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mstygirl, I don't think it had to do with your weight. It sounds like he was just being a jerk, maybe even sexist. Unfortunately, I do believe weight discrimination exists and it is really sad. People are people, no matter what size. I have experienced "reverse" discrimination by having heavier people treat me poorly and make negative comments about my size. This has come from complete strangers passing me on the street, coworkers and employees at different businesses. Luckily it doesn't happen often. I've never understood any type of discimination...it just screams ignorance and lack of respect.
I do think there is weight discrimination, conversley I do think there is pretty discrimination also. How many times have you heard the whisper that "she got the job because of her looks".
For me it's about being true to myself and confident in who I am and what I do, if someone wants to perceive me incorrectly that's their problem and usually my advantage.
There is all kinds of discrimination. I've even been denied jobs for being a military spouse. Cant prove it, but it happens. Even being a mother your discriminated against.
mstygirl, I don't think it had to do with your weight. It sounds like he was just being a jerk, maybe even sexist. Unfortunately, I do believe weight discrimination exists and it is really sad. People are people, no matter what size. I have experienced "reverse" discrimination by having heavier people treat me poorly and make negative comments about my size. This has come from complete strangers passing me on the street, coworkers and employees at different businesses. Luckily it doesn't happen often. I've never understood any type of discimination...it just screams ignorance and lack of respect.
I think you're right. I've concluded that there are just a lot of jerks out there. What makes them tick? I think they are just very unhappy people. I used to live in an undesireable area and by the end of the train line it sure showed on everyone's faces. I think some people are just miserable and like to take it out on others or be one up on others. This doesn't only happen IRL, but you can see it on the Internet as well. That is why I have to step away at times as I value my blood pressure.
Having said this, the reverse discrimination you've experienced (I'm assuming you're thin) is most likely jealousy. I can't say I'd be jealous of a thin person, maybe wish I were them, but not begrudge them for being thin.
Anyway, I would rather be discriminated against for being too thin than too fat (after all, look at Hollywood!). The only place you'll see fat people who are famous is on the cover of the National Enquirer in unflattering poses in swim suits.
There is all kinds of discrimination. I've even been denied jobs for being a military spouse. Cant prove it, but it happens. Even being a mother your discriminated against.
There's another forum (can't say which) but SAHMs (stay at home moms) were just bashed by some for being SAHMs trying to get back into the workforce. Poor things. Talk about discrimination. Years ago it was perfectly acceptable to take time and raise your family and now you have to figure out what to put on a resume - do I say domestic engineer or what do I say?
And don't get me started on age discrimination. I went to a job fair. This was after they'd seen my resume and THEY invited ME. Long story short, they lied and made up a bogus excuse as to why they would not interview me. It was one of three things - my age, my weight, or both. I really pressed the issue with the company and got them to fess up it had nothing to do with the lie they told me. I threatened legal action but it's too hard to prove - any kind of discrimination and really weight isn't even recognized as such.
I do think there is weight discrimination, conversley I do think there is pretty discrimination also. How many times have you heard the whisper that "she got the job because of her looks".
For me it's about being true to myself and confident in who I am and what I do, if someone wants to perceive me incorrectly that's their problem and usually my advantage.
Hey, I'd still rather be pretty and get that whisper than not. But you're perfectly right and I've been guilty of hiring someone very pretty myself for a receptionist position.
And while I agree with your second sentence, I wish it were that simple. When you are seated in a group interview for a bank teller job and you're competing with thin 23 year olds and you're 45 and fat, I can tell you who is not getting hired - unless they want to fill a quota.
There's another forum (can't say which) but SAHMs (stay at home moms) were just bashed by some for being SAHMs trying to get back into the workforce. Poor things. Talk about discrimination. Years ago it was perfectly acceptable to take time and raise your family and now you have to figure out what to put on a resume - do I say domestic engineer or what do I say?
And don't get me started on age discrimination. I went to a job fair. This was after they'd seen my resume and THEY invited ME. Long story short, they lied and made up a bogus excuse as to why they would not interview me. It was one of three things - my age, my weight, or both. I really pressed the issue with the company and got them to fess up it had nothing to do with the lie they told me. I threatened legal action but it's too hard to prove - any kind of discrimination and really weight isn't even recognized as such.
The whole WAHM and SAHM battle has been a war for years. I wish I still had an email that gave all the fancy names of jobs that Moms do. It was awesome.
Don't you all (or am I dating myself) remember when they actually used to publicize weight requirements to be an "airline stewardess?" How is that not discrimination?
When I was growing up our next door neighbor was told straight to her face she would not be hired as she was too fat.
As for airline stewardesses, there are rational, job-related reasons for not hiring fat people. The aisles are narrow and you are having to squeeze past people continually. The more weight in the airplane (luggage and passengers) the more fuel it uses, so why would the airline want to fly your extra weight around full time?
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