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OP At some point in time in one of your threads that you posted regarding this situation, you brought up the fact that you and your wife left her kids back in NC, that is the only way posters would know there were kids in this whole equation.
OP At some point in time in one of your threads that you posted regarding this situation, you brought up the fact that you and your wife left her kids back in NC, that is the only way posters would know there were kids in this whole equation.
Someone one said that we pretty much gave her kids to her dad & left them. I defended that & said it was their OWN choice to live their dad.
Someone one said that we pretty much gave her kids to her dad & left them. I defended that & said it was their OWN choice to live their dad.
OP, you accused us of not reading all your posts and not paying attention to what you posted, it seems to me that maybe you are the one not paying attention, my point was that NOONE on C-D would have ever known that the children even existed if you hadn't brought them up. And while you didn't bring them up in this particular thread, you did mention the situation with them in another thread you posted about this issue with you mother.
The OP posted on another forum that Medicare is now paying for his Mother's hospice care, so that's good for her health situation. I guess there's no question of either of them getting a job - he also posted that he and his wife spend their "free time" researching how to handle the sale or rent of the $100,00 house and $20,000 lot his mother owns and which he'll inherit through the trust, as well as the IRA in the trust. Remember his post #89 - "The little bit my mother has is not worth the stress?" I guess it's worth it after all.
The OP posted on another forum that Medicare is now paying for his Mother's hospice care, so that's good for her health situation. I guess there's no question of either of them getting a job - he also posted that he and his wife spend their "free time" researching how to handle the sale or rent of the $100,00 house and $20,000 lot his mother owns and which he'll inherit through the trust, as well as the IRA in the trust. Remember his post #89 - "The little bit my mother has is not worth the stress?" I guess it's worth it after all.
Yes, because he has a thread on the Real Estate forum asking about how to sell the house. Shouldn't you wait until mom is at least gone?
IMHO, the wife is acting like a spoiled child. A dying woman is acting difficult? Perhaps the wife should have more compassion. After all in a few short weeks she won't have to put up with her MIL ever again.
If the wife leaves to stay with friends I do not think that the husband should desert his dying mother to go chasing after his wife. If that is the end of the marriage than it was meant to be.
I can understand your basic reasoning. Unfortunately, "dying" is not a pass for his mother to treat his wife like an a--hole.
Yes, because he has a thread on the Real Estate forum asking about how to sell the house. Shouldn't you wait until mom is at least gone?
Someone is getting ahead of themselves.
So getting my ducks in order is a bad thing? I guess in the same token having a will is a bad thing.
The fact that Bungalove went & followed me to another part of the forum & harassed me is Ok? To the point where myself & someone had to report her to her to stop!!!! And NOW she keeps talking about my wife's kids like they are her own! So the personal attacks are ok with some of you?? WOW!
One last thing I NEVER said that we spend ALL of our free time worrying about what to do with the house.
but it seems to me that your wife would, at SOME point, want to move closer again to the children that she left with her abusive ex-husband. What kind of mother goes off to "care" for a MIL who despises her, as your mother does your wife; then plans to maybe move to Nebraska to get away from the MIL; then when MIL dies, just go off and travel?
Bungalove, post this in the real estate side of the forum. She needs a LIFE!
We have every right to think things though before she passes being in a emotional state when she does pass could lead to a bad decision!
So getting my ducks in order is a bad thing? I guess in the same token having a will is a bad thing.
The fact that Bungalove went & followed me to another part of the forum & harassed me is Ok? To the point where myself & someone had to report her to her to stop!!!! And NOW she keeps talking about my wife's kids like they are her own! So the personal attacks are ok with some of you?? WOW!
One last thing I NEVER said that we spend ALL of our free time worrying about what to do with the house.
but it seems to me that your wife would, at SOME point, want to move closer again to the children that she left with her abusive ex-husband. What kind of mother goes off to "care" for a MIL who despises her, as your mother does your wife; then plans to maybe move to Nebraska to get away from the MIL; then when MIL dies, just go off and travel?
Bungalove, post this in the real estate side of the forum. She needs a LIFE!
We have every right to think things though before she passes being in a emotional state when she does pass could lead to a bad decision!
OP it is not unusual when someone starts threads in C-D that cause confusion, for someone else to look at all the threads you have started to see if they can fill in the blanks. I have gone back and looked at your posts in regards to your current situation to get a more clear idea of where you are coming from. I am not stalking nor harassing you just trying to get a better idea of where you are coming from.
You post on here and ask for peoples opinions and when they give them, if it is not what you wanted to hear, then you get upset and accuse others of not reading all of your posts.
I find that if I just want to vent and really don't want others opinions, it is best to start a thread out that way, so others know you are feeling overwhelmed on that particular day. You did post in a caregiving thread, where many people have dealt with or are dealing with what you are dealing with.
Last edited by ajzjmsmom; 11-16-2015 at 06:28 AM..
OP, I did not "follow" you to the Real Estate forum; I read there daily and post frequently too. I was merely struck by the title of your thread "Have house and not sure what to do with it", which seemed a little premature. I have a full life and don't "stalk" people, but if you post enough seemingly contradictory and confusing details, I point them out. Your thread on THIS forum alone has had a number of inconsistencies, as many posters have mentioned. However, you have received good information on both forums as to actions you should consider, so just take what ideas you need to accomplish the tasks at hand and ignore the rest. Or don't post on an open forum for your life plans.
So he is looking into selling the house while she is still alive? while he is caring for her?
And this is a big deal
Sounds to me like they don't have much money. It's probably wise if anything, maybe even common sense. He has a family to support
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