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Everyone is both extraverted and introverted to a degree. People that tend to heavily identify with being introverted typically are using that as a smokescreen to hide or justify their anti-social/misanthropic nature.
When psychologists discuss introversion/extroversion, they mean something a little different from whether someone is shy or not. Basically, it's about whether you prefer to spend time alone or with other people. Obviously if you're from a rural Midwestern area you're not going to speak to many strangers over the course of the day, but you're less likely to be the kind of person who just prefers to keep to themselves reading a book or something versus going out to a social event.
I know what extroversion means and I know what the Upper Midwest is like because it's where I live. People here keep to themselves first and foremost, and then their small, tight-knit group of friends or family. A lot of people in the rural areas love not having tons of people around.
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Originally Posted by eschaton
I presume that the large number of transplants from the Northeast has made Virginia, and to a lesser extent North Carolina, more introverted than the rest of the south. By my standards both regions of the country seem very outgoing though, insofar as complete strangers come up to you and initiate conversation. It's never stopped seeming weird to me.
This logic doesn't work because, for example, Florida has more Northeastern transplants than North Carolina does yet it's showing as dark blue/extroverted.
Not trying to argue with you because it's not your map but let's be honest, it just looks off.
Last edited by LeTraveler; 01-28-2019 at 10:43 AM..
I know what extroversion means and I know what the Upper Midwest is like because it's where I live. People here keep to themselves first and foremost, and then their small, tight-knit group of friends or family. A lot of people in the rural areas love not having tons of people around.
This logic doesn't work because, for example, Florida has more Northeastern transplants than North Carolina does yet it's showing as dark blue/extroverted.
Not trying to argue with you because it's not your map but let's be honest, it just looks off.
Yeah, I'm somewhat skeptical, myself. Would have to hear more about the methodology used, which might be available in conjunction with the second map, given the 'roll over for more information'. Both maps are pretty similar, however, which doesn't suggest utter randomness in regards to the thinking behind them. Intuitively I tend to agree with your assessments, though....
Stay away from small towns since everybody's all up your business there.
Either pick:
1. An ultra-big city (since most ppl don't try or care to talk to you).
Or
2. The complete middle of knowhere since obviously nobody will be around.
I agree that it's pretty easy to avoid interaction with people in a big city on a day to day basis. You'll see more people for sure. But you'll have little to nothing to do with them if you don't care to -- sometimes not even as much as saying "Good morning". And most big city folk will be too busy with their own lives to care much, except maybe to grumble to themselves that you're rude. May sound contradictory, but if you're shy you might do best in the dense high-rise neighborhoods of NYC, Chicago, DC, San Francisco, Boston, etc.
For a shy person who wants to make friends, don't live somewhere where the people are shy. Live somewhere where there are more extroverts so you don't feel shy. The PNW has a ton of introverts and shy people. California is the opposite. There are tons of extroverted people such as extroverted skateboarders there. I am shy and whenever I visit my cousin's friends in California, they are so extroverted that I never feel shy around them.
For a shy person who wants to make friends, don't live somewhere where the people are shy. Live somewhere where there are more extroverts so you don't feel shy. The PNW has a ton of introverts and shy people. California is the opposite. There are tons of extroverted people such as extroverted skateboarders there. I am shy and whenever I visit my cousin's friends in California, they are so extroverted that I never feel shy around them.
So you met some skateboarders that were outgoing and now the entire state of California is considered extroverted?
Have you lived in the PNW? I have. It's not any more or less introverted than other parts of the country.
Every single person is different and it has very little to do with where you live.
So you met some skateboarders that were outgoing and now the entire state of California is considered extroverted?
Have you lived in the PNW? I have. It's not any more or less introverted than other parts of the country.
Every single person is different and it has very little to do with where you live.
If you buy into the maps that eschaton posted on page two of this thread, you'll see there's something to the description of the PNW as being 'full of shy people'...or at least more than average.
I agree that it's pretty easy to avoid interaction with people in a big city on a day to day basis. You'll see more people for sure. But you'll have little to nothing to do with them if you don't care to -- sometimes not even as much as saying "Good morning". And most big city folk will be too busy with their own lives to care much, except maybe to grumble to themselves that you're rude. May sound contradictory, but if you're shy you might do best in the dense high-rise neighborhoods of NYC, Chicago, DC, San Francisco, Boston, etc.
Yes, this has been my experience. I consider myself shy, and I feel far more comfortable in a big city. You can go about your business with nobody caring whether you're shy or outgoing.
I think this is about right. However, most States have a nice combination of shy and outgoing...such is life.
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