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I had someone close to me die from an overdose. Of course I was sad and mourning, but relief was a feeling that surprised me, I felt incredibly light and relieved of a life-long duty.
I had someone close to me die from an overdose. Of course I was sad and mourning, but relief was a feeling that surprised me, I felt incredibly light and relieved of a life-long duty.
How thoughtful of them to let you off the hook like that.
I feel sad for their wasted lives, sad for their families and friends, who are suffering with grief, helplessness, guilt and regret.
I feel angry at the stigma we as a society place on mental illness and its treatment. I am angry at the "pull yourself up by the bootstraps" mentality that so many people seem to have about addiction and mental health.
One of my best friends was a severe alcoholic and eventually became a drug addict. He killed himself on 1-1-2002. I knew him since we were kids so of course I was sad about it. Wished I'd realized what terrible shape he was in and what he had planned to do. Thought for a long time that maybe there was something I could have done to stop him. Pretty sure now that there wasn't.
For all the rest that go due to drugs, I don't know them so I really don't give them much thought.
How thoughtful of them to let you off the hook like that.
Why would you fault someone for being honest? Unless you have been on the caregiving end or a very close relative to someone who has caused never-ending worry (due to addiction, very bad health, poor life choices, or whatever), I don't think you should judge others for feeling relieved when that constant worry and/or caregiving ends -- even if that end was due to death.
If you HAVE been through it, though, Bonnie Jean, and you still maintained your compassion and you felt great sorrow when that person died, no matter how much pain he or she caused you, then you DO have my sincere admiration.
Last edited by katharsis; 01-05-2016 at 03:24 PM..
I grew up with an alcoholic father who died when I was 9from cirrhosis. I didn't know him so I didn't care. My mom then married another alcoholic except he was a functioning alcoholic where my dad was not. I married an alcoholic and we began our journey of the pain when he didn't come home and then when he did because it was like walking on egg shells. Oh I was a total enabler, I raised my kids to participate in the same sick behavior. When husband would come home the kids and I would look at each other and we had a head nod thing going whether we thought he had been drinking. The sickness was real. Eventually I woke up when my then 18 year old son said to me are you going to raise the baby the same way to tolerate dad's drinking. (we had a surprise baby at that point) I changed from that day on and eventually moved out and he got help. We had been down that road of him getting help many times but I had never moved out. We were separated for a year and worked on our own issues today we have been married for just over 30 years. But addiction wasn't done with my family my sister over dosed in 2012 on hydrocodone. I tried for so many years to help her. Unless people want help you can not make them get it. Losing my sister was and is devastating I miss her every day. I truly believe that once she died the cancer in my mom's body started growing rapidly because of her grief to losing her daughter.
So when I hear of people who have died from addiction I am sad for the life lost that could have been so much more if addiction hadn't reared its ugly head and I feel sad for the families whose lives will forever be changed. It makes me sick that so many who suffer from addiction can't or won't get help and even if they do get help more times than not they return to what was comfortable.
... Being from Tennessee, addiction is basically the expectation,
This is what seems to me the big change with time. When I was high-school age there were no marijuana users, and pill use was unknown. Only sick and old persons took lots of pills. If one were to think about a marijuana user, they would imagine a fiend, much like a bogyman or a vampire, well perhaps.
The point ois how can anyone not regard the time I was young highly? I know there were other issues, which are better today, but the drug issue has so much changed, I still have trouble imagining it.
I am so sorry for your friend, and I think being expected to ingest drugs is a pity.
This is what seems to me the big change with time. When I was high-school age there were no marijuana users, and pill use was unknown. Only sick and old persons took lots of pills. If one were to think about a marijuana user, they would imagine a fiend, much like a bogyman or a vampire, well perhaps.
The point ois how can anyone not regard the time I was young highly? I know there were other issues, which are better today, but the drug issue has so much changed, I still have trouble imagining it.
I am so sorry for your friend, and I think being expected to ingest drugs is a pity.
When did you come of age? I grew up in the 70's, graduated 1980, and everyone smoked pot then as well as anything else we could get our hands on. You'd go to concerts then and people would be handing out pills and joints, they'd be passed along down the aisles.
When did you come of age? I grew up in the 70's, graduated 1980, and everyone smoked pot then as well as anything else we could get our hands on. You'd go to concerts then and people would be handing out pills and joints, they'd be passed along down the aisles.
Which is quite interesting because no one I know during those times OD'd on anything. It was a right of passage then you grow up and go on with life. Now, everyone is a victim.
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