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Yeah I know it's two events...but the purpose of a bridal shower gift is to give the couple something they'll use when they're married, no? And the wedding gift serves the same puropse, correct? So what I should've said was I don't understand the point of giving two gifts for the same purpose. It just makes sense to me that if you give a gift for the bridal shower you'd be exempt from giving one for the wedding...but whatever, tradition is tradition. It's still kind of annoying though.
So don't go to the shower. Very simple solution. I don't go to baby or bridal showers anymore, and haven't for years. If I want to give a gift, I give one separately.
Yeah I know it's two events...but the purpose of a bridal shower gift is to give the couple something they'll use when they're married, no? And the wedding gift serves the same puropse, correct? So what I should've said was I don't understand the point of giving two gifts for the same purpose. It just makes sense to me that if you give a gift for the bridal shower you'd be exempt from giving one for the wedding...but whatever, tradition is tradition. It's still kind of annoying though.
Yes, bridal showers are a tradition, but a tradition that has largely outlived it's usefulness. Gone are the days (thankfully) when a young woman lived at home until she got married, thus needing to stock her first kitchen and home with essentials. My mom still talks about "showering" brides-to-be with little gifts like a tea towel or set of measuring cups. Can you imagine showing up at a shower these days with nothing but a wrapped up set of measuring cups? You'd be a laughing stock. Now brides register for Wii's and and excursions for their honeymoon, because their homes are already completely set up.
For bridal showers I have been giving a Dreamlines wedding dress sketch. If we do more than her wedding dress then I try to get a few others in on it, so we can choose the larger size as well. I have a sketch and love it. I give this whenever I can, as you really can't get more personalized and I love giving the best gift! :-)
My daughter has been married for less than a year. She rec'd 17 wedding frames. (everyone except 1 person added the frame in addition to another gift). Also, all of the frames are wedding themed. There is no way she can use all those frames. She is sort of embarrassed because there is no way she can use all those frames. If people come to her home, they know she isn't using the frames.
As someone suggested in an earlier post- frames are not a good idea- just like candles.
My daughter has been married for less than a year. She rec'd 17 wedding frames. (everyone except 1 person added the frame in addition to another gift). Also, all of the frames are wedding themed. There is no way she can use all those frames. She is sort of embarrassed because there is no way she can use all those frames. If people come to her home, they know she isn't using the frames.
As someone suggested in an earlier post- frames are not a good idea- just like candles.
I am assuming that most of the frames are "generic" wedding frames, basically frames with hearts or bells or just nice silver frames. I have seen young couples use frames like that to post other pictures, such as family pictures, pictures from their honeymoon, pictures of their new baby (in the future), pictures from their 1st anniversary, etc.
Of course, 17 frames are a lot of frames, but unless they all are engraved "Mary & John, Married 9-02-14" or say "Our Wedding" I am sure that they will be able to use many, if not all, of them eventually. Wouldn't a cute picture of their two children, age 4 and 6, look wonderful in a silver frame with interlocking hearts (of course, a few years in the future) ?
Perhaps, it has something to do with their circle of friends/relatives, but, I don't believe that my son & his wife received even one picture frame as a wedding gift when they were married four years ago.
My daughter has been married for less than a year. She rec'd 17 wedding frames. (everyone except 1 person added the frame in addition to another gift). Also, all of the frames are wedding themed. There is no way she can use all those frames. She is sort of embarrassed because there is no way she can use all those frames. If people come to her home, they know she isn't using the frames.
As someone suggested in an earlier post- frames are not a good idea- just like candles.
I received about 3 wedding frames. The rest were non-specific. Based on my own gifts, I'd say dish towels and place mats are not good gifts. I received about 2 dozen place mats and so many dish towels, I'm still using them 15+ years later. I guess everyone has a different story.
ETA, a few years later, I used one of the wedding frames for my sister's wedding photo.
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