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Only if you buy into the stupid diamond commercials. Why do people fall for this marketing crap?
It's not "crap" to me. My love recently proposed and the ring was beautiful, expensive (40k) and I was thrilled. If he had bought me something cheap I would have felt... horrible.
Engagement rings don't have to be super expensive, but if the ring is just $90, I mean, unless the guy is broke he must not think much of you.
It's not "crap" to me. My love recently proposed and the ring was beautiful, expensive (40k) and I was thrilled. If he had bought me something cheap I would have felt... horrible.
Engagement rings don't have to be super expensive, but if the ring is just $90, I mean, unless the guy is broke he must not think much of you.
Your name here (Frustrated Hippy) and the fact that you have a ring like that and would feel horrible with a $90 ring just seems......strange to me.
It's not "crap" to me. My love recently proposed and the ring was beautiful, expensive (40k) and I was thrilled. If he had bought me something cheap I would have felt... horrible.
Engagement rings don't have to be super expensive, but if the ring is just $90, I mean, unless the guy is broke he must not think much of you.
That a man should spend "3 months of net worth" is what I was saying was CRAP. And it is. It is pure marketing by the diamond companies. If your guy is well off and wants to throw a bunch of bills at a ring because that is just what he wants to do, that's fine. Personally I have a lot better things I could do with 40K. But to claim that there is a certain "guideline based on income" is hogwash.
My husband drove us to a mall one day and stopped at one of the jewelry stores there. And said - pick your ring. I knew he does not have that much money so I picked a reasonably priced one. I liked the ring for a month and now it's just eh.
I am just not the type to pick a pricey ring. I just am not a bridezilla like that. My husband is lucky I am frugal and CONSIDERATE.
Mine kinda look like this:
More like this:
How much is a man expected to spend on a ring?
I definitely don't expect my husband to spend ridiculous amount of money, that's for sure.
I see what Frustrated Hippy meant. In HER situation, a 90-dollar ring would have been insulting.
To a couple of unemployed college kids, 90 bucks could be very symbolic of a sacrifice.
My fiance made well into the six figures. A $500 ring was fine by me.
Why would anyone be insulted by a loving gesture just because it didn't cost a small fortune? Doesn't sound like someone who's getting married for the right reasons.
After marriage, our money will be joined. So that is one motivator to make it VERY clear I don't want a crazy ring. I have goals to purchase my first home in a few years. That's not to say I can't save all MY money for our home, however it will make it easier if he is able to contribute more.
I think you should spend exactly what you want to spend. I told my boyfriend I am ok with no ring, and a band after we get married (I do like the symbolism). He insists on the engagement ring, so I gave him some advice as to what I would wear if he chooses to get me one.
Since we aren't having a wedding, I'd be ok with us spending $ on decent rings. However, I don't need a ring at all. I'm quite neutral on the ring.
As for how much specifically, it shouldn't make you "hurt", and it shouldn't be bought on debt. You should still be able to make all your monthly bills, and have your 6 month living expense cushion. If the ring starts cutting into those expenses, you are spending too much. I think of a ring as a luxury vacation. Nothing wrong with taking it, nothing wrong with NOT taking it, but definitely wrong if you can't afford it.
Engagement rings don't have to be super expensive, but if the ring is just $90, I mean, unless the guy is broke he must not think much of you.
Is it important that he is deciding to spend the rest of his life with you and only be committed to you or is it more important for you to see how much he spend or didn't spend on that symbolic thing?
How much are you considering to spend on his ring?
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