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When I stayed in Europe before Switzerland signed the Schengen agreement, I crossed the Swiss-German border by train countless times. Since I'm Asian, I've had the border guards come through the train and ignore everyone except for me. And I show them my US passport plus temporary residency permit and they waltz off in less than 1 minute.
This story to me confirms underlying racial nuances. From what I know about your font, you had several kids with a black guy & from this story I assume that was your first marriage. If I'm getting this right cops come to the house, see a black guy & ask YOU if you are okay. Years later, you are with a white guy, they don't ask you if you are okay. Does that not say the cops trusted you in the hands of the white guy & not in the hands of the black guy? If both men were the same race then I apologize, my theory does not hold. If not, come on people!
What, white guys don't beat their wives? What's your point?
I don't agree at all! German women are known to be very strong willed, straight forward and usually wear the pants in a relationship. The "typical US American guy" is way more macho than 85% of the German men. I would even go that far to call them soft.
The most macho man I've ever met is my husband. And he's from Texas.
I agree with you about German women - not that they necessarily wear the pants in the family, but that they are strong willed and straight forward (good for them, by the way). I'm talking more about aspects of the culture such as law enforcement, and traditional gender roles. I'm not even saying this necessarily as a criticism, but it has been my experience (I lived in Germany for several years).
Let me put it this way - the story didn't surprise me at all - and like I said, I think it had less to do with race and more to do with deferring to the MAN rather than the WOMAN in the relationship. "The man said everything was OK so I guess it is." That's what struck me in the story - and it rang true with my experiences in Germany. It didn't strike me as at all out of character with the place, for the polizei to take the word of the man in the situation and just wander off.
The reason why I lodged a complaint about a similar experience (in Texas ) was because it was so weird and out of character with my nearly 50 years of living in the US. I thought, "Uh -UHuh....no you DI-INT!"
Germans are traditionalists and it was appropriate for him to address the man.
What Germans are doesn't matter. What matters is what police are trained to do in such a situation. Aside from addressing the man, the officer should have asked the woman if she was alright.
Let me put it this way - the story didn't surprise me at all - and like I said, I think it had less to do with race and more to do with deferring to the MAN rather than the WOMAN in the relationship. "The man said everything was OK so I guess it is." That's what struck me in the story - and it rang true with my experiences in Germany. It didn't strike me as at all out of character with the place, for the polizei to take the word of the man in the situation and just wander off.
What, white guys don't beat their wives? What's your point?
Of course in real life they do but in the mind of a racist cop the colored person is always the bad guy.
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What's your point?
German women are known to be very strong willed, straight forward and usually wear the pants in a relationship. The "typical US American guy" is way more macho than 85% of the German men. I would even go that far to call them soft. 
