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Thank You..thank you...thank you everybody for such encouraging words....I am in tears. Having a tough time at work with this individual and I got this job after a lot of struggle. I did not know how to deal with her. But now thanks to all of you, I am prepared.
When I have these kind of people, generally I will try and kill them with kindness. If that does not work then I often get in their face and tell their asses of that I don't appreciate being bossed around. I have better luck by being assertive, but not nasty about it and throwing it back in their faces. Sometimes I want to crawl into a hole and say F U world and be done with it.
You're right, there's always one, and I believe it's definitely because they feel threatened by you in some way. You have no use for this person. Avoid, avoid, avoid, build a wall around yourself that they cannot penetrate.
#1 Rule - Be completely professional with this person, but not at all "friendly". You CANNOT "kill with kindness" in this situation. This person will take anything you say or reveal about yourself or your personal life and try to use it against you. If she tries to talk to you about anyone else in your work shared work environment, ignore that as well.
#2 Rule - Don't complain to anyone about her or mention that she is getting to you. Be patient. Before too long, you will find that other's have a problem with her as well. In other words, it's not you, it's her. I've got over 35 years of work experience under my belt, it never fails that if I start a new job and someone rubs me the wrong way, it's not too long before I find out other's are aware of it too. Often these types dig their own grave.
#3 - Be competent and friendly to the other people in the office (in a professional, of course).
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