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Oh, gerania, some of us know that feeling far too well. It sure hurts. All anchors are gone. There is no one to care about us. BUT...you may be surprised to learn that people you have never met in person, really DO care about you. Take a look at a thread about me. I think it's called "Tami is fine!" That will show you how kind and considerate the people here can be. I, myself, was amazed and so grateful. It really did my heart good.
I know it's not the "same" but since we can not ever have what we once had, it's a pretty good substitute.
Thank you. My brother died 15 years ago on the 10th and my husband's birthday was 13 December. My nephew called yesterday, and while he didn't mention anyone right away, we did talk about all of the people we'd lost. We also talked about things which have happened since we'd last seen each other or spoken and had a few laughs. That really helped.
I want to feel, to others, like a pair of well worn shoes. I don't want to have to be on guard, worrying about whether nor not I've said or done the right thing.
I ran into an old friend in June. We saw each other half a dozen times over the summer... and then she didn't return my last two calls. It's not all about me. She may be very busy or experiencing problems. It just reminded me that I am no one's primary consideration.
Gerania...I'm glad you talked to your nephew and had a good conversation...My "main friend" in the area has been in the hospital for 15 days now and I'm not sure if he'll ever fully recover...He's been my "rock." (And vica-versa.)...I sure feel alone right now and scared. Don't want to lose my one and only good friend...I don't want to give up on him. Go to see him in the hospital every day...All of my other close friends live far away. (Only have a few friends.) And, they are all dealing with issues in their own lives right now so we don't talk very often.
Oh, gerania, some of us know that feeling far too well. It sure hurts. All anchors are gone. There is no one to care about us. BUT...you may be surprised to learn that people you have never met in person, really DO care about you. Take a look at a thread about me. I think it's called "Tami is fine!" That will show you how kind and considerate the people here can be. I, myself, was amazed and so grateful. It really did my heart good.
I know it's not the "same" but since we can not ever have what we once had, it's a pretty good substitute.
None of my loved ones died during the holidays.. My younger son had his 2nd brain surgery in November. (Three years ago.) And, he didn't gain full consciousness until right before Christmas...I worried that he might never come "back." But, he finally did...Sadly, he ended-up dying the following September. (Due to complications.).. I sure hope my friend Willie can "recover." He goes in and out of consciousness at times like my son did. Kind of spooky. Can't help worrying about him...But, I want to stay strong and positive. (For Willie and myself!)
Whew! I'm taking my first day off in 16 days. My friend is starting to do better and I could sure use a break...It will be nice to stay home for a change. Hope I don't end-up feeling guilty for not going down to the hospital. (To see my friend.) Really need a break and some time to myself...Life has been a "blur" since I found my friend laying unconscious in his house the day after Thanksgiving...I'm sure glad he's doing better now. I need to catch my breath and rest for a little while. Need to "recharge!"
Thank you. My brother died 15 years ago on the 10th and my husband's birthday was 13 December. My nephew called yesterday, and while he didn't mention anyone right away, we did talk about all of the people we'd lost. We also talked about things which have happened since we'd last seen each other or spoken and had a few laughs. That really helped.
I want to feel, to others, like a pair of well worn shoes. I don't want to have to be on guard, worrying about whether nor not I've said or done the right thing.
I ran into an old friend in June. We saw each other half a dozen times over the summer... and then she didn't return my last two calls. It's not all about me. She may be very busy or experiencing problems. It just reminded me that I am no one's primary consideration.
Gerania: I hope you did okay yesterday. (On your husband's birthday.)...I know what you mean about not being someone else's primary consideration...I think this is why I got so spooked when my friend Willie nearly died. Willie has always kept me on his mind. (And vica-versa.)...I know my other friends care about me. But, they have a lot on their minds. They have husbands and kids and grandkids. Or jobs. They lead busy lives...Willie is the only one who has kept "tabs" on me on a regular basis.. Anyway, I can relate to what you wrote about "primary consideration."
Gerania...Hi again. OOPS! I got my dates confused. Today is the 13th. Today would have been your husband's birthday. I'll be thinking about you today and sending you positive thoughts...I've been scatter-brained lately. Worried about my friend...I really need to take a day off. Hope you do okay today. Sending you a BIG HUG across the miles!
Well today is the 14th anniversary of my mothers death, and I am doing just fine. I have been blessed with wonderful memories of a wonderful woman, and for that I am grateful.
I'm very happy that you feel that way, Pik. It does feel great not to hurt like crazy anymore, doesn't it?
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It sure hurts. All anchors are gone. There is no one to care about us. BUT...you may be surprised to learn that people you have never met in person, really DO care about you. Take a look at a thread about me. I think it's called "Tami is fine!" That will show you how kind and considerate the people here can be. I, myself, was amazed and so grateful. It really did my heart good. 
