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I met this girl (I'm guy) at a new job a few months ago. Somehow we got to work together and became a little friendly. She's not your typical social nor very warm kind of girl, it's more the opposite she doesn't shy away from sarcasm. While I do not necessarily overly appreciate being sarcastic people she was also friendly enough at the same for me to form a positive opinion of her.
While we are both single, there was never really flirting going on with her nor did I consider her as someone I could be romantically interested in, not overly into her looks nor her sarcastic/passive aggressive personality. She was pretty much just a coworker I had a friendly work relationship with, nothing more nothing less.
At one point she asks me for my number, which surprised me. She would start texting me to chit chat fairly. I didn't mind talking to her. The exchanges were always flat, once I made a slightly off-color joke and she immediately put me back in place.
Fast forward, she is sent to another location of the company in the same city, and I resign. I happen to have something to do in the same building where she now works. She offers to get together for lunch right before I take care of that errand, to which I agree. Later she calls out stating a work situation happening around lunch time, and offered to get dinner instead. I replied that I couldn't as I have commitments after. She replied literally "Fine, I am disappointed but do whatever you feel like. PLEASE".
I didn't reply. Her answer really turned me off, I feel like she is emotionally black-mailing me. I don't think she is in an position to demand such things from me. What do you think?
I met this girl (I'm guy) at a new job a few months ago. Somehow we got to work together and became a little friendly. She's not your typical social nor very warm kind of girl, it's more the opposite she doesn't shy away from sarcasm. While I do not necessarily overly appreciate being sarcastic people she was also friendly enough at the same for me to form a positive opinion of her.
While we are both single, there was never really flirting going on with her nor did I consider her as someone I could be romantically interested in, not overly into her looks nor her sarcastic/passive aggressive personality. She was pretty much just a coworker I had a friendly work relationship with, nothing more nothing less.
At one point she asks me for my number, which surprised me. She would start texting me to chit chat fairly. I didn't mind talking to her. The exchanges were always flat, once I made a slightly off-color joke and she immediately put me back in place.
Fast forward, she is sent to another location of the company in the same city, and I resign. I happen to have something to do in the same building where she now works. She offers to get together for lunch right before I take care of that errand, to which I agree. Later she calls out stating a work situation happening around lunch time, and offered to get dinner instead. I replied that I couldn't as I have commitments after. She replied literally "Fine, I am disappointed but do whatever you feel like. PLEASE".
I didn't reply. Her answer really turned me off, I feel like she is emotionally black-mailing me. I don't think she is in an position to demand such things from me. What do you think?
I don't think it's nearly as dramatic as you are making it.
You said she's a smart-8ss. Her reply sounds on par.
Don't reply anymore since you don't appear to actually like her very much.
You're seeing red flags for a reason. There may be nothing wrong with her, but for whatever reason, it's putting you off. Don't ignore your spidey-senses. If you don't like her demeanor, don't bother replying. Next!
What do you mean by "emotional blackmail"? It sounds like she maybe wants to go out with you, but you don't want to go out with her. So say "no" and move on with your life.
The thing is that saying "no" to something she cancels herself triggers her to throw a fit and act pushy, sounds a little exaggerated and irrational to me.
Well, first of all, the woman in the OP is not emotionally black-mailing anyone. She likes the OP and is trying to get his attention. This woman is right up my alley, i.e. forward & to the point. Women don't always take the initiative, so when they do I think it's great (as I've mentioned in other posts). Also, this woman in the OP sounds somewhat fiesty, which I think is cool.
I stated in another thread that I don't like the idea of dating women I work with - but, in the OP's case, it sounds like they don't work together anymore. If I were the OP, I'd hit it - but, to each their own.
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Originally Posted by cis_love
she sounds rude. i hate it when people use sarcasm as a front for rudeness. i'd totally ignore and delete her.
Sometimes women (and men) don't know how to show their interest that easily. I do agree it wasn't a good idea on her part to have responded the way she did to the OP re: the dinner, especially since she cancelled the lunch. However, again, she's very direct.
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Originally Posted by wpme
Here is some advice from a sarcastic female, still waters run deep, go where few men have ventured if you want some real excitement
Agreed!
Last edited by The Big Lebowski Dude; 11-18-2015 at 06:38 PM..
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