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Not saying she lied, just saying I generally don't share how much money I owe with friends.
This could be generational. I know details about some of my friends' debts, including student loan debt. I have one or two friends I'd share that information with. Obviously most people don't announce it to the world, but, well, some do, LOL, and many will share with a couple of close friends.
This could be generational. I know details about some of my friends' debts, including student loan debt. I have one or two friends I'd share that information with. Obviously most people don't announce it to the world, but, well, some do, LOL, and many will share with a couple of close friends.
I don't think I'm *that* much older than you! I don't think my kids talk about their debts either, not even with us.
I don't think I'm *that* much older than you! I don't think my kids talk about their debts either, not even with us.
I could be confusing you with someone else. I thought you were retired... I could totally be wrong. I'm in my early 40s, an Xennial. I will generally talk to my parents and siblings (and internet strangers) about my debts... the car will be paid off this year and we have our mortgage. And I talk to our kids about debts because we are encouraging them not to take on any other than a mortgage. So I don't have a lot of juicy stuff to share. I don't know that my friends talk to their parents about their debts; in fact, I know for a fact that one in particular is careful not to because she knows they would disapprove, but she will talk about it with me, because I don't disapprove and have no vested interest in whether or not she has debt, pays her debt, etc.
I could be confusing you with someone else. I thought you were retired... I could totally be wrong. I'm in my early 40s, an Xennial. I will generally talk to my parents and siblings (and internet strangers) about my debts... the car will be paid off this year and we have our mortgage. And I talk to our kids about debts because we are encouraging them not to take on any other than a mortgage. So I don't have a lot of juicy stuff to share. I don't know that my friends talk to their parents about their debts; in fact, I know for a fact that one in particular is careful not to because she knows they would disapprove, but she will talk about it with me, because I don't disapprove and have no vested interest in whether or not she has debt, pays her debt, etc.
OK, you're younger than I thought. Anyway, I have no idea what my kids' mortgage is, what they owe on their car loans (one I think is paid off), what they have paid for their home improvements, etc. I seriously doubt anyone else other than them knows, either. I do know what my daughter's student loans are, but I doubt she talks to her friends about it. And I do find it offensive to hear, "Oh, it's just because you're older".
I'm sorry to have offended you. I was going to backtrack and say "I didn't say it was because you're older; I said it's generational," but I realize that that's basically just saying it's because you're older. :blush:
I do believe that attitudes about money have changed in the last few generations, though. It could just be my experience, but my friends and I routinely discuss things like how much we paid for a car, we talked about home prices when we were in the house-shopping stages, what the estimates were for new flooring or a backyard fence or a new cabinets. My brothers and I discuss it with each other, but my parents never offer up that type of info. I don't know what they paid for their last car or how much it cost them to get the basement finished. I think some topics have traditionally been considered "uncouth" but the younger generations have less "couth" anyway and so we will talk about money more than our parents. Consider also that you can easily find out how much someone paid for a home by looking it up on Zillow or similar. You can find someone's living room set on the website if you know where they got it, and you can even figure out how much their car cost, give or take. So I think people just aren't as secretive anymore because the information is out there anyway.
My kids are Gen Z and are very open about sex and drugs -- way more open than I ever was or would be with my own parents! I fully realize it's generational and that I'm uncomfortable simply because I was not raised to think that that was appropriate dinner table conversation. I think it's the same thing, just a different topic. (And I also know that not all teens are like that with their parents, which is also similar to the money thing... not all families have the same quirks!)
I'm sorry to have offended you. I was going to backtrack and say "I didn't say it was because you're older; I said it's generational," but I realize that that's basically just saying it's because you're older. :blush:
I do believe that attitudes about money have changed in the last few generations, though. It could just be my experience, but my friends and I routinely discuss things like how much we paid for a car, we talked about home prices when we were in the house-shopping stages, what the estimates were for new flooring or a backyard fence or a new cabinets. My brothers and I discuss it with each other, but my parents never offer up that type of info. I don't know what they paid for their last car or how much it cost them to get the basement finished. I think some topics have traditionally been considered "uncouth" but the younger generations have less "couth" anyway and so we will talk about money more than our parents. Consider also that you can easily find out how much someone paid for a home by looking it up on Zillow or similar. You can find someone's living room set on the website if you know where they got it, and you can even figure out how much their car cost, give or take. So I think people just aren't as secretive anymore because the information is out there anyway.
My kids are Gen Z and are very open about sex and drugs -- way more open than I ever was or would be with my own parents! I fully realize it's generational and that I'm uncomfortable simply because I was not raised to think that that was appropriate dinner table conversation. I think it's the same thing, just a different topic. (And I also know that not all teens are like that with their parents, which is also similar to the money thing... not all families have the same quirks!)
My younger daughter once said something about how discussing people's sex lives was still taboo. I said, "fine, let's talk about yours!" End of conversation about people's sex lives.
I would be happy with Cs if my kid was struggling and that was the best they can do but my kid was awarded the presidents acknowledgment award for good grades throughout elementary school. It wasn’t just As (well in elementary school Es) but 100s on pretty much everything. The kid is in middle school now doing high school work and still on honor roll so because I know this is achievable I expect nothing less.
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