Would it bother you if some one shows up to your house with out calling? (introverts, roommate)
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I think it would be common courtesy to let someone know you would like to visit.
It would be somewhat uncomfortable if we have other guests visiting and someone shows up unannounced. What if the wife and I are engaged in, um, some, uh, activity at the time?
Both of us are used to living in the country, where privacy was never an issue, even though we now live in a city. We enjoy walking around in casual dress that may or may not be suitable for all audiences. In this day and age, with communication being what it is, the ability to take a minute and let someone know they are coming just doesn't seem to be that onerous a responsibility for the visiting party.
Coming to your door IS calling. To not answer your door is like not answering your phone. With that attitude, telemarketers and door-to-door salespeople can hardly make a living. Do you want them to starve or something?
No. In fact, this was very common practice and welcomed in my parents' generation (80's-90's). I'm from a different culture too, and as a whole, we are very family oriented. When I say family, I mean hundreds outside of the immediate family. My parents would always get visitors and when they came over, we would always have home made meals for our welcomed guests. These days, it seems very rare for such visits. That's why I would welcome people I know even if they came unannounced. Heck, when my baby died, I only got a text and Facebook message from friends who I once considered close to me. Yep, the new age for you. Isn't it great?
My brother decided he could drive up and be welcome any time he wanted without checking with me first. But the next weekend I had a house sitting job. I left early Friday night and came home Monday morning. My landlord came over and told me my brother had shown up and ended up sleeping in his car Friday and Saturday night before he drove back home. That was the last time my brother showed up without notice.
Your brother learned a valuable lesson. I myself am a loner so its very rare I get any company but every now & then someone comes a knocking on my door & I am friendly to them but I keep their visits short.
That said, I find drop-ins rude. It seems to imply that you can't possibly have other plans, just like last-minute invitations. It also can be awkward if you are in the middle of something important or serious - ever have a drop-in during the middle of an intervention, or when you're on the phone with a police officer trying to track down a suicidal friend? I have. Even aside from matters like that, I'd prefer to not answer the door wrapped in a towel mid-shampoo, or when I'm in the middle of serving dinner to invited guests.
That said, that's just a generalization - if the drop-in is very skilled at judging when is or isn't a good time and makes a hasty retreat if not, that's a slightly different story.
No. In fact, this was very common practice and welcomed in my parents' generation (80's-90's). I'm from a different culture too, and as a whole, we are very family oriented. When I say family, I mean hundreds outside of the immediate family. My parents would always get visitors and when they came over, we would always have home made meals for our welcomed guests. These days, it seems very rare for such visits. That's why I would welcome people I know even if they came unannounced. Heck, when my baby died, I only got a text and Facebook message from friends who I once considered close to me. Yep, the new age for you. Isn't it great?
The people can call and come over and you get the same result. If some one calls I love company if not I hate it.
it does not bother me in the least . I can get dressed quickly ,put a pot of coffee on and I always have baked goods in the house so I have something to serve my guests . my father always had something in his house to serve his guests as well and he got that from his mother who always believed in having an **** and span house and having coffee and baked goods .
You're supposed to be announced by their doorman or butler. If they're too poor to have one of those, it makes sense to phone them first, out of pity for their poverty.
While growing up living in poverty, we often did not have a phone. So what to do in that situation? Perhaps leave a note at the door with a later date and time you'll be dropping by?
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or get a real job.
