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I have been with my fiance for 8 years. We will be getting married in the fall. We were perfectly happy the way we were, but we do want to start a family and feel it's time. I just don't understand why so many people had to judge us before, for not being married. Why do they care so much? Even a nosy coworker the other day felt the need to say "Oh I'm glad you're getting married, I thought you guys were going to break up." Some people have literally cut me off mid sentence when I'm saying "We are just happy the way we are," to say "Well you should be married, it's just a piece of paper." It's just so obnoxious to me. I guess some people are just old fashioned, and/or religious. I am neither. I shouldn't care, but unfortunately I let it get to me sometimes.
Normal behavior is not old fashioned just because you disagree with it. At least your getting married before you have children. It's cruel when children are called bastards but it happens.
Most relationships either end in marriage, or break up. Look around and see how many have lived together as an unmarried couple for 20 or 50 or 60 years. Probably not many. Instead of feeling so threatened by other people, take a moment to think that maybe by wishing you marriage, they are saying they want you two to have a happy and lasting relationship instead of a breakup. Or, maybe they know that your gf has not been as content, but she's been hanging in there, putting up with the live-together arrangement when she was been wanting marriage, and you are the only obvious one who can't see that.
I have been with my fiance for 8 years. We will be getting married in the fall. We were perfectly happy the way we were, but we do want to start a family and feel it's time. I just don't understand why so many people had to judge us before, for not being married. Why do they care so much? Even a nosy coworker the other day felt the need to say "Oh I'm glad you're getting married, I thought you guys were going to break up." Some people have literally cut me off mid sentence when I'm saying "We are just happy the way we are," to say "Well you should be married, it's just a piece of paper." It's just so obnoxious to me. I guess some people are just old fashioned, and/or religious. I am neither. I shouldn't care, but unfortunately I let it get to me sometimes.
It really shouldn't matter to you what others think, but people have a tendency to opine and judge the lives of others. However marriage isn't just a piece of paper, and it isn't old fashioned to get married versus just live together.
Most relationships either end in marriage, or break up. Look around and see how many have lived together as an unmarried couple for 20 or 50 or 60 years. Probably not many. Instead of feeling so threatened by other people, take a moment to think that maybe by wishing you marriage, they are saying they want you two to have a happy and lasting relationship instead of a breakup. Or, maybe they know that your gf has not been as content, but she's been hanging in there, putting up with the live-together arrangement when she was been wanting marriage, and you are the only obvious one who can't see that.
The OP is a woman by the way. So, I'm assuming she's talking about her bf.
Normal behavior is not old fashioned just because you disagree with it. At least your getting married before you have children. It's cruel when children are called bastards but it happens.
Being obnoxious and sticking your nose in other people's business is normal behavior for you? You must be a joy to be around.
Being obnoxious and sticking your nose in other people's business is normal behavior for you? You must be a joy to be around.
Normal behavior is not defined by any one person. It is also not made up as you go. Society has norms. By the way I am a joy to be around, but people outside the norms will never have to chance to be around me.
Other peoples business is usually no one else's business. If it is behavior that contributes to the breakdown of society, such as illegitimacy , it is the business of all. When you remove the stigma on wrong behavior it becomes common place.
Because they want you to be as miserable and trapped as they are. They envy your freedom.
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