Black women visiting Boston for the first time (Cambridge, Lynn: crimes, gated)

[495neighbor]

Originally Posted by Martha Anne

Oh, so you have a toy boy!

I was raised not to talk about how "hot" or attractive I was. I would have been laughed at, anyway, for being childish (which is what self praise is). It would have been a hoot - not just to my parents, but my friends, neighbors, everyone. I am over 60 and I guess that in some circles today this is considered acceptable behavior, to praise oneself. I think it is pathetic. If you don't, well, that's your problem. But then, again, you prefer a toy boy to someone your age and maturity.

And some 31 year old men are much more mature than the 60 year old guy wearing his Woodstock T-shirt trying to relive his youth.

[miu]

Originally Posted by Martha Anne

Oh, so you have a toy boy!

I was raised not to talk about how "hot" or attractive I was. I would have been laughed at, anyway, for being childish (which is what self praise is). It would have been a hoot - not just to my parents, but my friends, neighbors, everyone. I am over 60 and I guess that in some circles today this is considered acceptable behavior, to praise oneself. I think it is pathetic. If you don't, well, that's your problem. But then, again, you prefer a toy boy to someone your age and maturity.

I don't see anything wrong with having strong self-esteem. And as long as it's not constantly thrown in other peoples faces, so what?

And my boyfriend is NOT a boy toy. We have many interests in common and we were best friends first. I find men my own age are very opinionated and set in their ways. My boyfriend is wonderfully open-minded, we have great discussions because we value each others thoughts and ideas. We also actually have the same tastes in music! We love the same types of cars, and both prefer to drive stick shift. And... I also look much younger than my age... but I am Asian, a non-smoker and don't bake myself in the summertime on the beaches. The last time I attended a high school reunion I felt badly for the rest of my classmates. And before you say that it's all in my mind, it's really a fact that people age at different rates depending on their lifestyles.

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And he is indeed very mature for his age. He's not interested in going to bars with his guy friends on a weekly basis. He's not into professional sports. The Superbowl is always a non-event for us. And he finds women of his generation very annoying. He's a geeky sort who is into motorsports and is not at all attracted to clingy women who live on their iPhones, wear too much makeup, act too girly, can't drive a manual transmission and are overall poor drivers. He loves that I am a tomboy type who can help him wrench on cars and takes the perfect line on the entrance ramp from Rte. 20 onto I-95 south. Yes, there is a physical connection, but our strongest connection is through our brains.

[chipup]

It sounds like you drew attention by being fashionable, not your race. It's unusual to see women dressed up here and if they are it's a very conservative, loose fitting, low heel kinda dressed up. Especially at restaurants and out and about during the day. At nights the clubs get girls out in heels and tight dresses but its usually a young college aged crowd looking to party it up and it doesn't sound like you were in that sort of environment. You said those guys at the restaurant were leaving? They probably had a few too many and didn't realize they were staring. Or liquid courage and were mentally deciding to approach you. I also think the security guard only followed you because of your handbag. I have the same one and get security attention for it because it looks easy to drop items in unnoticed.. Chances are the security guard wouldn't know designer from Walmart anyways.

[bjimmy24]

Originally Posted by 495neighbor

And some 31 year old men are much more mature than the 60 year old guy wearing his Woodstock T-shirt trying to relive his youth.

But admit it, if you were at Woodstock and the shirt still fit, you'd still wear it. I know I would! Different strokes for different folks! Just because someone likes rock music doesn't make them immature!

[DoneWithDallas]

I think people like this just automatically assume others don't like black people, or assume that the world is out to get them because of their skin color yet they never stop and think about how they might act of come across

[thenewtexan]

Originally Posted by miu

I don't see anything wrong with having strong self-esteem. And as long as it's not constantly thrown in other peoples faces, so what?

And my boyfriend is NOT a boy toy. We have many interests in common and we were best friends first. I find men my own age are very opinionated and set in their ways. My boyfriend is wonderfully open-minded, we have great discussions because we value each others thoughts and ideas. We also actually have the same tastes in music! We love the same types of cars, and both prefer to drive stick shift. And... I also look much younger than my age... but I am Asian, a non-smoker and don't bake myself in the summertime on the beaches. The last time I attended a high school reunion I felt badly for the rest of my classmates. And before you say that it's all in my mind, it's really a fact that people age at different rates depending on their lifestyles.

Can you believe they're the same age? | Fox News

And he is indeed very mature for his age. He's not interested in going to bars with his guy friends on a weekly basis. He's not into professional sports. The Superbowl is always a non-event for us. And he finds women of his generation very annoying. He's a geeky sort who is into motorsports and is not at all attracted to clingy women who live on their iPhones, wear too much makeup, act too girly, can't drive a manual transmission and are overall poor drivers. He loves that I am a tomboy type who can help him wrench on cars and takes the perfect line on the entrance ramp from Rte. 20 onto I-95 south. Yes, there is a physical connection, but our strongest connection is through our brains.

I would rep you if I could, miu. I believe there's a lot of head scratching going on about now. I can hear it all the way from Texas.

[Bass&Catfish2008]

Originally Posted by miu

I don't see anything wrong with having strong self-esteem. And as long as it's not constantly thrown in other peoples faces, so what?

And my boyfriend is NOT a boy toy. We have many interests in common and we were best friends first. I find men my own age are very opinionated and set in their ways. My boyfriend is wonderfully open-minded, we have great discussions because we value each others thoughts and ideas. We also actually have the same tastes in music! We love the same types of cars, and both prefer to drive stick shift. And... I also look much younger than my age... but I am Asian, a non-smoker and don't bake myself in the summertime on the beaches. The last time I attended a high school reunion I felt badly for the rest of my classmates. And before you say that it's all in my mind, it's really a fact that people age at different rates depending on their lifestyles.

Can you believe they're the same age? | Fox News

And he is indeed very mature for his age. He's not interested in going to bars with his guy friends on a weekly basis. He's not into professional sports. The Superbowl is always a non-event for us. And he finds women of his generation very annoying. He's a geeky sort who is into motorsports and is not at all attracted to clingy women who live on their iPhones, wear too much makeup, act too girly, can't drive a manual transmission and are overall poor drivers. He loves that I am a tomboy type who can help him wrench on cars and takes the perfect line on the entrance ramp from Rte. 20 onto I-95 south. Yes, there is a physical connection, but our strongest connection is through our brains.

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"women . . . are overall poor drivers"
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Aren't all women poor drivers no matter where they're from? Doh!

[miu]

Originally Posted by Bass&Catfish2008

>>>>>
"women . . . are overall poor drivers"
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Aren't all women poor drivers no matter where they're from? Doh!

Actually... I've often said that I'm a potential triple threat on the roads... being an older Asian woman!!!!!
But hey, my 94 Civic Si has 401K miles on her and so far no accidents. Go figure. I must be doing something right.

[G-fused]

Sometimes, when I'm feeling like being racist, I go downtown and stare at African American people. They don't show it but I know they get the message, so thanks to the OP for confirming that my staring is working.

I also have a deep seeded dislike of very attractive, well dressed women so I stare at them too. That'll teach 'em!

My wife thinks the ballet is idiotic so she sometimes goes to a ballet and stares at the performance to get her point across.

[pennyone]

Hehehehe, thanks G-used for a quick giggle. well played! I absolutely hate a good book...so I stare and stare at it for hours, hoping that it will turn to ashes......