble (dating apps) and literally I might have liked 10 guys (I've gotten few thousand likes/msgs for myself). Athough I'm simply viewing the prospects it just seems crazy to me. I'm not sure if I'm too picky or what but I can already tell that dating is going to be an uphill battle unfortunately.

[portlanderinOC]

Originally Posted by globalcitizen

Rampant feminism as elsewhere in the US. Why even bother? Most of them are a bunch of overweight, tatted up, pierced up hipsters. You consider that attractive? They're not worth your time. If there's one normal looking chick all the guys will be over her and the ***** shields will rise high but that same girl would be considered average somewhere in Eastern Europe for example. Look elsewhere. Plenty of feminine women on this planet worth pursuing. Many of them would love to move to America.

That's because Eastern Europe is still run by a patriarchy which expects women to always dress like models whilst men get to be fat, hairy, and wear track suits (I'm half Russian btw, I can say this ). Did I also mention that a lot of people seem to move here from former Eastern bloc nations? Jee, I wonder why...
We had that in America once too, it was called the 1950s. Here in Seattle, we like to live in the 21st Century, and if you don't agree with that there are plenty of flyover states who love people with that kind of mentality, which by the way, also seems to be where a lot of our transplants come from, again I wonder why...
Also as a man, what gives you the right to say what is feminine and what is not? If you don't like the way a woman looks, that's fine, but there's no need to shame people who not living up to your double standards of beauty.
Yes we're progressive, and unapologetic about it too, sorry not sorry.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by globalcitizen

Rampant feminism as elsewhere in the US. Why even bother? Most of them are a bunch of overweight, tatted up, pierced up hipsters. You consider that attractive? They're not worth your time. If there's one normal looking chick all the guys will be over her and the ***** shields will rise high but that same girl would be considered average somewhere in Eastern Europe for example. Look elsewhere. Plenty of feminine women on this planet worth pursuing. Many of them would love to move to America.

You must not have spent much time in Seattle; it's known to have the highest percentage of in-shape women in the US, along with the rest of the West Coast and Colorado. Women are very into outdoor activity here, generally, and tend to be active gym-goers as well. And I can tell you've never been to Eastern Europe, because you're oblivious to the fact that there are a lot of very average women there. (I'm Russian, I can say this. ) Oh, and btw, The Seattle area has a high percentage of Russian women in all age groups, like San Francisco and certain other parts of the Bay.

[thatguy950]

Originally Posted by Lexiilove

I just moved here August from the Bay Area, and I haven't officially started dating I really haven't found any men here attractive. I've signed on to clover and bumble (dating apps) and literally I might have liked 10 guys (I've gotten few thousand likes/msgs for myself). Athough I'm simply viewing the prospects it just seems crazy to me. I'm not sure if I'm too picky or what but I can already tell that dating is going to be an uphill battle unfortunately.

Guaranteed this is it. Thirsty white knights on social media have probably inflated your ego to Jupiter and now no one but a 6'3" male model is up to your standards, even though you're probably average yourself.

[sholomar]

Being a provider male and caring about them doesn't cut it anymore.. you have to be funny, edgy, likable, with a nice social circle, and it helps if you know how to playfully tease them

Women have more options because of social media and the like, even though it's supposed to be around 50/50 male female ratio in population, in reality a large number of men, say 50%, are have to put in an unnatural amount of effort and go beyond who they actually are to get anything, while the top 20% have their pick because they are naturally attractive from a biological, get her juices flowing and emotions going standpoint. I suspect a lot of these top 20% are bedding 2, 3 different women at a time, and a lot of the women who are attracted to these types of men have slept with dozens of men in their lifetimes if not more. Like attracts like. These are the single mothers with 2+ kids on dating sites that use the word "fun" in their profile and never respond to a typical guy's messages.. they don't want a father figure, they want to have "fun" ... monogamous relationships developed later in our evolution and depending on upbringing and genetics the drive to be with the "alpha" male is stronger in some women that to have a stable family life.

Unfortunately the supply of nice, loyal housewife types who are attracted to normal, less exciting men, is not as high as the supply of men who want one.

These are all generalizations and don't apply to everyone of course... it's more a contrast of the way things were say 50 years ago when religion had more rigid control over our base impulses and our ability to just "fly free" and enjoy all the pleasures of life without guilt.. our suppressed genetic urges... just wasn't there like it is today.

[nirvana07]

Originally Posted by Hemlock140

Then there is the recent emphasis on career, people are waiting until their 30s or even 40s to marry and have kids, so there is no longer an urgency to find a mate..

Don't they need sexual healing?

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by thatguy950

Guaranteed this is it. Thirsty white knights on social media have probably inflated your ego to Jupiter and now no one but a 6'3" male model is up to your standards, even though you're probably average yourself.

Why assume that when she's only been there a few months?

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by NeptuneDreams

I am wondering where all these single men in Seattle are? So far, the only ones I have met that I think may be compatible, already have girlfriends. And the only ones who express an interest in me are unemployed alcoholics who live with their parents, married dudes looking for a mistress, or guys with a fat-fetish who would love to get their hands on my curves but have no substance. I am not trying to be picky-just a friendly fella with a brain and a job would do. And online dating is the worst! But at least I can weed out the fat-phobes without making any contact.:P

The single guys are participating in hikes with The Mountaineers, they're at REI (which organizes social events), they're in the canoe and kayak clubs, and in the neighborhood soccer leagues that the Parks Dept. organizes. A few are in the Parks Dept. martial arts classes, the Chi Gong-in-the-Park sessions on weekends, and are volunteering for the Folk Life organization that puts on the annual Folk Life Festival and other events. Some are at the Balkan dance evenings, others are into Contra dancing, others may be in Swing or Salsa dance groups.