Do strangers talk to you in your part of the country? How do you feel about it? (fit in, home)
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I have always attracted people who want to talk....
Sometimes too much, lol
I'm cool with talking but people like to tell me their life stories,
even people who I never met before.....
I just had a client who lives in Boston.....
He told me that in Boston people don't talk at all to each other-
It's a very cold environment, very impersonal......
It happens more here in Yakima than any of the big cities I have lived in. I am somewhat socially isolated so I enjoy this. It is fulfilling to me on some level.
In Boston, people have their heads down in their phone AT ALL TIMES in public. God forbid you make eye contact with a scary stranger under any circumstance, let alone voluntarily say something to them.
It's not about the technology. It's always been this way on public transit.
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Originally Posted by Katarina Witt
In Pittsburgh and Albany, NY, people are fairly chatty in the stores and other public places. Someone will ask you your opinion of the clothes they're trying on and the like.
Pittsburgh's chattier than was used to, but not to an extreme extent. My general experience is people might say hi to you if they pass by you on the street, but that's typically about it. I take transit to work pretty regularly, and I'd say someone I don't know only strikes up a conversation with me a few times per year.
Yes. I live in Miami so there's a lot of tourists, and they aren't asking for money or any sort, but just like talking to you and see where you from, if you know of a good place to get drinks or food, etc.
It's not about the technology. It's always been this way on public transit.
Pittsburgh's chattier than was used to, but not to an extreme extent. My general experience is people might say hi to you if they pass by you on the street, but that's typically about it. I take transit to work pretty regularly, and I'd say someone I don't know only strikes up a conversation with me a few times per year.
I do love that picture. It shows that cell phones haven't been the ruination of life as we know it. You also once posted a picture of a guy reading the paper while getting his shoes shined, which made me feel better about looking at my phone while getting a pedicure.
In re: Pittsburgh, I meant more in the stores and while waiting in line somewhere.
It's not about the technology. It's always been this way on public transit.
Pittsburgh's chattier than was used to, but not to an extreme extent. My general experience is people might say hi to you if they pass by you on the street, but that's typically about it. I take transit to work pretty regularly, and I'd say someone I don't know only strikes up a conversation with me a few times per year.
There is a difference between reading something in a paper or book vs smart phone.
First, the smart phone is frequently used for communicating with others, whereas books/newspapers are not. You are more immersed during communication. The phones often times are used for music, adding a second later of detachment. I don't see any headphones in that picture.
I read on the bus and train all the time. I am much more aware of the world than those on the phones though.
Think they're not the same? Think I'm exaggerating? Ok- how often did people used to carry newspapers at all times and make sure they were face up on the table when having dinner with friends? Or how often did people used to always have a book open when ordering a coffee? Phones make it so easy to detach, much easier than any other form of historical distraction, so people do it more.
I'm from that section of the country where we talk to strangers. I always talk to the person in any line I'm in. If I meet someone at the walking track, I always ash "how you doing today?" If they ask it first, I always reply, "fine, how bout you".
I always talk to the cashier at Walmart, they enjoy it and it shortens their day.
I've never had anyone tell me I'm being noisy and to buzz off. If they did, I would just say "Bless your heart" and I'm not . proselytizing.
There is a difference between reading something in a paper or book vs smart phone.
First, the smart phone is frequently used for communicating with others, whereas books/newspapers are not. You are more immersed during communication. The phones often times are used for music, adding a second later of detachment. I don't see any headphones in that picture.
I read on the bus and train all the time. I am much more aware of the world than those on the phones though.
Think they're not the same? Think I'm exaggerating? Ok- how often did people used to carry newspapers at all times and make sure they were face up on the table when having dinner with friends? Or how often did people used to always have a book open when ordering a coffee? Phones make it so easy to detach, much easier than any other form of historical distraction, so people do it more.
Oh please. Only the distraction has changed. Your examples are examples of rudeness, have nothing to do with the specific instrument of rudeness (book, newspaper).
Oh please. Only the distraction has changed. Your examples are examples of rudeness, have nothing to do with the specific instrument of rudeness (book, newspaper).
My point is that phones encourage this by their nature.
You fundamentally missed my point completely (no surprise ). The point was that NOBODY does those things. Why? Because those things are not phones. Phones lead people to detach. Are you disagreeing with that? The rudeness level is much higher with phones. The instrument makes a difference.
Geez try again.
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