Why not to move to New Jersey (Union: new home, living)
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And why do you insist on calling towns like Princeton, Camden, Trenton, etc.- cities? Cities usually have over 100,000 people in them.
Using your "logic" there are only four cities in New Jersey.... Elizabeth,Jersey City,Newark, & Paterson,
.....don't need to look any further than right here on city date site..
BTW...Interesting that you're still posing as if you were a NJ resident when in fact you've been out of NJ for a long time. Moved out of NJ as a young girl with your father as I recall and moved to Va? or NC was it ??, then eventually ended up in Ca. (I haven't the time or interest to pull up old posts...but I think my memory serves pretty well).
Of course everyone is free to post in any forum, but opinions have a lot more credence to them when they're posted by someone who actually has adult experience with the situations being discussed; childhood remembrances aside.
Not a personal attack...just an observation re a long time west coast resident from a much longer New Jersey resident.
Using your "logic" there are only four cities in New Jersey.... Elizabeth,Jersey City,Newark, & Paterson,
.....don't need to look any further than right here on city date site..
BTW...Interesting that you're still posing as if you were a NJ resident when in fact you've been out of NJ for a long time. Moved out of NJ as a young girl with your father as I recall and moved to Va? or NC was it ??, then eventually ended up in Ca. (I haven't the time or interest to pull up old posts...but I think my memory serves pretty well).
Of course everyone is free to post in any forum, but opinions have a lot more credence to them when they're posted by someone who actually has adult experience with the situations being discussed; childhood remembrances aside.
I was not raised by my father. He moved to the south when I was still a child. I was not raised in northern NJ and that would be the issue probably. I have lived in the northeastern part of the state ONLY as an adult. Yes I agree it is very different. But this is the NJ forum not the northern NJ forum.
If people are "posing" here they can still post but I agree that is wrong. This thread is not about my family history I don't think. What a stupid thing to bring up.
The thing is - soccer moms and yuppies are everywhere and the southern ones are in bed by 8:00pm. Most of those people have no knowledge of places like the OP probably grew up in. (assuming this is even for real)
At the end of the day- the feeling sorry for oneself just gets really old really fast. This OP has posted about "its" life before and how hard it's been. I may have been luckier to grow up in a safer non-violent type of area but I had things to deal with as well. Feeling sorry for one's self to this degree should not be an option.
It amazes me how everyone jumps on these threads and starts comparing everyplace in NJ to the south. There in NO place in the entire world like the southern U.S.- I personally think that's a good thing but others will feel differently. That's fine.
But you would compare a place like Patterson to say uh- Bridgeport or maybe Gary, IN.
Not a place like Greensboro NC.
Use common sense.
It amazes me how everyone jumps on these threads and starts comparing everyplace in NJ to the south. There in NO place in the entire world like the southern U.S.- I personally think that's a good thing but others will feel differently. That's fine.
But you would compare a place like Patterson to say uh- Bridgeport or maybe Gary, IN.
Not a place like Greensboro NC.
Use common sense.
You seem to know ever so much about PatTerson, NJ.
Exactly, it's scary. To me, you get to understand a lot about psychology in this state. Just last week, I found out somebody who i THOUGHT was a cool person even though he was just an acquaintance turned out to be a nut when I actually got to spend sometime with him. He actually scared me. In his case, I was trying to be cool, try to get him to relax but he was clearly in the zone. Talking to me nonstop for about 20 minutes why I should get involved with whatever, making these serious crazy faces, his eyes about to pop out his head at some point, it just told me to stay the hell away from him. He's probably going to end up killing somebody some day.
And that's just one of many of the crazy stories I've got involving crazy people around this area of Jersey. It seems like a lot of crazy people or people who do crazy things are out here. Even in kindergarten, I was running into these nutjobs who unfortunately, picked me to be their target of their craziness. I had teachers and students assaulting me in front of everybody in the classroom and everybody going like "who cares", turning a blind eye at what just happened. Then I'd have deal with the craziness on my block too which was in another town from that crazy school I'm talking about with people pulling knives out on you just because so and so doesn't like you and they're going to "fix you". It's hard to convince somebody that the people in a particular place aren't screwed up. There's a lot of other stories I could talk about but I'll leave that for my memoir though. The only thing I can say that I learned from spending all these years in Jersey is that the only person who really has your back is yourself. It's a dog eat dog mentality out here. It's an extreme way of looking at life but I learned that from living in Jersey though.
I agree. There is just this violent attitube around here. It's like they think that the day is not complete unless they yell at someone at least once.
Just as people in the South look forward to their sunshine, and people in Vermont look forward to their fall foliage, people in New Jersey look forward to arguments and conflict.
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