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ChristieP · 05-05-2013, 09:00 AM

I agree with Squirl. While NE Tarrant is a great place to love, commuting to Richardson from here will stink. A few years ago, I had to do this for 3 weeks while I trained for a new job. I ran up $92 in tolls (which my company thankfully paid), and I put a ton of miles on my car, and used a tank of gas every 4 days. It's really not a alias tic situation to have to make this commute on a daily basis.

AsianGal · 05-05-2013, 10:33 AM

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It may be a cultural thing but for the general population we don't see any distinction between a buyer and a buyer's spouse. We usually consider all the adults in a household as "owners" with equal interest in having a suitable location. In our culture, if there are children or a committed/married couple, there is a great emphasis on both adults being able to spend as much time with the family in a relaxed frame of mind. Commuting from Colleyville to Richardson is very stressful and goes against our general sense of good planning and that is why no one has been an advocate for either Southlake or Colleyville. Irving is really borderline insane for a drive. If I were the buyer and my spouse was regularly driving to Richardson (by choice or NOT) I would never consider living on the west side of the Dallas area or anywhere in Tarrant County.

It's not a cultural thing. The buyer moved to Texas for the spouse despite buyer's family in other states.

tyanger · 05-05-2013, 11:32 AM

Wow ...

When I get home tonight, I'm going to tell my spouse how much I love her, then give her a big hug and the sincerest 'thank you' that I'm capable of.

Rakin · 05-05-2013, 11:39 AM

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When I get home tonight, I'm going to tell my spouse how much I love her, then give her a big hug and the sincerest 'thank you' that I'm capable of.

We learn as RE Agents... what is unacceptable for one couple is totally acceptable to another couple. Some people are willing to commute 90 minutes and some don't want 30 minutes.

BeanyMalone · 05-05-2013, 12:04 PM

To each, their own. [/shrug]

It sounds like the OP has the all the information that's out there. The buyers will just need to keep looking, mindful that it's a lot harder to find perfect than excellent. And not to be Dear Abby or anything, but it wouldn't surprise me if this was about other things besides the house. I really admire the realtors for doing the psychologist thing as well as so many of them do. I know my realtor had to do it with me from time to time.

AsianGal · 05-05-2013, 12:14 PM

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To each, their own. [/shrug]

It sounds like the OP has the all the information that's out there. The buyers will just need to keep looking, mindful that it's a lot harder to find perfect than excellent. And not to be Dear Abby or anything, but it wouldn't surprise me if this was about other things besides the house. I really admire the realtors for doing the psychologist thing as well as so many of them do. I know my realtor had to do it with me from time to time.

Regardless of what its about I just want them both to be happy with the choice. I agree with you that sometimes Realtors might have to deal with dueling interests.

I wanted to know what people on this board consider a desirable area which is why I posted. But I believe with all the input and all the areas now that we have checked out, a better conclusion can be made on what areas to focus on. I do wish them well in their house hunt, because I will not be the one staying there but I will visit occasionally.

Thank you all for your input, I appreciate it, as I am guessing the buyer does as well. Feel free to add to the post if you like as no decision has been made yet.

BeanyMalone · 05-05-2013, 12:19 PM

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...I just want them both to be happy with the choice...

Of course. And at the end of the day, only they know what that is.

Keepingitsimple · 05-05-2013, 12:46 PM

My sincere advice for OP would be to stay out of this complex situation. I understand that she cares about buyer but if she wants a healthy relationship with her sibling's spouse then its better to become a spectator and let two of them sort out their issues with house hunting and with marital life in general. They are adults and would live with the consequences of their decisions but any third party related only to one spouse will just earn ill will. Good relations are worth more than a bad house. just sit back, wish well and watch them learn their lesson on their own. Who gets the hold of the power steering wheel in this marriage is not as important as running the vehicle smoothly without fender benders, major accidents or a total loss, time will teach them to make compromises to live happily ... or not.

AsianGal · 05-05-2013, 01:24 PM

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My sincere advice for OP would be to stay out of this complex situation. I understand that she cares about buyer but if she wants a healthy relationship with her sibling's spouse then its better to become a spectator and let two of them sort out their issues with house hunting and with marital life in general. They are adults and would live with the consequences of their decisions but any third party related only to one spouse will just earn ill will. Good relations are worth more than a bad house. just sit back, wish well and watch them learn their lesson on their own. Who gets the hold of the power steering wheel in this marriage is not as important as running the vehicle smoothly without fender benders, major accidents or a total loss, time will teach them to make compromises to live happily ... or not.

I dont say anything to the spouse about this house buying process at all. The spouse has no idea what I think about anything. I am only involved in finding areas that are considered desirable, and that is what I relate to the buyer.

Regarding the spouse, spouse did agree on a house in Frisco because buyers parent liked it a lot. But buyers parent thought spouse liked it a lot as well and had no idea that spouse was considering buyers parents thoughts. Now buyers parent is more cautious in giving opinions. Buyer didnt get that house because neither buyer nor spouse liked it that much. Spouse's side also gives input on areas, etc.

Buyer asked me to assist in this process I think because I have found buyer housing in the past (when buyer was single) including the current one the couple live in (which was rented before their marriage). Except this time I am mostly giving advice on desirable locations. I have now provided this information so there shouldnt be any need for me to relate any more info to buyer regarding such locations. Now they can find homes with realtor and see what they like in whatever location they like.

Ultimately, its their decision.

Keepingitsimple · 05-05-2013, 01:48 PM

That's smart of you. This time around make sure that you support spouse unconditionally, these things matter to women immensely. She already made one decision to make buyer's parents happy, now its her turn even if its not the best decision. It's just a house. Her hubby is earning well, he can take small financial loss for greater good. Another thing is that both of them are buyers who will legally own it 50/50 so lets call them Mr. Buyer & Mrs. Buyer.