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A friend of mine told me yesterday that she got chewed out by her manager in front of vendors (recieving job) since the the manager accused her of talking rude. All she told him she knew something had to be done but she had her hands full. My friend has a good customer and vendor respect at this place of employment. The manager then called her in the office and continued shouting at her. This was a blow to her pride because she takes her job serously. She ended up crying and wanted to say I quit. This not the first time it happened it happened to her and she is on pins and needles everyday on this. She just gets paid over min wage. She is a hard working human being who likes the duty of her job otherwise.
Sounds like she needs to contact HR ASAP. Hopefully she is documenting these occurrences. If she feels that the reprimand is unjustified, she should really move forward with HR action..."people only do to you, what you allow".
and no, this has never happened to me...I wish a muthaskippy would!
I had a supervisor once that called me "nubnuts" in front of co-workers. The guy was a manic-depressive type and he did this for no particular reason. I just looked at him and said "Gary, I feel like you are sexually harassing me. You are implying that you know, or would like to know what my nuts feel like. If it were coming from a hetero-sexual I would not feel as violated as I do coming from you......" (Gary wasn't gay but he had a huge case of "homopobia") I have never seen anyone turn so red in my life. He never messed with me again and since he wasn't my direct supervisor.....
My boss gets that way but not like shouting and swearing, but tries to make it sound like a joke to make me look bad infront of others and he's "Gitting R Dunn!". If I ignore it, it would give the impression I'm a wuss so I have to fight fire with fire since there are witnesses present.
Unfortunlantly family business. She is charting incidents. Thanks for reading.
In which case, she has two options...freshen up her resume and quietly job search, or because the economic situation makes job searching difficult right now and probably for the next couple of years, work on her reactions and feelings. The situation is not about her. It's about the fact that she has a boss who does not know how to work effectively with people. Making herself sick is allowing the boss to win. If the boss harangues her, she'll need to use that voice in her head to repeat some affirming statement about how great she is and tune the boss out. Trust, I know these things are easier said than done. Wishing the best for the new year.
A friend of mine told me yesterday that she got chewed out by her manager in front of vendors (recieving job) since the the manager accused her of talking rude. All she told him she knew something had to be done but she had her hands full. My friend has a good customer and vendor respect at this place of employment. The manager then called her in the office and continued shouting at her. This was a blow to her pride because she takes her job serously. She ended up crying and wanted to say I quit. This not the first time it happened it happened to her and she is on pins and needles everyday on this. She just gets paid over min wage. She is a hard working human being who likes the duty of her job otherwise.
Do you work there? If not, how do you know? Everyone has worked with bad workers. I doubt if they go around telling people that they are the worst employee there. They always seem to say how good they are at their job.
Several years ago the WSJ had a series about employees and how they reacted to situations like this. Growing up they were alway told how good they were. That they can be whatever they wanted. No one ever yelled at them. Then they get to the real world and can't handle it. Some bosses yell. Get over it. At least you know how they feel. Some are always nice and polite and then kill you in your personel file. There was one CEO that screamed at employees that made a mistake as a test. If they did not scream back they had no future with the company. After I read that I always remembered to yell back when yelled at. That is why so many brassy women seem successful in business, and wimpy men fail.
Constant berating of a worker is inappropriate--particularly if an individual is singled out for reprimands that other workers are not, and/or is held to standards that other individuals in the same position are not. Also reprimands should involve identifying misbehavior and correcting it. But if they are just tirades that don't share any information the recipient can use to rectify or correct the situation, then its abusive, and repeated instances could constitute a hostile work environment.
On the other hand, some people are extremely sensitive. I work with a woman who quivers at the simplest instruction--not even a reprimand, just a simple directive. She really expects people to walk on eggshells around her, and its not really reasonable. Over the past two years I've watched her become somewhat less fragile but she still needs to strengthen her backbone.
I was once on the receiving end of a public chewing-out, and for doing specifically what I was told to do. The manager wanted to hear none of it. Worse, there were witnesses who just kept mum because they didn't want to stick their neck out for me. That situation has really formed my view of the workplace and in a few situations since then when coworkers have been on the receiving end of what I think is inappropriate, I've spoken up on their behalf. I know what it feels like to be left dangling by coworkers and I don't want to be 'that person'.
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(Gary wasn't gay but he had a huge case of "homopobia") I have never seen anyone turn so red in my life. He never messed with me again and since he wasn't my direct supervisor.....
