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How do you feel about going to the Christmas Party being around Phony co-workers?
I'm not perfect but i'm pretty much a for real person. There's some co-workers that barely speak or want to be around you, which I don't have a problem with, my problem is.
One day out of the 365 days in the year at the Christmas Party, these same people are in your face laughing & trying to have a conversation with you.
Don't let them have some alcoholic beverage in there system, they are really going to be all up in your face!
Normally our Christmas Party is on a Saturday.
Here's the Shocker, come Monday morning back to work, these same fake co-workers return to being well, fake.
By me being genuine, a few times, I didn't want to attend the party simply because of experiencing this type of thing.
This year our party is on December 14th Again i'm thinking long & hard whether or not, I want to go.
Some of you have dealt with this at work & know exactly where i'm coming from.
Bottom line, do you suck it up and go on to the Christmas Party?
At my last job, we didn't have a choice. It was mandatory even though we weren't paid for the time spent there. It was pathetic watching my co-workers slur their words and stumble around drunk. There was even a fight in the parking lot between two of the partners. I hated that not only were we expected to put in 65 hour work weeks for months on end, but when we did have time off we were expected to go to regular social functions like happy hours, golf games, and a Christmas party without being paid for any of it. I believe in a clear distinction between work time and personal time. My social life does not revolve around the people I work with. If I were you, I wouldn't go and if you get any flack for it, start looking for a new job.
I'll add that a Christmas party IS social time only, the workplace is not. I've often felt pressure on the job to be friends with seemingly dozens of people and I just don't have the time (or I won't get the work done). I can maintain a half-dozen work friends or so but that's about it. So I find it inappropriate the way some people think I'm an A-hole for not taking an interest in their lives nor sharing mine with them. And I'm more likely to get the promotion, so...
It seems that many people think social "rejection" cannot exist on the workplace. These are probably the same people who wouldn't dream of starting a conversation with a stranger on the Metro.
come Monday morning back to work, these same fake co-workers return to being well, fake.
Sounds like you have it backwards. While at work, they're working - not fake. Maybe they're fake at the xmas party, or they're trying to be friendly, festive, engaging, and social - behaviors typical of parties.
Take advantage of it. Do what everyone else wants to do at xmas parties - have a few drinks and try to hook up.
How do you feel about going to the Christmas Party being around Phony co-workers?
I'm not perfect but i'm pretty much a for real person. There's some co-workers that barely speak or want to be around you, which I don't have a problem with, my problem is.
One day out of the 365 days in the year at the Christmas Party, these same people are in your face laughing & trying to have a conversation with you.
Don't let them have some alcoholic beverage in there system, they are really going to be all up in your face!
Normally our Christmas Party is on a Saturday.
Here's the Shocker, come Monday morning back to work, these same fake co-workers return to being well, fake.
By me being genuine, a few times, I didn't want to attend the party simply because of experiencing this type of thing.
This year our party is on December 14th Again i'm thinking long & hard whether or not, I want to go.
Some of you have dealt with this at work & know exactly where i'm coming from.
Bottom line, do you suck it up and go on to the Christmas Party?
It is just something one does. Don't over-analyze. Who cares who interacts or how "fake" anyone is being? IT IS A PARTY.
Just go, do your thing, be polite and go home. And don't give it another thought.
Do you have at least one person you would enjoy talking to that would make it worth it?
Otherwise, it's about social graces. It's always good to make an appearance. You don't have to be phony yourself. Enjoy the food and liquor.
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