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I'm not on my high horse. It's just odd to me that people have so few friends. I have way more than 20, and I never considered that to be unusually high. I guess I was wrong.
Younger people, in their late teens or 20s, have a lot of "friends" because they are closer to school-age, when we all made our first friends...and tend to hang out with them for another decade or so, until the demands of adult life - full-time work, marriage, family, relocation - cause them to contract their circles to those they work with, or live near.
By ages 30-45, the maturing process causes these people to understand that not everyone they play golf with or go drinking with, is a real "friend". They do learn this in time, however, by being hurt.
When you get to my age - 67 - you tend to look back on it all, and realize that very few people can be trusted with the details of your life...even if they are interested (?). I have most in common with my wife, 2 daughters, and 6 grandkids. I am friendly with neighbors that have proven trustworthy over the years. People I once worked with, not so much. I have nothing to do with "Fakebook".
I'm not on my high horse. It's just odd to me that people have so few friends. I have way more than 20, and I never considered that to be unusually high. I guess I was wrong.
I think the definition of "friends" is somewhat flexible, and could depend on for what purpose one has these friends for.
My definition of a friend, is someone that one can count upon, of which, I have a big fat zero. I don't have any for any other purpose either.
I think the definition of "friends" is somewhat flexible, and could depend on for what purpose one has these friends for.
My definition of a friend, is someone that one can count upon, of which, I have a big fat zero. I don't have any for any other purpose either.
Its tough to maintain that kind of relationship as you get older.
I will admit I rarely form any meaningful relationships with anyone who says that friends come and go but family is forever. Of course, family should come first and I wouldn't be friends with anyone who did not take care of their own. But I do value friends as well.
In my experience, it is very difficult to find people who do not have this attitude.
I'm not on my high horse. It's just odd to me that people have so few friends. I have way more than 20, and I never considered that to be unusually high. I guess I was wrong.
You are wrong.
That is way high and unusual. Good for you! The newest friend I have I've known for 23 years.
And it's not due to a lack of effort.
I'm hopeful I can add one as I am going to a baseball game Saturday night with someone new. It's been a long time since I have done something like this. I usually go alone but I'd rather not. It's just the way it is.
I'd love to get my number from the current 6 to 10. As mentioned I do not see any of them on a regular basis.
I just took a look at results of the poll and I'm amazed at how many answered 20+. I've never in my life even been close to that number. Maybe a dozen when I was in my 20s but it was a different and much better era (the 1970s) back then.
I think the definition of "friends" is somewhat flexible, and could depend on for what purpose one has these friends for.
My definition of a friend, is someone that one can count upon, of which, I have a big fat zero. I don't have any for any other purpose either.
I answered 5 to 9 using that definition; these are people who I'm not related to that I could call for a ride if my car broke down, or who would help me assemble favors for a baby shower or whatever.
Now, if the OP is asking how many people would come to my house for a party, I could easily get 50+ people to show up, but I don't think of all of them as real friends; they are fun, we hang out, but they don't know the deeper details of my life and I wouldn't expect them to drop everything to help me out of a jam. With the 6 or so people I am closer with, I think we'd do that for one another.
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