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I don't think so. These are co-workers, not friends.
Not everyone is all fired-up interested in their co-worker's personal lives.
I would probably feel the same way as the OP.
Now if it was a good friend, on the other hand, then I would say... yeah, this person has issues. How would you not be excited for your friend's happiness.
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Best of luck to you when she becomes pregnant. You think a few days of marriage talk is going to drive you nuts? That's nothing compared to 7-8 months of baby talk.
Yup, in passing, just say - "I heard from across the office you had a great time. Welcome back".
Nice, yet passive aggressive. LOL
So help you God when this happens, not to mention who gets to pick up the slack when she goes on maternity leave.
I learned when I was an executive secretary, from I can't remember where, that one way to get rid of someone who comes to gossip or just hang out at your desk, is to give them some work. If every time they show up at your desk, they learn that you will give them something to do - they will stop showing up at your desk.
For instance, in your case you could interrupt this person and say something like, "I'm so sorry, hon, but I'm swamped. Can we talk later? And could you please take these letters to the mail room for me? You're a doll." Then, immediately turn away and pick up the phone.
Picking up the phone is an old trick I learned from a lawyer I worked for.
OP, I understand what you're saying and I sympathize.
BUT...
1) a couple days of her talking about her wedding isn't unreasonable
2) be careful - complaints about her wedding talk might make you come off as being jealous. I know that's not the case, but it will appear that way.
Just try to tune her out. Be polite, but no need to gush and ask for details like I'm sure some do. And picking up the phone or looking intently at a file are good tactics. (Skip the "hon", "doll", "sweetie"....Tacky and inappropriate)
Best of luck to you when she becomes pregnant. You think a few days of marriage talk is going to drive you nuts? That's nothing compared to 7-8 months of baby talk.
Yup, in passing, just say - "I heard from across the office you had a great time. Welcome back".
Nice, yet passive aggressive. LOL
Sipping coffee, waiting for the first real relationship argument.
If she talks to you, nod and that's it. If she gets the hint that you're not interested, then she'll stop. If she doesn't, then you can't do anything about it. You can't avoid all the annoying things your co-workers say and you can't make them stop.
I have a 62 year old co-worker who talks like a teenage brat. She whines, complains, sneers, and jeers every day about our customers, their questions, that they call too much, that they're ignorant, that they're stupid. It's aggravating, but what can you do? You can't tell her to stop.
Whiners are the worst.
You should say to that coworker, the more the customers call the more job security you have....
OP....you say that you just don't care....But, starting a thread about it says different. What's the real story??
I learned when I was an executive secretary, from I can't remember where, that one way to get rid of someone who comes to gossip or just hang out at your desk, is to give them some work. If every time they show up at your desk, they learn that you will give them something to do - they will stop showing up at your desk.
For instance, in your case you could interrupt this person and say something like, "I'm so sorry, hon, but I'm swamped. Can we talk later? And could you please take these letters to the mail room for me? You're a doll." Then, immediately turn away and pick up the phone.
Picking up the phone is an old trick I learned from a lawyer I worked for.
I get the sense the co-worker isn't personally addressing the OP.....That the OP is simply annoyed by the banter between the newly married/returned co-worker bantering with the others.
I think this annoyance stems from the OP's own feelings....if her attitude comes across in person like it does on here, her co-workers may simply ignore her...and I think that may be part of the OP's issues.
wait till you have to pitch in for a surprise baby shower in the future.(lol)
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