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Is this a new awful trend? A family member of mine is going to be in a wedding later this year. She told me the bride is doing the same thing, asking for money for their honeymoon! When did weddings and showers turn into such money grubbing events? Another trend I have noticed is women having second baby showers. I'm not talking about someone that has a long time span between children, Im talking about 1-3 yr span.
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Some might think that the cash would help them out more to put towards their "honeymoon" and maybe it would, versus getting a gift that they really don`t need, or want.
I'll add this too...depending on what area of the country you are in, tradition is "cash only" gifts.
When I got married (on Long Island) it was customary to give cash as a gift. EVERYONE gave cash except for a few of my friends that were from western NY, they gave gifts, because that is what was customary in their neck of the woods. We didn't request gifts at all though.
I never had an engagement party either...to me that was just another venue for people to bring gifts, and I wasn't interested. Instead my husband (then finace) invited both of our parents out to dinner at a nice restaurant to celebrate our engagement, his treat.
If you feel it was tacky or gift grabbing, I would go with those feelings. It is possible that since they did what they did they won't see it that way.
I had feelings of gift grabbing in the past and when I put a stop to it, I felt a whole lot better for not giving in. At first, I felt bad and cheap but now, I am glad I stuck to my feelings.
The last two weddings I;ve been forced to go to had little envelopes marked thinkgs like "kitchen", "bathroom"... and people placed money in them rather than buy gifts. Personally, I think it's tacky, but it seems to be the rage right now.
when a gift list is made, they will put down "gift certifactes, or monetary gifts are also appreciated" but to say, go to our website and get out your paypals--is a bit much
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When did weddings and showers turn into such money grubbing events? 
Another trend I have noticed is women having second baby showers. I'm not talking about someone that has a long time span between children, Im talking about 1-3 yr span. 
