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Sometimes I find I have to remind myself that while I absolutely love my parents and value their opinions, I'm going to be 30 and need to make decisions based on what I think is best for me.
We experienced no hostility. Our family had all moved away, so it was just us. Our friends were surprised--even uncomprehending. But we knew what we wanted. We had a few questions about things. Our move was a great adventure for us. I am so glad we did it.
Whether it was from your family, friends, colleagues, etc- did you come across any opposition or downright hostility when you moved? If you did, how did you handle it?
Depending on what exactly the reaction is, opposition may be a compliment to the mover (which I'm surprised hasn't been brought up yet). After all, if your family, friends, colleagues, etc. are happy to see you move, they will likely react in relief, so it's expected that if you're like, there will be disappointment. What you wouldn't want to see would be your neighbors throwing a party that you're moving, and the focus is on "thank goodness he's gone" rather than "we'll miss you and we want to celebrate the time we had together."
Looking at it from the other person's perspective here's a fine line between showing disappointed that someone they like is moving away and being invasive about something that the mover makes a personal decision on.
Whether it was from your family, friends, colleagues, etc- did you come across any opposition or downright hostility when you moved? If you did, how did you handle it?
I had a few snide comments from various people. My problem is that when I've moved my parents' IQS drop about 50 points in the weeks leading up to a move. The questions they ask are moronic. Once I get moved their IQS are restored.
My parents are Mr. and Mrs. Play-It-Safe. They mean well, but unfortunately they come off as very discouraging when I try to embark on new adventures. So when I told them I was moving to Seattle in 2012 with no job lined up and not social network out there, my parents tried to convince me that I would end up homeless or dead.
Well, I moved there and ended up struggling for sure. But not homeless.
For the move I'm planning now (Chicago to Alaska) I got a lot of negativity from former co-workers, but all my friends and family who know me have been supportive. Most of the negativity I've gotten has been from people who have lived their entire lives in Chicago and can't imagine moving anywhere, let alone somewhere as far and desolate as Alaska, but I grew up in a military family so I'm really used to moving.
I pretty much handle it by just explaining that the move is well thought out and we made the decision consciously. If I still meet resistance I explain some of the new things I am looking forward to, and if I still get resistance after that I just brush them off. My life, my decision, not yours.
Whether it was from your family, friends, colleagues, etc- did you come across any opposition or downright hostility when you moved? If you did, how did you handle it?
When I moved to NYC after college my parents were so opposed they were furious, and wished me all the worst luck possible. And they crowed that I would be calling them begging to come back within two weeks.
It's your life and only you can live it. My family was a military family used to moving....never a big deal.
When we left Baltimore where my husbands family lives, you can't even imagine the scene...no they did not take it well, especially his Mother. And Brother. (father in law was good though.)
Had a lot of naysayers when I decided to move out of state due to no opportunities for good employment; friends and family included. Not a single one of them said a word about the fact that they'd miss me, just must have thought I wouldn't succeed. Now I make more than nearly everyone I know that has a college degree (I don't, but employer will pay for 75% of one) and still only work 40 hours a week.
Don't ever let anyone bring you down.
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