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Is there a polite way of requesting cash/gift cards instead of doing a registry and/or receiving other gifts?
how would this be worded exactly on the invitations?
There is no way to do this without sounding tacky and petty, sorry.
IF, however, you were to say something like, "The bride and groom are not registered anywhere for any gifts, your presence at our special day is gift enough", you might luck up with gifts of cash given in congratulations cards. Of course you could just end up with nothing, but that's the risk you take
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There is no way to do this without sounding tacky and petty, sorry.
IF, however, you were to say something like, "The bride and groom are not registered anywhere for any gifts, your presence at our special day is gift enough", you might luck up with gifts of cash given in congratulations cards. Of course you could just end up with nothing, but that's the risk you take
LOL That's what I'm thinking. I'd be wondering, what are they saying? "No gifts, please"?
Is there a polite way of requesting cash/gift cards instead of doing a registry and/or receiving other gifts?
how would this be worded exactly on the invitations?
"Don't give us gifts, they don't mean jack
I'll only return them and get cash back
Save yourself the time and gas miles
Cash in an envelope is what brings us smiles"
Unfortunately, unless you have something specific you want the money for, like saving for a down payment on a house or your honeymoon, retirement fund or future children's college fund there really is no tactful way to ask for cash in the invitation.
If you do have something, you can say, "In leiu of gifts, please contribute to "insert name here" fund. Donations can be made at "-----bank" or "-----travel agency" or "-------- mutual fund company".
Still be prepared for people to offended that you are asking for the contribution.
Well, according to Miss Manners/Emily Post/etc, you shouldn't say anything about gifts on the invitation itself. It's an invitation, not a shakedown. What you can do is let your family and friends know this tactfully, so that if anyone asks where you're registered they can say, "oh, they haven't registered anywhere, but they're saving for a down payment on a house." Or if you have a wedding website, put something there.
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Well, according to Miss Manners/Emily Post/etc, you shouldn't say anything about gifts on the invitation itself. It's an invitation, not a shakedown. What you can do is let your family and friends know this tactfully, so that if anyone asks where you're registered they can say, "oh, they haven't registered anywhere, yadda yadda." Or if you have a wedding website, put something there.
That's what I'm thinking. How's "We're saving for _______________ so donations in lieu of gifts would be put to great use. No donation too small"?
ETA: Change 'donation' to 'contribution'.
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Is there a polite way of requesting cash/gift cards instead of doing a registry and/or receiving other gifts?
how would this be worded exactly on the invitations?
Great question. Did a little bit of research and discovered a "Money Tree" could be used at the bridal shower in lieu of gifts and that would be acceptable. Also, a themed money tree could be briefly described on the invitation indicating the cash gifts would be used for a specific purpose, such as New Baby Fund or Home Purchase.
If the money tree is a part of the couples cultural tradition at weddings, I suggest a description of the tradition on a small business size card to be included in the envelope, but make no mention of gifts on the actual wedding invitation.I just love weddings!
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