I moved out.....Now what?
Posted 05-29-2012 at 05:00 PM by txtqueen
So I moved out of my mom's house about 6 months ago.
Granted I only had a drawer and some space in the bathroom at TG's apartment, I was STILL not LIVING at home.
Now I have pretty much gotten everything out, left stuff for a "spare bedroom" for them to do with as they please. Have family visiting or whatever.
Everyone told me to do this. Move out of your mom's house if you don't like it, get your own place and make your own rules, become independent and show your mom you're growing up, your mom really loves you blah blah ****ing blah.
I think I mentioned my laptop having some issues, well my mom burned a stolen copy of Windows 7 and told me it was going to fix ALL my problem, but now my laptop is screwed up even more and I can't do anything to fix it. When I installed it, it worked fine, I installed some anti-virus stuff on it and never used it very much. Maybe twice since putting the new OS on. I bring it over to our new place and the other night log in just fine, use it for a little bit, go for a walk and then I come home and try to log in and it doesn't work. Keeps telling me my password is wrong, even though I am POSITIVE I am typing it in right.
I tell my mom and she is of no help, telling me I must have done something wrong, that the virus must have embedded itself deeper than she thought.
I told her I need a LEGIT version of windows, not something stolen. I know, I am positive that it will fix it but she's telling me I don't need it, that *I* did something wrong.
I talked to my grandmother, asked if I could use some of my college fund to fix my laptop up so I can start slowly taking some classes again. My grandmother is 72 years old, she knows HOW to use a computer but knows nothing about computers. She told me to find out some prices and send her the links and she'd take care of it. I went to get a check to the college fund account from my mom (they are my grandmothers checks but my mom holds on to them), my mom lies and says she has none then calls my grandmother, tells my grandmother I don't know what I am talking about and that *I* broke my laptop and that it doesn't need a new OS.
I get a call from my grandmother who tells me, "Well I guess you're just going to send me your laptop info and I'll buy you the parts and your mom is going to fix the OS." My mom never is getting near my laptop again, ALL the computers in her house are having major issues, she doesn't know what she is doing.
But I am 22, she needs to stop stepping in and controlling my life and controlling how I handle things with other people.
When I was 19 and I visited my grandmother, she called my grandmother and told her I wasn't "allowed" to drive my grandmothers car. LMFAO @ allow, I was an adult in another state, allow my ass and it was my grandmothers car.
When I was 21 she didn't want me driving cross country to visit my grandmother, she called up my grandmother and told her that I wasn't an experienced enough driver, that I couldn't handle driving alone for that long, told her I was emotionally ready or mature enough, told her I wasn't allowed to drive there, that she didn't want me doing it.
And now this.
I am 22 years old, turning 23 in just a few months, I make more money than my mom does, because I actually have a job, I am supporting me, TG and feeding the dog until he gets his first check. I live in a nice place, everything is kept very clean and we're so much better off than my mom, my mom sits in her room, does nothing, lets her son run wild, stays up till all hours of the night and does nothing productive.
TG and I spent all day yesterday with his sister and niece. Planting flowers, doing yard work, cleaning up, BBQing out, while my mom was out buying ammo for my brother and his friend D to go shooting, when D is on medications for anger issues and has frequently talked about shooting and killing his parents.
Either way, I am an adult, a real adult now, so why does she think it is ok to step in, lie to grandmother so she can STILL try to control me? I've done all I am supposed to do and yet she still feels like she has any right at all to try and control me still. She seriously isn't a happy person unless she is making someone else miserable.
I am at a loss of what to do except cut off all contact for awhile and not speak to her whatsoever and tell my grandmother to not speak to my mom about me anymore and if my mom calls with her little game playing to hang up and not listen to it.
My mom is a liar, a mooch, a manipulator and she isn't happy unless she is dragging someone else down.
TG pretty much refuses to go over to my mom's house because he hates seeing what she does and how miserable it makes me, he told me he can't stand to see me upset over what she does to me.
I don't know how to handle this at all.
Granted I only had a drawer and some space in the bathroom at TG's apartment, I was STILL not LIVING at home.
Now I have pretty much gotten everything out, left stuff for a "spare bedroom" for them to do with as they please. Have family visiting or whatever.
Everyone told me to do this. Move out of your mom's house if you don't like it, get your own place and make your own rules, become independent and show your mom you're growing up, your mom really loves you blah blah ****ing blah.
I think I mentioned my laptop having some issues, well my mom burned a stolen copy of Windows 7 and told me it was going to fix ALL my problem, but now my laptop is screwed up even more and I can't do anything to fix it. When I installed it, it worked fine, I installed some anti-virus stuff on it and never used it very much. Maybe twice since putting the new OS on. I bring it over to our new place and the other night log in just fine, use it for a little bit, go for a walk and then I come home and try to log in and it doesn't work. Keeps telling me my password is wrong, even though I am POSITIVE I am typing it in right.
I tell my mom and she is of no help, telling me I must have done something wrong, that the virus must have embedded itself deeper than she thought.
I told her I need a LEGIT version of windows, not something stolen. I know, I am positive that it will fix it but she's telling me I don't need it, that *I* did something wrong.
I talked to my grandmother, asked if I could use some of my college fund to fix my laptop up so I can start slowly taking some classes again. My grandmother is 72 years old, she knows HOW to use a computer but knows nothing about computers. She told me to find out some prices and send her the links and she'd take care of it. I went to get a check to the college fund account from my mom (they are my grandmothers checks but my mom holds on to them), my mom lies and says she has none then calls my grandmother, tells my grandmother I don't know what I am talking about and that *I* broke my laptop and that it doesn't need a new OS.
