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Old 06-19-2019, 05:12 PM
 
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No, not really. PLUS, the truth is stress is just a chosen reaction. That means people are choosing to be stressed out. Crappy things will happen, but we get to chose how we react. It's possible to remain relatively calm in troubling circumstances.

A better course of action would be to learn some stress management techniques vs giving up salary. Check YouTube for some videos.

Just because you're calm doesn't mean you're not stressed out. People deal with stress differently. Some show it in the moment. Others you don't know about it until they finally quit.
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Old 06-19-2019, 05:50 PM
 
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No, not really. PLUS, the truth is stress is just a chosen reaction. That means people are choosing to be stressed out. Crappy things will happen, but we get to chose how we react. It's possible to remain relatively calm in troubling circumstances.

A better course of action would be to learn some stress management techniques vs giving up salary. Check YouTube for some videos.
Stress is a chosen reaction, to a certain extent.

Telling someone to stay at a poor job, or in a toxic environment simply because they should be able to "get over it" is somewhat ignorant. I question if you've ever been in a truly poor environment if the advise you are giving from this thread is to watch some youtube videos on stress management.
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Old 06-19-2019, 06:18 PM
 
Location: Northern Virginia
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Stress can be caused by anxieties in which case there are techniques to deal with it effectively...but it can also be caused by working intense 16 hour days for months, years with little interruption in which case it's simply a result of being overworked. Some jobs ask you to burn the candle at both ends, and I'm sure most people working those jobs eventually think about getting a job asking less of a commitment from them (the exception being people working a job that is 100% their passion and something they love doing more than just about anything else i.e. a very small % of the workforce).
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Old 06-20-2019, 06:09 AM
 
Location: South Africa
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Hi there,

Im 27 years old and just 6 months ago I resigned and left a very well paying job for someone my age and with my level of experience. In addition to the great pay the job covered food (just 1 meal a day) which was lunch but a great saving, covered transport to and from work and to top it all off I had a great dental and medical aid plan.

Long story short I was depressed and wanted to die every day. Horrible work environment, constant drama and work bullying.... so yeah I left chose my piece of mind over money. Now I get paid 5 times less but im really really at ease and don't regret it at all
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Old 06-20-2019, 07:30 AM
 
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Stress is a chosen reaction, to a certain extent.

Telling someone to stay at a poor job, or in a toxic environment simply because they should be able to "get over it" is somewhat ignorant. I question if you've ever been in a truly poor environment if the advise you are giving from this thread is to watch some youtube videos on stress management.
I didn't say any of that. But learning stress management techniques would be helpful NOW while the OP decides what to do. Is that not true?

What I was bring up is this knee jerk reaction to always assuming that less stress can only be found with lower pay. Hey, if folks want to leave money on the table, that's fine. There will be someone ready to pick it up.
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Old 06-20-2019, 08:59 AM
 
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I didn't say any of that. But learning stress management techniques would be helpful NOW while the OP decides what to do. Is that not true?

What I was bring up is this knee jerk reaction to always assuming that less stress can only be found with lower pay. Hey, if folks want to leave money on the table, that's fine. There will be someone ready to pick it up.
I understand the point you're attempting to make. You are not listening to the question being asked.

No one was asking if someone found a way to lower stress with the same job (or with a different job with the same pay). Obviously that's preferable. Everyone knows that. The question posed was whether anyone has stepped down from a 'good' job (ie, higher paying). Stay on topic. You seem to have an immediate reaction to dismiss/not listen to a question or problem and alter the scenarios people are in before responding, which is a somewhat naive reaction to many real world scenarios.

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