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To be fair, the OP is new (a hokie), and there is no doubt that the average person would be intimidated going from Goosebump, Oklahoma to Fordham..so let's be reasonable. And maybe the culture shock is too much...but it isn't so much a Bronx thing, but a NYC thing. You can isolate yourself to a handful of expensive communities where you can live 4 roommates to an apt and "feel safe"...and then what? Never go outside? Never get your own place? Never ride the trains?
NYC isn't for everyone, and neither is the Bronx or Brooklyn for that matter. And maybe this person doesn't feel comfortable around the social ills that are so common in this city..and that's ok. Like I said...visiting a few times isn't enough...live there for a month and do the commute and day-to-day things..and then you will know whether it is for you or not. My gut tells me that if you work downtown, that the commute would not be worth the savings..but maybe it's worth it just to be with your partner. I say try it out..and if you don't like it..you just go right back to your apt and decide on another compromise, whatever that may be.
Don't feel bad because you don't want to live around the browns/blacks...it isn't necessarily your fault....we are trained since birth to believe black/brown is bad and white is good...and in this city in particular that toxic belief seems 100% true.
LOL! A Manhattan snob from Bed-Stuy Brooklyn who's actually never lived in Manhattan? Sit down! Don't assume you know me by a forum post. Clearly you're new around here because mostly everyone knows I'm a proud Brooklyn native.
I said you "sound" like a Manhattan snob. I guess I only got the borough wrong. Pardon me. There's such a big difference between the Bronx and Brooklyn. How dare I suggest that someone consider living there or ask what makes her uncomfortable.
There are places in the Bronx people would not want to live...we got that. But to be fair, those same reasons apply to Brooklyn as well...there are places people don't want to live for quality of life/safety issues....then there are the places which are close to the city which a 'normal' person cannot afford, and then there are the places you can afford but they are way too far from the city.
To be fair, the OP is new (a hokie), and there is no doubt that the average person would be intimidated going from Goosebump, Oklahoma to Fordham..so let's be reasonable. And maybe the culture shock is too much...but it isn't so much a Bronx thing, but a NYC thing. You can isolate yourself to a handful of expensive communities where you can live 4 roommates to an apt and "feel safe"...and then what? Never go outside? Never get your own place? Never ride the trains?
NYC isn't for everyone, and neither is the Bronx or Brooklyn for that matter. And maybe this person doesn't feel comfortable around the social ills that are so common in this city..and that's ok. Like I said...visiting a few times isn't enough...live there for a month and do the commute and day-to-day things..and then you will know whether it is for you or not. My gut tells me that if you work downtown, that the commute would not be worth the savings..but maybe it's worth it just to be with your partner. I say try it out..and if you don't like it..you just go right back to your apt and decide on another compromise, whatever that may be.
Don't feel bad because you don't want to live around the browns/blacks...it isn't necessarily your fault....we are trained since birth to believe black/brown is bad and white is good...and in this city in particular that toxic belief seems 100% true.
For what its worth most of the students who live in the dorms and houses/apartment buildings around Fordham U aren't from the city either, but it's different for them because they have the university and the rest of the students. It would be pretty tough for someone like you described. I was not aware of those things. I kinda assumed the OP was a native who just didn't know alot about Da Bronx.
Actually I think city-wide, people of all classes in general are more welcoming toward the gay community than in past times. At least from what I have witnessed from my personal standpoint, around my way gay people don't get bashed. They (for the most part) are treated just like everybody else.
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Move to the Bronx. The rent is cheap in comparison to the rest of the city and the communities are extremely diverse. It may feel edgy in parts but you get used to it.
Actually I think city-wide, people of all classes in general are more welcoming toward the gay community than in past times. At least from what I have witnessed from my personal standpoint, around my way gay people don't get bashed. They (for the most part) are treated just like everybody else.
In my building in Bedford-Mosolu, the president of the coop board is gay and lives with his partner. I am gay and was happy to see that I was not the only one in the building. I feel comfortable but I don't wear my sexuality out on my sleeve. I think the OP would be fine. Ever heard of the reference to one of the Bronx's most famous alumnas, Jennifer Lopez, as Jenny from the block. I would not want to be "Mary from the block"!
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