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You should let him stay with you for a few weeks. You need to give him rules when it come to cleaning up his own mess, cooking, buying his own foods, and having guest over. You tell him that he need to start looking for his own apartment right away and not mooched around all day. I had a bad experiences with letting a person staying at my house temporary. He let his girlfriend stay at the house 4 to 5 nights a week without paying rent. He had nasty mess in his room that he didn't cleaned up. I had to clean it up after it started to stink up. His girlfriend was doing the same thing and I told her to leave. I wasn't going to be a maid after two lazy moochers. If you put some rules and boundaries in this roommate living situation, then you wouldn't have any problems like I did.
Does he have the additional funds to pay for new housing?
I would take him in, absolutely. I wouldn't turn away a sibling in need just so I could fool around with a boyfriend. Why can't you use the boyfriend's place? Make it very clear that it has to be temporary, which is all he's asked for.
This!
Give him a very specific date he needs to be out?
Oh boy this is a tough one. Yes you love your brother, yet it's inconvenient for you to help him. Right now your needs are more important then his. It is indeed a difficult situation. I remember living in a tiny one bedroom apartment in my 20's when my friend came to me and said that her and her husband and two kids were about to be homeless. They were living with his brother, wife and three kids and were getting kicked out. I lived alone and worked two jobs and totally enjoyed my privacy in my tiny piece of heaven that let me escape the dysfunctional alcoholics I was raised with. Hmmm what to do? My friends husband was also an alcoholic. Well I invited them to live with me. They were both working by this time and they stayed with me for about 4 months. It was very difficult but we loved each other enough to make it work and we are still friends today over 30 years later. But that's just me. You have to do what's best for you. Continue on a selfish path, or help someone you love in need? Both choices have consequences.
Usually I would be on the OPs side...but it just seems selfish and...not cool. I mean, you would need to put down boundaries how long he stayed and stuff like being quiet and out of the way. I don't know, I hope the shoe isn't on the other foot and he gives you the boot when you need him.
Oh boy this is a tough one. Yes you love your brother, yet it's inconvenient for you to help him. Right now your needs are more important then his. It is indeed a difficult situation. I remember living in a tiny one bedroom apartment in my 20's when my friend came to me and said that her and her husband and two kids were about to be homeless. They were living with his brother, wife and three kids and were getting kicked out. I lived alone and worked two jobs and totally enjoyed my privacy in my tiny piece of heaven that let me escape the dysfunctional alcoholics I was raised with. Hmmm what to do? My friends husband was also an alcoholic. Well I invited them to live with me. They were both working by this time and they stayed with me for about 4 months. It was very difficult but we loved each other enough to make it work and we are still friends today over 30 years later. But that's just me. You have to do what's best for you. Continue on a selfish path, or help someone you love in need? Both choices have consequences.
Her needs of getting laid are more important than her brother not being homeless until he figures out what to do? I don't think so.
This thread is probably fake anyway as several posters have pointed out.
Regardless, you sometimes in life have to put yourself on the back burner for awhile for other people, especially when they're family.
I think what you did was great, I also think staying on the selfish path in life has much worse consequences than those who help people.
The selfish ones usually find themselves alone and wonder what the hell happened.
Her needs of getting laid are more important than her brother not being homeless until he figures out what to do? I don't think so.
This thread is probably fake anyway as several posters have pointed out.
Regardless, you sometimes in life have to put yourself on the back burner for awhile for other people, especially when they're family.
I think what you did was great, I also think staying on the selfish path in life has much worse consequences than those who help people.
The selfish ones usually find themselves alone and wonder what the hell happened.
Yep.... Has the OP come back yet and respond? Nothing wrong with lending a hand when someone down on their luck with good intentions
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Sounds like they do not have a truly close relationship.
