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I have to wonder with the others here if perhaps the loss of your dog was very hard on your husband? I think alot of times men have a difficult time with loss and then decide they don't want to put their heart out there to be hurt again. Unlike women they tend not to talk about it so it takes a longer time to get over it.
For the last three weeks, almost every day I was at an animal hospital where all the desperate cases were sent there in South Florida. I was there to save my GSD. Waiting room was the hardest place to be at. I often sat in my car and wiped out my tears . Almost every lady was crying for their furbaby and all the husbands or dads or boyfriends were there to calm their wives, daughters and girl friends. The first day there, I saw a lady holding her white cat, crying uncontrollably. Her husband was trying to keep calm. I saw a family of five, mom and three daughters were crying and the father was the only one who remained calm to get all the paperwork done. Yesterday, I saw a tall strong white haired man walked in with his sick GSD. I was thinking that he couldn't cry because he seems to be such a strong man. He gave the dog to the vet and left. Then, I saw the oncology specialist came out and told a lady that her dog's cancer has spread. She broke down. I stood up and went to my car and saw that the tall strong man with the GSD was wiping his tears in his car. When I felt sad, I reached out to the people on this forum and all my friends. But man, they need be strong all the time.. I don't know how they do it.
In my case, my GSD's condition has improved a lot so I have mood now to write. Dashdog is right. Maybe your husband didn't want to be hurt again.
I travel with my dogs and my parakeets. I moved from FL to WV with rabbits, parakeets and 2 dogs in my car. I was raised that way. When we went on vacation as a family, we took the goldfish, the turtle, the dog, the cat, the canary - they all went with us.
I can't imagine traveling without dogs. I certainly can't imagine living alone without the security I feel of having two other sets of eyes and ears letting me know if I missed something.
Oh, not that it matters, but all Howard Johnsons allow dogs, too as do most motels right off the interstate no matter what part of the country you are traveling in.
Back to the point. Tell your husband you like having him around - - - but that you'll miss him when you find another perfect dog.
On a personal level, as a "father" to three dogs and two parakeets..... The toughest times are when these friends move on. Some say we read too much into them. Probably, but the loss of their company is painful indeed. The only time my wife has seen me shed a tear was when my aged Spaniel passed a few years back. The only time I ever saw my father shed a tear was when his Poodle had to be put down.
I don't know, maybe the blind devotion is what pulls us in. We get that from almost nothing else. That's probably what we miss most when they leave. I can't say for sure without knowing the gentleman but it very well may be he just doesn't want to face that again.
Me? I must be nuts. Everytime a pet leaves, another in need somehow finds us and there's room at the inn. Somehow fate must have determined that we can handle three and always makes sure that's how many we have. Go figure.
I don't like being dictated to. It sounds like you have a parent (your husband) child (you) relationship. I thought marriage was supposed to be about compromise and taking the other persons feeling into consideration.
It is always easier to get forgiveness than it is to get permission. If you are the one taking care of the dog, and it is not going to be a financial burden just go get the dog.
I love dogs, but my DH isn't a pet person at all. We currently have 2 dogs that I (and the kids) wanted while we have kids at home. We have had the dogs for about 10 years, (have had the kids a little longer...LOL) and their life expectancy is about 14 years or so.
I know DH will not want more dogs. He is not being selfish or inconsiderate.....he has lived with dogs that he doesn't want for the last 10 years!! The vet bills, the boarding and pet sitting when we travel, the hair etc...it is a lot considering the man doesn't like pets. I think if he can do that I can live the next (?) years without a dog and then we'll talk.
I think that is a reasonable compromise given there isn't any middle ground between having a dog and not having a dog.
I agree, I've found they talk less & shake their tails a whole lot more for me than a women.
You got that right. Animals give the ulitmate in love and loyalty and ask for so little in return.
I have a cat whose main demand is that I sit in such a way that I am leaning back and he can sleep around my neck. Small request really.
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