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Life is short. Don't worry about what others think ever or what is weird or not weird. If you and your parents are happy with the arrangement then that is all that matters.
I agree with that!
How about you say to them: "Some people think its weird for an adult with a salary to live at home with her parents. Like that would be an obstacle to personal growth..... Mom, Dad, what do you think?"
This will give them a chance to tell you their thinking about both the abstract concept of an adult living with parents and also their own feelings about you being there. If they believe, with some basic understanding, that you living there is a good idea then I think you should go for it if its what you want right now.
No, I don't have step siblings. And my mother was a SAHM (this was late 50's-early 70's). But the household revolved around all of us.
Personally, I think it would be a good idea for you to spread your wings a little bit and go about the job of becoming an independent adult.
I've offered to pay my own cell phone bill since like 16. That got rejected.
I offered to pay for gasoline/car maintenance/car insurance/etc. that got rejected.
I offered to pay for my own dorm stuff. That got rejected.
I offered to pay for my own clothes. That got rejected.
I recently offered to pay like 2k towards my college. That got rejected. It was a very nasty rejection.
If they don't want my money, I'm not going to offer anymore. Plus rejection has been followed by a huge speech about how much they make followed with me looking at tax return statements. I mean, if I don't have to suffer, why should I?
Offer? Why don't you just PAY for this stuff? You don't need your parents' permission to pay for any of these things.
We are a very tight family, and I never wanted my Sons to leave home, they were welcome to live there as long as they wanted. In fact, my one Son stayed until he was 28. It didn't teach them irresponsibility, they both turned out fine and are self sufficient, productive adults. They simply knew we loved them and were not kicking them to the curb because they got a little older.
I think as long as you are financially able, you should kick in a reasonable amount every month. That could go into your Parents retirement fund, or help defray their monthly living expenses now. You should also be the kind of "roommate" who is invisible. Do your own cooking, cleaning, and laundry, and generally , treat the place as if you were living in your own place.
If your friends think it is weird, get new friends or tell them to mind their own business.
well, I'm in college. I've been in college for like 3.5 years. College = not living at home. If change was going to happen, it would have happened.
You're only 21 years old. Your mother might need a bit more time and INDEPENDENCE FROM YOU to truly change. You could help by being more independent yourself.
Everything in the household tends to revolve around me.
I'm sure it does, princess. And it sounds like your parents haven't done much for you to foster the maturing process, so you probably do need to stay in the nest until you mentally mature to the point of adulthood.
I've offered to pay my own cell phone bill since like 16. That got rejected.
I offered to pay for gasoline/car maintenance/car insurance/etc. that got rejected.
I offered to pay for my own dorm stuff. That got rejected.
I offered to pay for my own clothes. That got rejected.
I recently offered to pay like 2k towards my college. That got rejected. It was a very nasty rejection.
If they don't want my money, I'm not going to offer anymore. Plus rejection has been followed by a huge speech about how much they make followed with me looking at tax return statements. I mean, if I don't have to suffer, why should I?
Ummmm.... Were you interested in any sort of independence you would have bypassed the "offer" and simply used your own money to buy what you wanted. Your "offer" was rejected because you let it be rejected. Gas stations take cash. So does Target. It was nasty? So what? Deal with it. Grown-ups deal with nasty every single day.
p.s. Living on your own while pulling down 60k a year at a desk job isn't "suffering". Since you think it is....live with your parents. People with your attitude don't do well when they're out of the nest.
Last edited by DewDropInn; 11-20-2014 at 07:15 PM..
OP, ignore the haters. There is nothing wrong or weird about living at home in order to save up for a down payment on a home. I have a married cousin who moved back into his parents 6,000 sq ft home after medical school. After living there for a few years, him and his wife (also a doctor) were able to buy their first home outright.
It would be different if you were a lazy, unemployed bum. But that obviously isn't the case..........
I'm the only child, not the last child. Everything in the household tends to revolve around me. My parents will probably sell the house when my dad retires (according to him, he'll retire in 10 years. haha). It's a good location and the house prices are probably going to keep going up, so my parents aren't willing to sell. My parents seemed pretty happy.
Well, that tells me that you really need to learn what it's like to not have the world revolve around you, rather than just crawl back into the cocoon from which you emerged.
Life is short. Don't worry about what others think ever or what is weird or not weird. If you and your parents are happy with the arrangement then that is all that matters.
^^^this.
OP, do what works for you and your family. If you are happy with the arrangement and your parents are happy with the arrangement, WHO CARES what the anonymous internet thinks?
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And it sounds like your parents haven't done much for you to foster the maturing process, so you probably do need to stay in the nest until you mentally mature to the point of adulthood.