I get a call from my grandmother who tells me, "Well I guess you're just going to send me your laptop info and I'll buy you the parts and your mom is going to fix the OS." My mom never is getting near my laptop again, ALL the computers in her house are having major issues, she doesn't know what she is doing.
But I am 22, she needs to stop stepping in and controlling my life and controlling how I handle things with other people.
When I was 19 and I visited my grandmother, she called my grandmother and told her I wasn't "allowed" to drive my grandmothers car. LMFAO @ allow, I was an adult in another state, allow my ass and it was my grandmothers car.
When I was 21 she didn't want me driving cross country to visit my grandmother, she called up my grandmother and told her that I wasn't an experienced enough driver, that I couldn't handle driving alone for that long, told her I was emotionally ready or mature enough, told her I wasn't allowed to drive there, that she didn't want me doing it.
And now this.
I am 22 years old, turning 23 in just a few months, I make more money than my mom does, because I actually have a job, I am supporting me, TG and feeding the dog until he gets his first check. I live in a nice place, everything is kept very clean and we're so much better off than my mom, my mom sits in her room, does nothing, lets her son run wild, stays up till all hours of the night and does nothing productive.
TG and I spent all day yesterday with his sister and niece. Planting flowers, doing yard work, cleaning up, BBQing out, while my mom was out buying ammo for my brother and his friend D to go shooting, when D is on medications for anger issues and has frequently talked about shooting and killing his parents.
Either way, I am an adult, a real adult now, so why does she think it is ok to step in, lie to grandmother so she can STILL try to control me? I've done all I am supposed to do and yet she still feels like she has any right at all to try and control me still. She seriously isn't a happy person unless she is making someone else miserable.
I am at a loss of what to do except cut off all contact for awhile and not speak to her whatsoever and tell my grandmother to not speak to my mom about me anymore and if my mom calls with her little game playing to hang up and not listen to it.
My mom is a liar, a mooch, a manipulator and she isn't happy unless she is dragging someone else down.
TG pretty much refuses to go over to my mom's house because he hates seeing what she does and how miserable it makes me, he told me he can't stand to see me upset over what she does to me.
I don't know how to handle this at all.
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Quote:Originally Posted by eastwesteastagain
If that's true, about having no energy, seriously think about putting off having kids for a long while. Six hours a night and waking at 6am will seem like you had a weekend at a luxury resort after kids.
Also, dude, if you have trouble finding a dollar for your change of address paperwork, rethink that good financial planning statement on your earlier blog entry.
It's just been really really hectic.
Getting up at 6am everyday m-su, not getting to bed until like 10pm or later, sometimes 1am or so, he isn't as tired as I am since I drive to work Sa and Su and he sleeps till about 8 or so those days and he gets his weekend.
But once things settle down a little and if I get this job I am going for we'll work the same hours, he'll be off work sa and sun and i'll be off su and mo and he'll work 8-5 and I'll work 9-6 and we'll both be getting home at a reasonable time, eating dinner, relaxing and going to bed by 10pm and getting enough sleep.
And we don't plan on kids for awhile anyways.
Some days are better than other.
During the week I can go back home after dropping him off and nap if I want to, sometimes it helps but usually I have so much to do that I can't and working 24 hours in two days takes a lot out of you too.Posted 06-03-2012 at 09:41 AM by txtqueen
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Your math is way off. If you make 11$ an hour, working 40hs a week, there is no way your income would come up to 660 EVERY week.
Hell, I make 16.50 an hour and I have been doing my line of work for awhile- please tell me that there is no way you and TG have jobbed hopped and are making more than me o_O
Quote:Originally Posted by txtqueen
He had a gap in employment from his last job to this one and their pay period runs funny so he won't get his first check till the 15th of this month.
Things have been rough and its been just my paycheck right now but I get paid the 7th and then he gets paid the next week and then I get paid the week after that and then that week after that he gets his first full check and from there on we'll never hurt for money because we'll be getting paid EVERYWEEK,
EVERY.....WEEEK! 660 my week and like 900 his week or something in that area. OH EM GEE.
But yeah just this past few weeks has been difficult but once its TWO incomes and not my 11/hr we'll be so much better off, then our financial plan will make sense but right now we have like maybe $10 till Wednesday and we need that for gas but my stuff for my laptop I think comes in wednesday so after I drop TG off after work I can go get my check since I'll be close to my main office, drive back to town, cash it and run over to the post office and see if my packages are in and just do it in store for both him and I, since he needs his done too.Posted 06-03-2012 at 09:50 AM by NEOhioBound
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I make 1760 a month before taxes.Quote:Originally Posted by NEOhioBound
Your math is way off. If you make 11$ an hour, working 40hs a week, there is no way your income would come up to 660 EVERY week.
Hell, I make 16.50 an hour and I have been doing my line of work for awhile- please tell me that there is no way you and TG have jobbed hopped and are making more than me o_O
Every TWO weeks I get a check for $663.someoddcents, its the same amount every two weeks.
With HIS job added in he gets paid the opposite weeks from me and he'll be bringing in like 2080 a month before taxes and we guess that to be about $800 or so every two weeks.
So this month on:
7th: I get $663
15th: He gets about $500 for his first check.
21st: I get $663
1st: He gets his first full check, which will be $800-900.
I get paid every other thursday and he gets paid the 1st and the 15th of every month. So
we'll be bringing in a lot a month.Posted 06-03-2012 at 10:38 AM by txtqueen
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You missed what I was saying. .
WE get paid every week.
One week my check, next week his check and it alternates.Posted 06-03-2012 at 10:40 AM by txtqueen
