Would you ever forgive your friend for cheating on the man you had planned to marry? (boyfriend, female)
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happy, sorry but you will just have to live with the "aftermath" of your affair with your friends husband. leave her alone, forgive yourself. learn the lesson and move on.
happy, sorry but you will just have to live with the "aftermath" of your affair with your friends husband. leave her alone, forgive yourself. learn the lesson and move on.
keyword is financee. She wasn't married to him when the affair happened
I don't know why you keep saying that!
It was wrong to have sex with your friend's man... engaged OR married.
You wrecked their relationship.... and it sounds like you would be okay doing it again to someone else, as long as they aren't married yet.
I don't know why you keep saying that!
It was wrong to have sex with your friend's man... engaged OR married.
You wrecked their relationship.... and it sounds like you would be okay doing it again to someone else, as long as they aren't married yet.
Put yourself in her shoes and maybe you can get out of your selfish little bubble.
To answer your question. no I wouldn't do it again. I learned my lesson and the pain I caused. I was clarifying your response.
If I was in her shoes, I'd give her a 2nd chance being my friend considering I've known her since childhood and each other's families, mine & hers. Then boundaries would be set up and respected.
keyword is financee. She wasn't married to him when the affair happened
But they were COMMITTED. He was HERS. Not YOURS.
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Originally Posted by HappyFarm34
To answer your question. no I wouldn't do it again. I learned my lesson and the pain I caused. I was clarifying your response.
If I was in her shoes, I'd give her a 2nd chance being my friend considering I've known her since childhood and each other's families, mine & hers. Then boundaries would be set up and respected.
You crossed a very large line. A line that will not be forgotten.
She very likely assumed that since they were ENGAGED that boundaries WERE set! Generally, when a couple is engaged, it is understood that each is committed to the other. YOU did not respect those boundaries. She is very well justified in assuming you will not respect the boundaries SHE and her current man have set, so she has chosen to cut you out of her life. That is her choice and her right.
I'd do the same thing. So MOVE ON and DO NOT CONTACT HER.
You crossed a very large line. A line that will not be forgotten.
She very likely assumed that since they were ENGAGED that boundaries WERE set! Generally, when a couple is engaged, it is understood that each is committed to the other. YOU did not respect those boundaries. She is very well justified in assuming you will not respect the boundaries SHE and her current man have set, so she has chosen to cut you out of her life. That is her choice and her right.
I'd do the same thing. So MOVE ON and DO NOT CONTACT HER.
I asked if I could visit her just the two of us when her current man was away working or whatever and her answer was no
I asked if I could visit her just the two of us when her current man was away working or whatever and her answer was no
Well, DUH!! SHE DOES NOT WANT YOU IN HER LIFE!!!
YOU cheated with HER man.
YOU wrecked her life at that point.
YOU were the enemy.
YOU were the woman with whom her man cheated.
SHE has decided that she no longer wants you in her life.
SO MOVE ON.
WHAT IS SO HARD TO GET ABOUT THAT?
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