I don't care about your wedding! (good, coworker, hours, experience)
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If she talks to you, nod and that's it. If she gets the hint that you're not interested, then she'll stop. If she doesn't, then you can't do anything about it. You can't avoid all the annoying things your co-workers say and you can't make them stop.
I have a 62 year old co-worker who talks like a teenage brat. She whines, complains, sneers, and jeers every day about our customers, their questions, that they call too much, that they're ignorant, that they're stupid. It's aggravating, but what can you do? You can't tell her to stop.
It just sounds like she's happy now to be married. Let her know you are happy for her. Then if it keeps on, maybe you can relocate somewhere that you don't have to be around her anymore.
You seem to have no tolerance for what happens on other people's lives. This was a big event, and people talk about big events.
How long have you worked there?
You will be hearing a lot more about life events over the years.... get used to it.
Yep, glad I work in a place where we all get along and share each others' life experiences ! One girl just came back from Peru, and we all keep asking her about the trip. Another guy has an infant, and we can't wait to see updated pictures. One other guy has a wife who is 5 months pregnant, and we got to look at the first sonograms (sp?). They keep asking me how my latest car project is coming, and I ask them about their lives.
But, I have lived in places where people are not all that warm toward fellow coworkers (California) and work was not that pleasant. It isn't like we sit around all day shooting the breeze, but it only takes a few minutes to show someone you care and are interested in them as a person.
I don't care about most things other people talk about. If I care about the person talking (and/or our relationship), I'll fake interest. If the conversation gets excessive I'll give brief, disinterested feedback until the other person gets it that I don't care. Sometimes I change the subject myself. Usually people can pick up on it when I don't want to continue talking about a particular subject. That being said I'm not typically bothered by such things. I'd much rather listen to someone at work go on and on about their own life than have that person ask me personal questions about my life.
I think coming back from one's wedding is an exceptional life experience. I would expect to put up with a little more forced conversation for a week or so.
You know, getting married is a pretty big deal for most people, and often they want to express their happiness to the people around them. Yesterday was her first day back to work and you're complaining that she's still talking about it?
I'm thinking that she's not the problem in this situation.
You know, getting married is a pretty big deal for most people, and often they want to express their happiness to the people around them. Yesterday was her first day back to work and you're complaining that she's still talking about it?
I'm thinking that she's not the problem in this situation.
There isn't a problem. I just don't care. I got married a few years and didn't discuss it at work. I don't discuss my personal life at work. Period.
This is one of the reasons I took a paycut to get out of a cubicle and into my own office. I am close to the restroom now, but I swear that the sound of distant flushes is actually easier to tolerate than some of the TMI issues people like to banter about out loud. Wedding stories are annoying, I admit, but they pale in comparison to some stories I have heard across the hallway
Since yesterday? Give it time. It will die down in a couple of days. Sounds like the wedding may be just a symptom of other issues you have with her.
Or other issues you have.
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