Would you recommend any particular areas in NorCal for a mixed race (Asian and White couple) (San Jose: middle-class, quality of life)

[rollingthers]

We are from NYC and truly tired of all the animosity, racial tensions and blatant bigotry of Manhattan. An incident yesterday (icing on the cake) made us realize that we would never want to have or raise children here. I've visited San Fran, Oakland and Berkeley on a number of occasions and really like these areas. We both have advanced degrees (in medicine and law) and jobs won't be so much of an issue. What we are looking for is quality of life: green spaces, environmentally conscious, health conscious, educated and cultured communities, within a reasonable commute to a city. It's also important to us to have a truly diverse community, not people who preach pc-isms while cringing at the thought of having someone not of their race over for dinner. Thanks so much for all of your positive input!

[bhcompy]

San Jose and Fremont are probably good places to start. I don't know specifics, but I've got plenty of friends across the spectrum in those areas and there seems to be a strong asian community there as well.

You could probably find good work in Medicine or Law either in Sunnyvale or San Jose I imagine, or up in San Fran or Oakland which is north of there

[hsw]

Just as Manhattan (and NYC region) has its own forms of segregation and overt/covert racism, SF region has many of same dynamics...wouldn't let the "liberal"/socialist posturing of region fool you...

Areas where many mixed, well-educated couples seem pleased include PaloAlto area (lots of Stanford alums tend to live/work in PA area post-grad...and Stanford Engineering and overall campus is rather cosmopolitan); some find PA itself a bit too hard-core socialist, but many of the adjacent suburbs (Atherton, Woodside, etc) are filled w/laissez-faire capitalists who tend to be indifferent/quiet about divergent social values....

SF's PacHts/PresidioHts has a fair amt of tension among the affluent....esp btwn old SF money and often newer, bigger, socially divergent SiliconValley money...some mix of intra-class, anti-Semitic, racial tensions certainly exists

Marin and many of the aspirational affluent EastBay suburbs like Orinda are about as non-cosmopolitan as any distant tract-home suburbs of Chicago or Dallas

Fremont/Cupertino tend to be middle-class Asian ghettos which are similarly non-cosmopolitan and often have less well-educated recent Asian immigrants (for past 25+yrs, over 50% of Stanford Engineering PhDs have been foreign-born, often Indian...many alums (many of whom married non-Indians) reside in LosAltosHills/Atherton area; most view SouthBay and EastBay suburbs negatively)

[ElleBebe]

I second the votes for Palo Alto and San Jose.

[gladders]

I say go to Berkeley. I went to UC Berkeley and to this day it's the most diverse, most accepting community I've ever lived in. I've lived in NYC and am currently living on Long Island.

[ormand]

There's nothing wrong with Manhattan. The racism is all in your head.

[18Montclair]

Rockridge in Oakland.

[sonarrat]

Anywhere in the Bay Area should be fine. I'm a white male and always found people of all races in the area to be very kind and accommodating. I even lived in a Filipino household in Milpitas for a while.

[rollingthers]

And Ormand knows of our experiences, coming of of Texas ... how? Someone has too much time on his/her hands. Totally unconstructive comment. By the way, if someone spits ON (big, nasty glob) you completely without provocation, and calls you a racial slur, and for this to be in a long line of incidents, it doesn't take a genius to figure out that Manhattan has some serious racial tensions.

[Hunter Wold]

Seattle Washington.

HW